Feelings First Shadow Work
8 Week Course - Video Notes
These notes are for reference only, for you to recall and refresh yourself on these
subjects. This should be used to look things up after you’ve watched the videos.
You are NOT expected to memorize and study these notes.
Studying them will only provide an intellectual and surface layer grasp on these subjects.
We want your heart to fully understand and embody what you are learning.
Not for your mind to memorize and class them away as superficial knowledge.
There is way too much information here to bother trying to memorize anyway.
But… when you understand it all, remembering it will just be second nature.
Just relax, pay attention, and watch the videos. Be as present as possible in the moment.
Allow the lessons to sink in naturally and you will get there that much faster.
Good luck! And welcome to the course.
Week 1:
0 - Preface:
- Every week will be released 1 at a time.
- Initially you only have access to week 1. Week 2 will become available in a week.
Etc…
- This is to prevent you from rushing through the course and not truly absorbing or
practicing the material.
- You also have access to 10 guided meditations and 5 subliminal programming
tracks.
- They are designed to help you through this journey. Use them as you please.
- Make sure you use the ‘Next Video’ button under the video or the ‘Course Outline’
Navigation Bar to access the next videos.
- If you click on the thumbnail in the video after it ends, you’ll be taken away from
the course.
- Audio only versions of each lesson are available on google drive.
- So that you can download them and listen on the go if you want.
- Scroll down below the navigation bar.
- DO NOT TAKE NOTES!
- You will get MUCH MORE out of this course if you simply relax and pay attention.
- Much more important that you ABSORB and INTEGRATE the material as
opposed to memorizing and studying it.
- Your heart needs to understand this stuff more than your head.
- Your heart knows what you are ready to absorb and what you’re not.
- Plus, I’m giving you all the notes you need.
- Put away the notebook, and just listen.
- USE THE GROUPS!
- The benefit of a community of like minded people who have gone through this
journey and come out the other side is invaluable.
- We have a habit of thinking, ‘what if this doesn’t work’, or ‘it can’t work for me’, or
‘what if I’m too far gone’ etc… All of that is nonsense, and by connecting with
other people in the group who have been where you are and healed, you’ll be
able to let go of those stories that hold you down.
- There are 2 groups: The private group just for students, and the public one for
everyone. Join them both.
- Share your wins, struggles, challenges, and questions as often as possible!
- Coachability:
- If you show up to the videos resistant to the material, you won’t get as much out
of it as you can, so avoid the following traps:
- “Oh… You don’t understand MY story!”
- Firstly… Yea… I do… I’ve heard it all before and helped people with all
kinds of backgrounds, traumas, and past stories.
- Secondly… the whole point is that we are here to change your story…
right?
- Let go of the mind trash beliefs that have been keeping you stuck in your
life, and show up ready to learn a new approach to your life.
- Defending Your Pain: “But I’m RIGHT to be angry at them!”
- Well… that may be true, but do you want to defend your anger or
overcome it?
- It doesn’t matter whether your story justifies you being upset or not, the
whole point here is that we want to overcome our pain, and you going out
of your way to defend it based on how other people have wronged you or
how the world hasn’t been kind to you is only going to keep you in pain.
- “Oh… Well I’ve heard that before!”
- Firstly, maybe you have heard it before, but clearly you haven’t truly
absorbed it and integrated it, otherwise you wouldn’t still be in pain, so
pay attention anyway.
- Secondly, you came to me because I explain things better and more
clearly than others, right? So… maybe you’ll finally absorb it and learn
something new when I explain it.
- Thirdly, we need to program this stuff into your brain and your heart as
deeply as possible. This stuff all needs to become second nature… In
fact… it needs to become FIRST nature. So, it doesn’t matter if you’ve
heard it before, let’s pave those pathways in your brain over and over until
this stuff becomes your core programming.
- Lastly, you haven’t done things in order before. You’ve cherry picked bits
of information from different sources, and it’s important that we start at the
very beginning, and build on everything properly and naturally.
- So… it doesn’t matter if you’ve heard it before. Be coachable, not resistant,
and I PROMISE that you will get more out of this course then you have from
anything else you’ve tried. GUARANTEED!
1 - Intro
- WELCOME TO THE COURSE!
- Congratulate yourself for taking the first steps.
- In a way, that was the hardest part.
- If you apply everything in this course, it will completely change your life in every
area!
- This stuff JUST WORKS!
- It is IMPOSSIBLE to apply everything in this course and not see transformation,
so just make sure that you commit!
- Keep in mind that it is a PROCESS.
- Allow yourself to focus on what you are learning at any given moment.
- Don’t stress about the FULL process, just be where you are and let it happen.
- 2 Main Elements of this course:
- 1 - It is a condensed 8 week transformation process.
- Within 8 weeks, you will see immense progress.
- 2 - It is your new guidebook for life.
- A completely new set of skills and tools to live every day of your life by.
- You will need to keep on applying this stuff as you move forward.
- You can’t just give up on these things after 8 weeks and expect the
results to stay.
- This is a reprogramming of your approach to everything in your life.
- There is a LOT of information in this course!
- Don’t stress about memorizing or catching every last detail the first time around.
- Let your heart and mind absorb what it is ready to.
- Let the rest of the seeds just be planted.
- DO NOT try to fit a week’s worth of learning into a day! SPREAD IT OUT.
- Just relax and pay attention (and of course… do the work).
- How will the course work?
- Every week (or most weeks) will have:
- Weekly exercises:
- Gratitude, Breathing, Meditation, and Mantra.
- These may seem simple, but they are IMPORTANT.
- Take them seriously. Do the work.
- Main lesson videos:
- Me talking to the camera, giving you your main lessons.
- Theory Work Videos: (not every week has one).
- Me doing deep dives with slide shows into the week's topic, to
help give you the foundational knowledge and extra lessons.
- Bonus Videos:
- Some videos will be marked ‘BONUS’, as extra learning.
- Realistically, they are just as helpful as the rest, but might not
apply to everyone or might not be crucial in the moment.
- FAQ Videos:
- Just answering common questions.
- Not every week has one, but some do.
- Live Q&A’s - Info for this can be found in the PRIVATE FACEBOOK
GROUP:
- https://www.facebook.com/groups/353277556007406/
- Make sure to join that group.
- You are NOT alone on this journey.
- I WANT to support you. But you have to show up.
- You can submit questions in advance that you want me to tackle.
- Just focus on understanding, not memorizing:
- When you understand something clearly, you’ll remember it naturally.
- Week 1 Intro work:
- We are going to work in a naturally progressive manner.
- We are not ‘chasing down trauma’.
- We are simply learning how to better handle everything that comes up on
its own.
- BUT… before we get to that...
- Week 1 is just about building an emotional foundation.
- Just focus on raising your vibes (overall emotional state / state of
consciousness).
- We are not going to focus on healing and releasing yet.
- Week 1 is literally about practicing happiness.
- Raising our emotional average and our maximum.
- Also, we are getting an understanding of how our emotions work.
- We won’t push you too hard, too fast.
- Don’t worry about dealing with more than you’re ready to. We’ll do this
smoothly.
2 - Fantasy Visualization Worksheet
- Written exercise - CRUCIAL to beginning this course.
- Can be downloaded here:
- https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pW17ciwwSzGlkfj3ofbTDtdBHjrruSw2
- Building strength, courage and motivation to get you inspired to move forward.
- Remember, this is a FANTASY exercise.
- Don’t worry about setting realistic goals or making sure that you can
accomplish what you write out.
- This is about practicing emotions.
- We are paving pathways of ‘happiness’ and ‘confidence’ that have eroded
in your head over years.
- We are raising your emotional maximum and your average.
- Don’t be afraid of writing things that even break the laws of physics.
- DO NOT HOLD BACK AT ALL!
- Imagine the best of the best of what this universe could possibly
have to offer.
- This is NOT about materialism though… It's about emotions.
- You don’t need to envision yourself ‘rich’. But envision yourself
with whatever you truly feel will make you ecstatically happy to be
alive.
- And... btw… There's nothing wrong or dirty about money.
- Let go of limiting beliefs and enjoy whatever the world
might be able to give you.
- Money won’t make you happy… but having money is
certainly better than not having it… isn’t it?
- If you find yourself holding back, that’s ok for now…
- Just notice it!
- Recognizing your blockages is a big part of this.
- When you see that you can’t even IMAGINE the best, you’ll need
to recognize that you have limits inside of you.
- This week’s weekly meditation is tied into this written exercise, so make
sure that you complete it.
- If you’re having trouble with this exercise, check out the bonus video next, the
Worksheet FAQ.
3 - [BONUS] Worksheet FAQ
- This video is for those having trouble getting through the worksheet.
- What if you ‘don’t want to be known for anything’? (Don’t care about fame).
- The point of that question in the worksheet is NOT ABOUT fame.
- It’s about ‘who will you be and what you will you be doing when you are the truest
and most self-embodied and self-expressive version of who you are’?
- It’s just about painting the picture of you being the best version of yourself.
- It’s not about what comes with them specifically.
- Just ask yourself… How do you most want to be yourself in this world?
- How would that person be appreciated by the world, and what for?
- What excites you about sharing yourself with the world?
- What if you don’t have big cravings for ‘success’ or ‘abundance’ or ‘fortune’?
- We know (and it’s written in the exercise) that we don’t NEED these things to be
happy.
- That’s NOT the point.
- It’s about raising your vision of what is possible, and letting go of limiting
beliefs.
- We want to stop settling for the bare minimum in our lives.
- At the same time, if the bare minimum makes you ECSTATICALLY HAPPY, then
fine… go for that.
- But 99.999% of the time, you can do better.
- Why are you settling for the bare minimum? This is a FANTASY exercise
and you can’t even IMAGINE any better than that?
- If so… that is actually a problem.
- It is a set of limiting beliefs based in fear.
- If you had a genie and you wished for the bare minimum, that would be
foolish, wouldn’t it?
- If you can’t even imagine ultimate, ecstatic happiness, you will forever
settle for less than what you deserve, and that is what we are trying to
break through.
- Remember, we are PRACTICING EMOTIONS.
- So… we want to practice the BEST emotions!
- Not the ‘bare minimum for satisfaction’ emotions.
- If you can only envision the bare minimum… ok… write that, and THEN
ASK… what can I add to this?
- Then keep moving down that line
- What if I don’t want ‘fancy things’ (re: imagining your house and car, etc…)
- Who said it needs to be extravagant and fancy?
- If you want a hut in the middle of forest… COOL! Imagine the MOST PERFECT
HUT in the MOST PERFECT FOREST that you can imagine.
- YOU are the one that’s adding that idea of ‘fancy’ and ‘luxury’ right now.
- I never said it needs to be that.
- Even when it comes to the questions about earning money… it’s really
about:
- A - Pushing past limiting beliefs. And
- B - The freedom involved with being able to do whatever you want on this
planet (which is currently ruled by money), and earning that money by just
being you and doing what you love the most.
- Don’t get hung up on the money.
- Don’t forget to realize that if you are resisting this, it is the result of limiting
beliefs about money.
- We want to escape these limiting beliefs so that we can envision the
BEST LIFE POSSIBLE.
- Shame around money is holding you back. Let that go.
- Money is not dirty, especially when you earn it by being of service to this
world.
- 3 main points of this exercise:
- 1 - Practice feeling good.
- Prepare for the weekly meditation for this week where you will envision
your fantasy moment.
- Give yourself some vision that makes you actively and ecstatically
excited.
- Develop your ‘happy place’.
- 2 - Building strength and beliefs for the hard times and challenges in your
life.
- We are trying to raise the minimum emotional bar.
- Learning how to pick ourselves up out of the dark places by realizing that
you always overcome them
- 3 - To notice limiting beliefs and blockages.
- You likely didn’t realize these blockages before (like your limiting shame
beliefs about money).
- Simply by noticing that these are there, we are making progress.
- So, if you ABSOLUTELY CANNOT envision better for yourself, that’s ok…
- At least you know that this blockage is there now.
- Just keep moving forward.
- Write the best you can, and keep going.
- You can always come back and redo this later if you want.
4 - Weekly Exercises
- I know that these might seem ‘woo woo’, or they might seem overly simple or like
nonsense busy work, but that is NOT TRUE!!!
- These things are absolutely crucial!
- Remember that we are retraining your brain. Building new positive pathways.
- We NEED to develop proper small habits while we are building towards larger
growth.
- Point being, DO NOT IGNORE THE WEEKLY EXERCISES!
Mantras (2 this week. Normally just 1.)
1 - The universe is constantly conspiring in my favor.
- This is about developing an element of trust and even faith in our journeys.
- You need to start releasing fear, and building this belief that everything is leading in the
direction that it’s meant to is helpful.
- Even at a practical level, this IS TRUE, and you will come to see that more throughout
your journey.
2 - I am ready for change!
- This is about preparing your mind for the journey you are about to go on. Let your
conscious and subconscious mind know that things are about to start to start
shifting.
How to remember to say these mantras:
- What I call “Programming subroutines”.
- You can choose to imbue an object with meaning:
- Ex: Every time I look at this bracelet I will repeat these phrases, or every time I tie
my shoes I will repeat these phrases. Etc…
- You can draw a little dot on your hand. Every time you see it, you will repeat these
phrases.
When you are saying these Mantras:
- Do your best to embody and activate the FEELING of trust and faith that is associated
with the words of these mantras.
- The FEELINGS are what count. The words are just our ways of accessing that feeling
and paving concsious pathways in our brain.
Meditation: Fantasy Visualizing:
- Spend 5-10 minutes a day visualizing the fantasy moment from the worksheet (the last
page of the worksheet).
- Build up the vision with as much detail as possible. Add more to it every day.
- Again, FEEL THE FEELINGS. That’s the most important part.
Breathing Exercise: Diaphragm breathing
- Take a deep breath right now and check…. Where were you breathing in to?
- Did your chest rise up a lot and expand? Did you breathe by pushing with your
mouth or nose forcefully and expanding the top of your chest?
- If so, that is the opposite of what we are going for.
- That kind of breathing creates a lot of resistance and a lot of tension.
- Instead, you want to focus on breath DOWNWARDS.
- Learn to connect with your diaphragm.
- A film like barrier between your chest space and your guts.
- Your goal is to focus on moving your diaphragm downwards.
- Doing this will naturally pull air in, instead of forcing it in from the top.
- It will allow you to breathe in a more relaxed fashion and take deeper breaths.
- Once you are able to find that feelings:
- Maintain mindful awareness of this throughout your day as much as possible.
- Practice it as much as you can until it start becoming second nature.
Gratitude Exercise: Finding Your Evergreen!
- This is an important exercise!
- Especially as you go through this healing journey, you will be experiencing a lot of ups
and downs, so it is important to have something solid and positive that you can always
attach yourself to.
- Your ‘evergreen’ thought is something that you know that you can be grateful for
EVERY DAY… even when things aren’t exactly going the way that you want them
to.
- This might not be COMPLETELY eternal for you (it might be something that will change
in the future), but it should be something that you know you can count on to be true each
and every day, as you move through your healing journey.
- What is something that is always true for you that you can always be thankful for?
5 - High Vibe Habits
- The first 2 habits here are ABSOLUTELY CRUCIAL, and required for you to
experience as much growth as possible during the next 8 weeks and beyond.
1 - Your Morning Routine!
- Developing a proper and positive morning routine is SO SO SO IMPORTANT!
- When you are waking up, your brain is priming itself for how the day is supposed
to go.
- A poor morning routine programs you for a poor day.
- A positive morning routine builds momentum and creates positivity.
- Even if you can only do the bare minimum of a positive routine, just pushing
yourself to do that tiny bit will help start building positive momentum to pull you
out of depression, fear, struggle, etc…
- What to include in your morning routine:
- 1 - If you wake up to an alarm… set ONE alarm. Wake up to the first alarm.
- Stop snoozing after!
- Set the latest alarm that you can/want to and start preparing to wake up
on that one.
- This will help you get the most out of your sleep, and help you wake up
more alert and ready to go.
- 2 - Drink a glass of room temperature water
- During sleep, your digestive system shuts down.
- Downing a glass of water wakes your body up and tells it that it’s time to
move.
- It will help you feel more alert and willing to tackle the day immediately.
- Room temperature is because we don’t want to shock the system with
super cold water, and we don’t want to slowly sip warm water… just drink
down a full glass of water quickly.
- 3 - Morning Positivity Training
- Use any of the following (I recommend either of the first 2. The third is for
those of you who are resistant to the first 2).
- Morning Motivation Videos (search motivation videos on
youtube.)
- A channel called “Art of Attraction Coaching” on Youtube is
a GREAT place to start, and you’ll start getting
recommendations for more.
- These are the best (in my opinion), but they do carry a very
masculine energy, and some of you may not resonate with
it.
- So… option 2 is…
- Morning Rampage Videos (just search Morning Rampage
Videos)
- Abraham Hicks has some good ones. Someone named
Jasmine Seer had a few good ones also. You can even
use the manifesting audios included with this course.
- These just repeat positive affirmations and mantras to train
your brain for the day.
- Option 3 is just positive, upbeat and motivational/inspiring music.
- Whatever works for you and resonates.
- But… this is less powerful than the other 2 options, so try
those first.
- 4 - Get at least a tiny bit of movement/exercise.
- I say ‘a tiny bit’ for those of you who are struggling physically or
with deep depression.
- You don’t need to worry about going nuts with this.
- BUT… depending on where you are physically and emotionally,
push yourself as much as you can manage.
- 5 - Accomplish a small task
- Make your bed, clean some dishes, fold some clothes, etc…
- Anything you can do that counts as an accomplishment.
- 6 - Congratulate yourself for completing so much within the first tiny
bit of your day!
- Don’t ever forget to acknowledge your accomplishments!
- This will truly help start building positive momentum for your day
and over the course of multiple days when you are accomplishing
this.
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- That’s it!!!
- SUPER simple and SO powerful!
- Quick recap:
- 1 - Wake up to ONE alarm!
- 2 - Drink a glass of water.
- 3 - Morning Positivity Training.
- 4 - A bit of exercise/movement.
- 5 - Accomplish a tiny task.
- 6 - Congratulate yourself!
- This whole thing will take you 15 minutes and will be SO POWERFUL.
- DO IT!
- But, on days when you don’t, avoid the guilt and shame.
- Never hate on yourself.
- Accept your limitations, and simply devote yourself to doing it tomorrow.
Next up…
2 - Social Media Cleanse.
- Also 100% required and absolutely crucial.
- You must start recognizing how everything that you allow into your life (every bit of your
brain food), is paving certain pathways in your brain and programming your beliefs about
the world.
- Start cutting out negative and toxic channels and influencers on your social media
feed, and start filling up your world with positive messages, affirmations, and
things with substance that will feed your soul.
- This not only about social media, but also about your news, books, magazines, tv,
movies, etc…
- Start paying a lot of attention to your brain food.
- Just, while you are scrolling (or choosing), start unfollowing as many unhelpful influences
as possible, and refill that space with things that will fuel your emotional well being
3 - Gratitude Journal and Brag Books
- I’m making these optional for now, only because they take up time and I’m already giving
you so much other stuff to work on.
- But… if you can… 10-15 minutes a day…
- Write in a journal things that you are grateful for and/or things that you are proud for
having accomplished.
- Remember that what we are doing is practicing certain emotions and frequencies.
- Don’t just write the words… focus on the feelings of BEING grateful and of the
confidence involved in the accomplishments that you are bragging about.
If you start applying these high vibe habits, you are going to start building momentum towards a
happier, more confident self who is ready and able to start diving into the real healing we are
going to be learning how to do, without succumbing to negative vibrations and cycles as often or
as easily.
6 - Theory Work
- Raising your vibes: What does it actually mean?
- Not just a spiritual catch phrase. Has practical implications.
- We need to maintain a practical and grounded view of this topic.
- Vibes = Vibration
- Referring to the frequency of your emotions.
- The amount of energy involved in - and the specific frequency of - your emotions.
- Fear, anger, guilt, etc… = Low frequency emotions.
- Acceptance, Willingness, Reason = Medium frequency emotions
- Love, Joy, Bliss = High Vibing Emotions.
- See the Map of Consciousness by David R Hawkins for reference. (See Next
Page)
- Although you don’t need to memorize that chart, understanding it will be
helpful.
- Use of drugs and alcohol can produce high emotional frequencies, but in a
non-sustainable way - which ultimately leads to a negative cycle that keeps you
‘chasing the high’ of the initial time that the drug helped you reach a frequency
you were never able to before.
- There is a difference between frequency of emotion vs. frequency of
consciousness.
- The two are highly connected, but you can sometimes raise your
emotions while lowering your state of consciousness, and vice versa.
- Your emotional frequency and state of consciousness affect everything you
experience.
- Everything is filtered through the lens of your current frequency.
- This will affect how you interpret everything in your life, and all of your
beliefs.
- This will alter your perception of reality.
- This will affect your attitudes, your decisions, your actions, etc…
- This plays into a role of co-creation - where your actions create your
frequency which creates your perception which creates your attitudes and
beliefs which then create your actions.
- Actions > Frequency > Perception > Attitude/beliefs > Actions.
- And around and around you go.

(Theory work Continued…)
- Start understanding that emotions and states of consciousness are things that
YOU MOVE THROUGH.
- They are constantly changing.
- They can be altered, manipulated, and trained in various ways.
- Actively and consciously working on your frequency wil have big impacts on your
life.
- Please understand that REASON is LOWER than LOVE and JOY.
- Love and joy is where you want to live, right?
- Reason can only get you so far. Your heart needs to take over.
- Also, please understand that you will need to move through the various states of
consciousness as we heal and rise.
- You can’t just skip from where you are, to the end.
- We will need to raise our vibes progressively through the various stages.
- When analyzing or determining ‘your vibration’, it’s more important to look at
where you rest on average, vs. what you are experiencing in one instantaneous
moment.
- Ie - a singular moment of anger does not mean that your overall frequency is
anger.
- Similarly, a single moment of joy doesn’t mean you live in joy.
- Where is your average? How do you usually perceive and react to the world?
- Start learning how to OBSERVE your emotional state and inner frequency, as
opposed to simply EXPERIENCING it.
- Being able to look at what you are experiencing and go, ‘Oh… look at that anger
popping up inside of me’, is an incredibly important tool and skill.
- This is emotional mindfulness.
- Being aware of what you are experiencing can help you avoid reacting to that
emotion in a way that will cause more problems and looping cycles.
Raising Your Vibes
- Your traumas and emotional defense mechanisms are what hold you down.
- ‘Trauma’ doesn’t only refer to the worst of the worst of what this world has to
offer.
- Trauma refers to any instance of emotional pain that you didn’t resolve and
release properly in the moment.
- In moments when we weren’t safe, we trained ourselves to hold in our emotions
to protect us.
- It is a fear based response.
- Creates emotional defense mechanisms. When your brain tries to avoid the
emotion by focusing on the external problem instead of the internal distress.
- You have built your entire personality and outlook on life around these emotional
defense mechanisms.
- All of the ways that you seek approval, push people away, etc…
- All of the ways that you express yourself or don’t express yourself, etc…
- All of this has been programmed around the ways that you keep yourself safe.
- This means that your personality and identity is largely based on FEAR!
- We need to undo this programming, and built up an identity built on LOVE.
- In order to do that, we will need to learn to feel all of the things that we have
stuffed away.
- That is what shadow work and this course is all about!
- Your traumas literally hold you down in a certain frequency.
- The unresolved emotions are like anchors, preventing you from rising higher.
- With some work, we can increase the range of our emotions so that you
experience higher emotions right now 9before doing any real healing).
- But in order to MAINTAIN a higher state of emotions and consciousness, we will
need to undo the anchors that are holding you down.
- You need to feel it to heal it!
- Being in a low emotional state is your OPPORTUNITY TO HEAL.
- If you allow yourself to fully feel, experience, and release it, then you can rise up.
- If you run and hide from the emotion, then you perpetuate the defense
mechanisms that keep you down.
- In this course, you will learn how to feel this stuff and resolve it properly.
- Don’t be afraid, you will learn how to do it safely and effectively.
- It is OK to feel down sometimes!
- Raising your vibes overall doesn’t mean that you need to ALWAYS BE
HAPPY! NO!
- A lot of people worry about not feeling good sometimes.
- That’s not how this works.
- Focus on your overall frequency and where you settle into.
- Don’t stress about feeling down.
- That doesn’t mean that you are failing.
- Just don’t let those low emotional states fool you into thinking something has
gone wrong.
- NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG just because you’re feeling down.
- Relax into it. Allow yourself to feel it.
- The fear is worse than what you’re experiencing in the moment.
- Raising your State of Consciousness:
- To take a higher perspective on your life.
- To become the observer, not just the experiencer.
- By observing an emotion, you IMMEDIATELY shift your experience of it and
allow for healing to start taking place.
- “Oooh… look at that anger!” is VERY different from “I’M SO ANGRY!!!”
- Noticing it stops the negative cycles and over-reactions.
- It helps progressively move out of our fear based programming and into
being a conscious creator and in control of our lives.
- The right perspective changes everything.
- Your pain is trying to help you heal!
- Recognizing this allows you to make use of your pain, instead of merely
suffering from it.
RAISING YOUR VIBES IS PRIORITY #1. ALWAYS!!!
- As long as you focus on your external problems, you will keep going in circles.
- When you learn how to raise your vibes first, THEN everything else can change.
- When you feel better, you do better… you act better… you experience
better.
- The opposite does NOT work!
- Ie - changing your external circumstances does NOT in itself change your
emotions.
- Money can’t buy happiness or love.
- But happiness or love can help you make more money (yes… actually…
both from a practical and spiritual perspective).
- JUST FOCUS ON RAISING YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE.
- We will talk about this A LOT more through the rest of this course.
- Your inner world creates your outer world (co-creation cycles).
- MUCH easier to control your inner world than to control the outer world.
- You have more direct access to it.
- So, work on your inner self, and let the outer world react to your new self.
- Morning Routine (extra notes from the high Vibe Habits video)
- No phone or social media within 1st half hour of waking up.
- You don’t want to start engaging with the outside world right away.
- Focus on yourself and your own internal vibes and mentality before
absorbing energies from the outside world.
- Drink a glass of room temperature water.
- Adding some lemon or a tiny amount of apple cider vinegar has other
health benefits you might want to look into.
- Get some movement/exercise.
- Push yourself just a little bit past your own ‘laziness’.
- Do what is right for you. The more that you can do, the better. For those
who can’t just do what is appropriate for your body and overall frequency.
- Morning Motivation, Morning Rampage, or upbeat/inspirational music.
- Motivation and Rampage are most recommended.
- Accomplish a task
- Make your bed, do some dishes, put away clothes, etc...
- Evening Routine
- Very helpful to combine with your morning routine.
- Not ‘required work’ for this course, only because I feel like it is harder for people
in their lives to control their evenings.
- But highly recommended
- No phones or social media in the last half hour.
- Similar to morning routine, disconnect from the energy of the world
and focus inwards.
- Will help you fall asleep faster and in a healthier way.
- Turn the lights down in the last half hour (at least) before sleep.
- Trains your brain to know that it’s time for sleep.
- Set your intentions for sleep.
- You can basically speak to your subconscious and give it
instructions.
- Is this just a placebo effect? Maybe… but it’s a positive practice.
- Tell your brain what you want it to work on while you sleep.
- Start thinking about sleep posture
- You spend 6-9 hours in that posture every night.
- Start noticing any problems with the way that you are positioned
while you are sleeping.
- Blackout.
- Use a sleep mask or make sure that your room is as dark as
possible.
- Guided meditation/solfeggio frequencies (meditation music)
- Check the sleep meditation included with this course.
- Daytime Practices (things you can do throughout your day to raise your vibes).
- Start incorporating as many of the following as possible - even 5-10
minutes.
- Music and dancing. (moving your body with positive emotions involved).
- Arts and creativity. (creating art of any kind unites and activates many parts of
your brain).
- Meditation. (extremely helpful and important for a lot of reasons).
- Exercise. Moving your body is a highly underrated ‘anti-depressant’.
- It’s tough in times of depression to push yourself to do it, but it is SO
HELPFUL when you can get in a real workout during those times.
- Self-Love and Self-care practices.
- Anything from hugging yourself, to taking baths, hygeine and grooming,
massage, lighting incense and sitting with the smell, essential oils, etc…
- Affection and compassion.
- You can even give affection and compassion to inanimate objects, plants,
etc…
- The act of giving compassion and affection helps our own emotional
state.
- Learning to treat inanimate objects with care and respect is helpful.
- Acts of Kindness.
- Treating other people kindly has a positive impact on YOU.
- Sunlight and Nature.
- 5-10 minutes of sunlight is very important
- Spending time in nature is very helpful.
- Grounding (standing in nature barefoot).
- Water
- Drink enough water (make sure the water is clean as well).
- Spending time IN water (baths and bodies of water) is helpful and healing.
- Body Mindfulness
- Be aware of what you’re feeling physically, energetically, and emotionally.
- We will talk plenty more about this as we move through the course.
- Solfeggio Frequencies (meditation music).
- These are unique frequencies that resonate with the human body in
natural ways.
- Think of the mathematical number Pi... it has a natural relationship with
the world that is deeply significant.
- Solfeggio frequencies have a similar deep relationship with human
consciousness.
- If these frequencies feel uncomfortable at the beginning, that is because
you are SO FAR OFF from a relaxed natural frequency, and using these
can help you shift your frequency.
- Adjust you brain food
- Think about the social media cleanse.
- Singing
- Singing is awesome and connects a lot of your body and mind and helps
move and release emotions and energy.
Meditation basics - Myths, mistakes and musts.
- You do NOT need to ‘silence your mind’.
- We want to simply practice being the PASSIVE OBSERVER to the thoughts in our
head. Not the ACTIVE THINKER.
- Or...
- We want to learn to FOCUS our attention on ‘non-thought based’ things… like
your breathing, or your heart rate, or the sounds around you.
- We are just trying to shift our focus away from actively thinking.
- That’s it!
- By learning to observe, you can let your mind tire itself out until it is ready to relax.
- You can’t force your mind to calm down. You must allow it to do so naturally.
- There is NO SUCH THING as failure with meditation!
- A lot of people think that if they don’t achieve deep meditative states that they
‘didn’t succed at meditating.
- That is nonsense.
- Did you take take minutes to sit with your thoughts? Yes? Then you
meditated!
- That’s it.
- It is a practice… not an outcome.
- It is NOT about results… it is about the act of sitting with yourself.
- It is primarily just an act of self-care. Don’t overthink it.
- Real goal of meditating: Focus on something simple. Learn to guide your focus to
something specific, something that you are experiencing (breath, sounds,
heartrate).
- It is a matter of practicing focus on non-verbal experiences.
- You WILL get distracted. Over and over and over.
- That is COMPETELY normal and natural.
- You are NOT failing.
- Just notice when you get distracted, accept it, and bring yourself back.
- Over and over and over.
- THAT IS the practice. DO NOT judge yourself for it!
Meditation Posture - Important to be sitting/lying down properly.
- To begin with, best to start by lying down, so that you don’t need to focus too hard on
your posture. Learn how to calm your mind and enjoy the experience before focusing on
posture.
- When sitting:
- Spine should be straight/erect.
- Weight is better focused on your tailbone vs. on your ass.
- Shoulders not hunched.
- Nothing crossed (fingers, arms, etc…), as much as possible.
- Palms either facing up, or on your heart are 2 helpful positions.
- Mudras (specific finger placements/hand positions) are powerful as well, but don’t
stress about these.
- They can help you focus on different intentions and practices.
- Guided vs non-guided meditations.
- Best to start with guided, to help you develop your pracitce.
- Choose you guide according to your own preferences.
- Feel free to use the guided meditations included with this course.
- Or check out the Mindful Movement channel on Youtube. Highly recommended.
- TURN OFF AUTOPLAY! Lol…
- Make sure that you can come out of your meditation in your own timing.
- Not to ruin the mood of calm that you just developped.
Have a support network:
- As you begin this healing journey, try and form a network of people who can provide
some emotional support.
- If you have no-one in your life, don’t foget that you have my public and private facebook
groups (for students and for the public).
- And facebook groups for inner healing and awakening can be very helpful overall.
- It is often important to speak your pain out loud or write it out.
- NOT to overanalyze or to go on and on about our past traumas.
- But simply to express what you’re feeling and what’s happening in your head.
- Just expressing things that have been cycling in your head can help you
immediately break that cycle and see it from an observers point of view.
- BE CAREFUL about who you choose!
- DO NOT choose people who are struggling themselves or who are incapable of
giving you care and support.
- Some people will make you feel worse or will feed your pain (some might even
feed off of your pain).
- So, choose carefully.
7 - Cautionary Notes
- Things to keep in mind and be aware of as you move through your heaing and this
course:
- 1 - Everything happens in waves:
- You WILL experience ups and downs.
- No matter how amazingly you are doing this work, there will be good days
and bad.
- It’s NOT a straight line from struggle and depression to happiness and emotional
mastery.
- It’s more like a stock price, going up and down, with a constant upwards trend.
- Your RANGE of emotions is constantly improving, but on a moment to moment
and day to day basis, it’s still a mixed bag.
- Week 1 is all about raising your vibes, but as we start healing you’ll run into road
blocks.
- When that happens, DO NOT WORRY! Nothing has gone wrong!
- Your next ‘high’ will be higher than the one before. Your next low won’t be as low
as the one before. But there will still be highs and lows.
- 1B - EXPECT emotional distress and pain.
- You need to feel it to heal it.
- Bringing up unresolved emotions is kind of the point.
- So, be prepared.
- The fear is the worst part.
- When you can know and accept that this is going to happen, you can learn
how to relax into it.
- This is actually a huge part of emotional mastery overall.
- So, stay calm. Know in advance that it will happen and that that’s ok.
- 2 - Expect Sensitivity and Delayed purgings
- We are opening the flood gates and breaking the barriers around your emotions.
- You can expect to be sensitive to your emotions during this time.
- Again… that’s kind of the point.
- This will LEAD to emotional strength and mastery, but at the beginning it will be
uncomfortable.
- Tearing down the walls is scary, but it’s what’s necessary.
- Learning how to handle this is what true emotional strength is about.
- Random and delayed purgings:
- Sometimes our exercises will bring things up to the surface, but the
release won’t happen right away.
- Really, this is just another way of saying that you will be sensitive to
emotions throughout this journey. So don’t get freaked out by it.
- Your body knows what it’s doing, it will all happen perfectly.
- 3 - You might lose or let go of connections with people in your life.
- This is to be expected and you will make these choices consciously sometimes.
- As you heal, you will need to let go of people who aren’t healing with you.
- You are currently connected to people at a certain level of consciousness,
and as you rise up you won’t resonate with people who are choosing to
stay in their pain.
- Some of this will happen consciously and intentionally. Some of it will just happen
naturally.
- You might be pushed into ‘hermit mode’ for a while, as you go through your
transformation.
- Eventually, on the other side, you will find people that resonate more with the
new you.
- DO NOT make a big deal out of it!
- Don’t make dramatic exits with people in your life.
- That way, you will avoid extra conflict, guilt, shame, judgment, etc…
- AND you will leave the door open to reconnect with people once you have
stabilized into your new energies.
- YOU are going through a transition right now. Just accept that, and create
space from people that aren’t resonating with you.
- But do it calmly, compassionately, and lovingly.
- 4 - Be aware that others won’t be able to understand
- YOU are the one doing this healing right now, they are not.
- Do not try to force what you are learning onto them.
- In fact, be careful about who you share these lessons with:
- They will try to convince you why this stuff isn’t real or doesn’t work.
- They won’t understand.
- Realize that you would have been resistant to this stuff until you were
ready to commit to it also.
- I used to roll my eyes at this ‘touchy feely’, ‘woo woo’ stuff, and you
probably did too. So will others.
- This is YOUR journey right now, and others will just try to drag you down
when you try to share it with them.
- Eventually, you will be so strong in your new self that you can guide others and
share it with them, but until you get there, keep this stuff to yourself.
- Feel free to tell people THAT you are doing some healing (so that they know you
need space or support), but don’t share the details of the course or of the
lessons.
8 - FAQ
- 1 - DO NOT SKIP the social media cleanse.
- Not just about social media, we’re talking about all of your brain food.
- Negativity, propaganda, fear, conspiracies…
- Especially while you go through this healing, it’s very important that you are
feeding your brain only positivity and love.
- You can’t change world politics right now or convert conspiracists or whatever…
It’s not your responsibility.
- Just focus on yourself.
- Make sure you cut out negativity and fear, and replace it with positivity and soul
food.
- Even with the youtube algorithm, tiktok, etc… make sure that you are only being
recommended things in line with this healing journey.
- 2 - DO NOT SKIP the morning routine!
- SOOO IMPORTANT.
- Especially for those of you in deep depression and struggle.
- It’s so easy to do and also so easy not to do.
- And… I know… with depression it seems very difficult to do… but the
requirements are so easy and they are so much more effective and important
than you realize.
- Make sure you do it.
- 3 - DO NOT SKIP the Weekly exercises!
- Again… I know they seem simple and small… but they are important.
- Mantras:
- I am ready for change
- The universe is constantly conspiring in my favor
- Gratitude Exercise: Find your evergreen thought.
- Meditation: Build your fantasy moment.
- Breathing: Diaphragm breathing.
- Keep doing those until you reach the weekly exercises video for the next week.
- 4 - Extending the weeks timeline:
- I know that I’m giving you a LOT of info here.
- If you feel the need to extend your timeline to fit it all in (to take 14 days to do
week 1 for example), that is fully fine, BUT....
- DO NOT PAUSE for too long!
- You MUST keep moving through the course consistently, because everything
works together as a whole and if you stop, you will get stuck in your healing
journey.
- You need to get the basics down before you focus on MASTERING every little
detail.
9 - [BONUS] - For Depression.
- For anyone starting off this course in a state of deep depression:
- I gave you a LOT of information and exercises.
- I know it might seem overwhelming.
- Don’t stress about it.
- Do your best to absorb what you can.
- Here are the essential non-negotiables that you should focus on:
- Morning Routine.
- Weekly Exercises
- Any high vibe habits that resonate with you.
- That’s it. All of those should take very minimal time and energy.
- But if you start doing them, we will build momentum towards bigger
accomplishments.
- Start small. Build your way up.
Extra Exercise for Deep Depression / Feelings of Hopelessness
- Here is a little exercise that can help.
- Depression is largely related to a feeling of hopelessness.
- This exercise is meant to help you see the potential for a positive future.
- Write yourself a story:
- Write a short story (a couple of paragraphs or a page or 2). Not too long.
- Write a way that this struggle that you are going through right now actually leads
you to your best life possible.
- It was in fact true for me that my greatest struggles led me to my awakening and
to my greatest purpose and future success. The same can be true for you.
- Write this out as a story, whether or not you truly believe it.
- Then, read it out loud at least once a day for 21 days.
- Learn to see this as a possibility.
- The outcome doesn’t need to be certain, we just want to build some hope and an
idea of why everything is going to be ok.
I PROMISE you… if you fully commit to this course, we will get you to the other side.
Please try to maintain some faith and hope for now.
Week 2:
1 - Intro
- Week 2 topics:
- Learning how to survive the low vibes and emotional storms.
- Also, learning what to do with negative emotions when they come up to
help you deal with and release them.
- How to not let those moments of low emotions fool us into thinking
something has gone wrong.
- Developing the first healing tools to break the barriers between our heads
and our hearts.
- The exercises given in this week are ABSOLUTELY crucial.
- DO NOT overlook them.
- Learning about the subconscious cycles that have been controlling your life
- In week 2, we are continuing to build the emotional foundation by focusing on the low
energy days and the times when we get tripped up.
- Some of THE MOST FOUNDATIONAL info is in this week, so make sure you pay
attention.
- Be prepared to put in some real work.
- Feel free to take a little extra time on this week if you want.
- But don’t get hung up on this week for too long either.
- 10-14 days MAX!!!
- Then move on, even if you’re not 100% confident yet.
- 3 most foundational concepts of this course (that we learn in this week)
- Forgiveness
- Gratitude
- UNCONDITIONAL SELF-LOVE
- Realistically, just unconditional self love is the foundation of everything else.
- To fully love yourself, you must forgive, you must be grateful, you must be kind to others,
etc…
- If you can learn to FULLY embrace and embody the true and full depths of what
unconditional self love really means, you will have 99% of everything you need.
2 - Weekly Exercises.
Remember to practice these as much and as often as possible throughout your day,
every day, until you reach the weekly exercises video for week 3.
Mantra: Self Love is NOT selfish. It is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY.
- Until you can learn to take care of yourself - and until you DO take care of yourself, you
will constantly drain yourself for others until you have nothing left to give.
- That doesn’t truly serve anyone!
- If you want to TRULY help people and the world, you first need to become the best
version of yourself.
- That means that taking care of yourself is priority #1.
- AND… as you’ll learn, self-love will naturally expand into loving others.
- It’s just that your own self-care and self-love needs to be the foundation on which
everything else is built.
Gratitude Exercise: Think of the kindest things you’ve done for people (and how it made
you feel).
- With this exercise, you are trying to bring up the positive feelings that being altruistic has
on you.
- Remember the positive impact on yourself AND on the other people that acts of
kindness have had. Feel the feelings of that impact right now.
- This will help you train positive emotions of care, love, and gratitude.
- It will also help you start seeing the connection between self-love and love for
others.
- Our eventual goal (which we’ll talk more about in week 4) is to learn to be kind to others
for OUR OWN BENEFIT. Not out of a sense of martyrdom, ego, need to be liked, etc...
Meditation: Body Scan Meditation.
- A foundational exercise for meditation.
- Learning how to focus our attention.
- Learning how to connect to our body with mindful awareness.
- A quick body scan can help us settle into a meditative and relaxed state very quickly.
- Start at the top of your head (or bottom of your feet, as you prefer), move your
focus and attention from one body part and muscle group to the next, relaxing and
releasing tension from each one as you move through it.
- One by one, relax every muscle in your body.
- By the time you reach the end, you should have hit every major muscle group.
- As a beginner, you can use generic large body parts (top of your head, face,
arms, hands, legs, feet, etc…)
- As you improve, you will focus on more specific body parts (crown, forehead,
eyebrows, eyes, lips, neck, forearms, palms, fingers, each toe, etc…)
- Ultimately, we will learn to move our attention to the inside of our bodies as well.
- For now, practice as much as you can. Develop as specific attention on body parts
as possible.
- Simply learn to mindfully connect with and relax as much of your body as possible.
- 5-15 minutes a day is excellent.
Breathing: Infant Breath.
- In week 1, we learned how to breath downwards from our diaphragm.
- In this week, we are expanding on this, by learning how to push our belly’s outward.
- Think of a baby asleep in their crib.
- Their stomach moves up and down with great ease as they breathe in and out.
- They do not force their breath in, and their chests don’t really move.
- This is what you’re practicing.
- Practice breathing in by pushing your belly out, and breathing out by allowing
your belly to fall.
- This is what we call the ‘infant breath’.
- There should be no forcing through your mouth and nose, and no pressure,
resistance, or expansion of your chest.
3 - Low Vibe Prep Lessons
- This video is about how to prepare (and things to keep in mind) when you encounter low
emotional periods.
- 1 - You are always exactly where you need to be:
- Although this requires a spiritual viewpoint to fully understand, there is a practical
element to it as well.
- Despite challenges on your life’s journey, you wouldn’t be able to reach the
amazing goals that you’re actually headed towards without that challenging
journey.
- When you reach the goals that your challenges are leading you towards,
you will understand why they were necessary.
- But while you’re in them - and since you don’t know where you’re headed - it’s
impossible to see that.
- The challenges are truly necessary to form you into the version of yourself
that you need to be to accomplish your life’s purpose.
- If I hadn’t gone through my own struggles, I wouldn’t be able to be here to teach
these things to you.
- I didn’t know this was my outcome when I was going through my own storm.
- Your destination may be different, but - especially because you’re in this course
now - I can basically promise that your struggles are leading you to a better
version of yourself.
- You wouldn’t have commited to this healing if you hadn’t gone through
your challenges.
- The REAL GOAL of life is actually to become the best version of yourself!
- And from THAT perspective, your pain and your challenges are
necessary.
- Shift your understanding about what life is really all about, and you’ll
begin to understand and see things differently.
- Where you are at in your life is a reflection of your inner world.
- It very simply is true that the overall state of your life is a reflection of your
state of consciousness.
- That doesn’t mean that all of the traumas you faced ‘happened for a
reason’ exactly (especially dealing with the worst things where you were
truly victimized), but simply your resilience, your grit, your attitude, etc…
got you to where you are overall.
- Some of us face more challenges along the way… but it’s up to us to get
us to where we are truly meant to be by healing, growing and evolving.
IT MAY NOT BE TRUE THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON - BUT WHEN YOU
CHOOSE TO LEARN AND GROW FROM THE BAD THINGS, THEN THEY WILL HAVE
HAPPENED FOR A REASON.
- 2 - Pain is Always Telling You Something:
- This seems obvious enough with physical pain.
- The pain of a scraped knee is telling you to look at your knee… that there
is something wrong.
- By analyzing and assessing the pain, we keep ourselves safe.
- The same is true for emotional pain.
EVERY MOMENT OF EMOTIONAL DISTRESS THAT YOU EXPERIENCE IS POINTING YOU
IN THE DIRECTION OF WHERE YOU NEED HEALING.
- When you start seeing your emotional distress as a clue to what is still hurting inside of
you, you will be able to shift your perspective and understanding about all of this.
- 3 - There is ALWAYS a lesson!
- Again, this isn’t about your traumas (your instances of being victimized aren’t
what I’m talking about).
- It is your emotional distress in which there is always a lesson.
- The emotional pain that you are in - that led you to this course - holds lessons for
you.
- When you learn to overcome your emotional challenges, you gain strength
and power from each one that allows you to step more and more into your
greatest self, and to share that greatest self with the world.
- Whether you realize it or not, you have allowed yourself to go in certain directions
in your life as a reflection of the emotional defense mechanisms and wounds that
you are still holding on to.
- Your emotional pain is the universe’s way of showing you your blockages.
- Ex: Toxic relationships - you may or may not realize how you yourself have
allowed and accepted these relationships into your life.
- Due to a lack of self-love, you allowed these things into your life.
- As a result of that choice, certain cycles were perpetuated and you
remained in pain.
- The problem stemmed from a lack of self-love.
- That self-love may be a result of past trauma, but it was always in your
power to heal and change your direction… even if that wasn’t easy
because of what your life has thrown at you so far.
- 4 - Being Invulnerable Doesn’t Mean Being Untouchable.
- In other words, emotional mastery doesn’t mean that you NEVER feel down!
- It just means that those low emotions shouldn’t fool you.
- If you’re feeling down, that’s sometimes part of life.
- You don’t need to always ‘solve’, ‘analyze’, or ‘justify’.
- NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG! TRUST THE PROCESS.
- Learn to treat a low emotional day like being sick. Just be kind to yourself as you
move through it.
- 5 - If you KNEW - 100% - that you were going to end up where you belonged, then
your struggles wouldn’t bother you so much… right?
- In other words, if you were certain that these challenges were leading you to your
best life, you’d be a little more willing to go through these challenges.
- This points out that - the biggest problem is fear and uncertainty!
- Challenges are ok. It’s the worry that these challenges won’t end that cause the
most suffering.
- Pain and suffering are 2 different things.
- Pain comes from momentary distress.
- Suffering comes from fear and resistance to pain.
- Your instantaneous pain convinces you that something has gone wrong,
but that’s not the case.
- It is simply up to you to learn, grow, and evolve towards your best self.
- Your pain pushes you to learn, grow and evolve towards that goal.
- 6 - Change happens gradually.
- Although there will sometimes be grand moments of change, this healing is a
process.
- When you experience a low emotional day, don’t convince yourself that you
should have already overcome all of this.
- We are slowly installing new love-based software.
- You’ve been living in fear and pain so far in your life. Just because you’ve done
some healing doesn’t mean that you are meant to be 100% in happiness and
love.
- It will take time before you fully escape suffering.
- So… don’t freak out when you encounter emotional challenges.
- 7 - Your Low Emotional Days Are Where The Healing Happens.
- You NEED to feel it to heal it!
- This healing journey is all about learning how to finally feel all of the things that
you stuffed away in the past.
- So, when you encounter a low energy day… that’s where healing is happening.
- Once again - NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG!
- Don’t let fear around this discomfort fool you into thinking something has gone
wrong.
- Don’t fuel the fire with more thoughts and fear.
- Instead, learn how to simply relax into the experience and feel what you’re
feeling.
- You will soon learn tools of what to do with those emotions to allow you to heal
them, of course, but for now, just understand that healing happens in your
moments of pain and distress (when you know how to stop resisting it).
4 - The Storm WILL Pass!
- Extra note about surviving emotional storms.
- Emotions are something that YOU MOVE THROUGH.
- Start thinking of it very much like a passing storm.
- The clouds are moving above you, and they WILL PASS!
- Start understanding emotions as a dimension (like space or time) that you move
through.
- They are an infinite spectrum that you vibrate in a move through, that forms a
foundational part of our reality that we experience in a specific way.
EMOTIONS ARE THE FIFTH DIMENSION!
- By understanding emotions in this way, you can allow yourself to experience low
emotions the same way that you would experience a rainy day…
- Ie… you don’t need to force the weather to change!
- You just need to learn how to work WITH the weather.
- Yes… we are learning how to use the low emotions to heal, but that doesn’t
mean that you need to force the weather to be anything other than what it is in
the moment.
- If you thought it was your duty to change the weather, then every day of
rain would cause you SO MUCH DISTRESS!
- But if you can accept that sometimes it just is what it is, then you can relax more
into it.
- Sometimes you just have to rest and allow the weather to pass.
- By not resisting it, you will heal even more during that time.
- But more importantly, it won’t cause you as much pain and suffering if you don’t
resist it.
IF YOU KNOW 100% THAT THE STORM WILL PASS, THEN IT WON’T CAUSE YOU AS
MUCH PAIN WHILE IT’S THERE.
- Sometimes the pain literally will just pass in a moment.
- After hours of sadness, in a moment you will notice your energy change.
- Start paying attention to when that happens.
- The more often you notice that happen, the more you will be able to remind yourself in
your next moment of distress that - if it passed last time - it will pass again.
- Use the healing tools I will give you as often as possible, but in other times, you can just
rest and wait for the storm to pass.
- Start recognizing the frequency (or… the ‘flavor’) of a particular emotion, and learn to
observe it objectively.
4B - BONUS WRITING:
(The following is a post I made in my public Facebook group not long ago, that I thought might
be helpful for you over here. Enjoy!)
One of the most important things that you can do for your mental health - to avoid negative
thought cycles that will keep you in pain longer than you need to be at any time - is learn mindful
awareness of your emotions.
If you can recognize in a moment of sadness, grief, or anger that you are experiencing that
emotion, then you can realize that the thoughts that you are having in that moment are being
manipulated by that emotion. You can realize that all of the fears that you create in that moment,
all of the 'problems' that you are seeing, and all of the potential terrible outcomes you are
imagining are actually just reflections of the emotional distress that you are in at that moment.
When you can do that, you can learn to ride out the wave of emotional distress that you are
experiencing without fueling it with more thoughts. You can avoid exacerbating the problem with
your imagination. And you can even use that moment of emotional distress as an opportunity to
resolve the emotions that are running through you and to overcome the false logic of all the
problems that you are imagining in that moment.
Doing this won't instantly make you happy in a moment of sadness. That's not to be expected
nor does it need to be the goal. But it will help you make use of this emotion and be ready to
jump back up as quickly as possible.
Today was a day like that for me. I had very little energy and just felt drained for no particular
reason. And in that emotional space, my mind kept trying to come up with reasons to be upset.
It was desperate to attach the internal emotion to something external.
Fortunately, I know better. I reminded myself that - as there were no serious problems in my life
before this emotion hit - there are certainly no new problems just because it's here now. I
allowed myself to take the day and rest. I allowed myself to do whatever my body needed in the
moment. I allowed myself a day of self-care. And now I get to leap back up into action, having
not fueled that emotion with any new imagined worries.
Emotional mindful awareness. It could save your life one day.
5 - Theory Work
- The 3 Foundational Concepts of Inner Healing:
- GRATITUDE, FORGIVENESS, and UNCONDITIONAL SELF LOVE.
- What does ‘unconditional self love’ (USL) truly mean?
- These 3 words form the basis of EVERYTHING we are working on.
- USL is the foundation of ascension.
- Ascension refers to the raising of your emotional frequency and state of
consciousness.
- A true and full embodiment of USL ultimately means the end of true suffering and
the fulfillment of our truest selves and life purpose.
- USL means (among other things) that - Your inner health comes FIRST!
Always!
- This must be done in a way that it is not harmful to others, but it is the
foundation nonetheless.
- As you will learn more later, being harmful to others actually goes against
USL.
- USL is NOT selfish! It is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY.
- Your FIRST MISSION as a spiritual person is to heal yourself.
- By healing yourself, you help to heal the world… in many ways.
- Your healed frequencies affect the world around you.
- Your healing process encodes that journey into the akashic
records (the DNA of the universe)
- It is quite literally YOUR JOB to feel good!
- But… to feel good at a deep heart and soul level.
- Not to just chase superficial pleasure, but to truly raise your frequency.
- When you’re on an airplane and the oxygen masks come down, you need to put
on your own mask before helping others.
- Until you take care of yourself, you are incapable of being of true service to
others and to the world.
- Healthy boundaries are also crucial for you to be helpful to others.
- We are NOT meant to be martyrs.
- Martyring yourself for others destroys your USL.
- Sacrificing others for your own benefit destroys USL also.
- It’s a fine line to walk.
- Everyone (and everything) outside of you is a reflection of yourself.
- You see and experience the world in a very particular way, based on the way that
you have been programmed in your early years and throughout the development
of your identity and personality.
- We don’t recognize that everything is filtered through the lens of our own
perception.
- Your experience of the external world is not objective.
- If you believe that bad things always happen to you, you will act more
aggressively, more recklessly, etc… and will therefore experience more bad
things happening.
- This is the looping cycle of co-creation.
- You are creating your reality more than you realize.
- You can choose to take control of this cycle at any time (although it takes work
and inner healing to master it).
- When you recognize this cycle of co-creation, you can recognize that:
- Caring for yourself IS caring for others!
- By healing yourself, you become the version of you that can help others.
- Even as a ‘lightworker’, if your mission is to help others heal and awaken, you
can’t force this stuff onto people.
- You can only truly help people by SHOWING THEM THE WAY… by
embodying USL and inner peace yourself.
- By embodying the best version of yourself, you show them what the goal is.
- Only then will they want that for themselves and want to follow you.
- But, the more that you try to force others to listen, the more you push them away.
- Until you fully love yourself, the love that you give to others is mostly a cry for
help from your inner self.
- You are treating others in the way that you should be treating yourself, but are
not.
- This is a reflection of where you are still hurting.
- You drain yourself because you are hoping that the other person will give you
back the love that you are seeking from yourself.
- This leaves you empty in the long run.
- But by filling your own cup first, everybody wins.
- The only truly selfless act is the one that is done for your own benefit!
- Only by overcoming the You vs. Me duality can you act in a truly selfless way.
- But when you see others as truly other, then your generosity to them is you trying
to fool yourself (ignoring the good feeling it gives you and that you are doing it to
make yourself feel good).
- On the other hand, when you recognize this other person AS YOURSELF, you
will be able to truly treat the other person as well as possible because it is simply
what is best for both of you.
- Yes… this is a paradox, but this is a big part of this awakening journey…
overcoming the ‘you vs me’ paradox.
- We are all one.
- You treat yourself well so that you can be there for others.
- You treat others well because it is what is best for your own self love.
ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT IN THE WORLD FROM OTHERS WON’T MEAN ANYTHING
UNTIL YOU FULLY LOVE YOURSELF.
- No matter how much other people appreciate and compliment you, until you learn to love
yourself, you will always feel empty and those compliments and appreciation will fall on
deaf ears.
- That’s why your kindness to others - without self love - is actually a cry for help.
- You keep on seeking validation, and it will never help.
- And therefore, the acts of kindness come from the wrong energy and are not based in
true love and kindness energy and intentions.
- How To Practice Unconditional Self Love (theory):
- Choose yourself first… ALWAYS
- Stop hustling EXTERNALLY so much.
- Your INNER HEALTH comes first!
- It is literally your job to feel good!
- By raising your frequency FIRST, then your life can change!
- Your emotions form the foundation of the co-creation cycle that are
leading you in certain directions in your life.
- Put up Boundaries against anything that doesn’t serve you.
- Healthy boundaries against anything that brings you down (in terms of
state of consciousness) is extremely important.
- Stop draining yourself for others.
- No more martyr syndrome.
- If others who mistreat you aren’t willing to change to suit your new USL,
you don’t want them in your life.
- If they DO change to match your boundaries, then you BOTH gained!
- Instant Gratification vs. Long term Rewards.
- Discipline vs. Restriction vs. Allowance
- Remember that the real goal of life is self improvement and growth.
- We often choose instant gratification, and this goes against self love.
- Now… don’t go nuts. While you are healing especially, you are not meant
to be perfect, but…
- USL will mean choosing what is best for us in the long run over what is
most pleasurable in the moment, if that choice is harmful to our growth
and the evolution of our hearts and souls.
- In the meantime, be kind with yourself for what you need to do to survive,
but start setting your sights on who you want to be in the future over and
above the immediate pleasure you want to slip into right now.
- EX: committing to working on yourself and your future vs watching
50 hours of TV a week.
- It takes more energy and discipline to work on yourself, but it
leads to more ongoing distress and unhappiness.
- In every moment - as much as possible - we want to eliminate
negative energies and negative choices.
- But, self judgment is usually worse than the momentary
pleasurable/harmful choice.
- So, our internal emotional health (and our internal self talk) is our
first focus.
- The rest will start to play out on its own, as we heal internally.
- How to practice USL (practical):
- Learn to take time for yourself.
- Self-care, meditation, rest, etc… It is important that you learn that it is ok
to care for yourself first when you need time off.
- Even loafing around can be healthy and productive if you need to
rest/heal, if you are being kind to yourself in your thoughts and emotions
during that time.
- When you are in pain, this is necessary.
- As you heal and improve more, you will be able to maintain more
discipline and you will be more driven to act more of the time.
- But you need to treat yourself appropriately with where you are at.
- You WILL be driven to act when the right time comes - if you have
properly developed USL.
- Speaking Your Truth.
- The reason we don’t speak up for ourselves is fear and lack of self-worth.
- We had put elements of ourselves aside in order to seek approval and to
avoid pain, judgment, criticism, etc…
- We built our personality around these defense mechanisms, trying to earn
love and approval.
- That is the opposite of USL.
- We need to develop the strength to express ourselves as part of USL.
Big question for USL: Why do you care about getting approval from the
people who don’t want you to be your true self?
- Obviously it’s natural that we all do, but it’s important that you start recognizing how you
are betraying USL by seeking approval from people who don’t approve of or accept the
real you.
- If you want to heal and be happy, you will need to let go of the need for approval from
these people.
- You should NOT care about appeasing those people.
- Also… they’re only acting that way because of their own pain.
- DO NOT let other people’s pain become your pain (we will learn more about this later).
How to Speak Your Truth:
- Social media is a good (though challenging) testing ground.
- You should NOT start going and shouting your new truths out into social
media in an aggressive campaign to declare your new self love (though
many of us do succumb to that as we start and that’s ok too).
- Doing this is normal and understandable, but it’s actually coming from
desperation and is likely to lead to more shame and frustration in the long
run, so… just beware.
- But you SHOULD start practicing only speaking truth and love with what you
choose to post online.
- Ie - Start recognizing where you are actually defending yourself, posting
things for approval, pretending to be anything other than who you truly are,
etc…
- Stop posting to seek approval. And stop NOT posting because you fear criticism.
- NO MORE TAKE BACKS!
- Start trying to decide in advance whether something you are posting is
really based on love, and is really representative of you.
- The idea that you shouldn’t delete once you post, you will learn to be
more mindful of what you express.
- What you SHOULD post:
- Share from the Heart.
- Share positivity and love.
- Don’t start arguments and debates.
- Focus on positive frequencies and honest self expression.
- By practicing these skills online, you will gain strength to speak and stand in your
truth in other areas of life as well.
- Speaking truth to family and friends:
- Start with whoever you are most certain will not abandon or judge you for
expressing yourself.
- EVEN IF they don’t understand you… EVEN IF what you say worries and
confuses them… who are the people that you can count on to stand by
you?
- Start with them. Develop the strength of self-expression with those who you are
safe with.
- As you do this, understand that any hesitance from them when you express
themselves come from 2 things:
- 1 - nervousness about these changes that are happening in you (it’s
normal to worry about someone you love who is changing dramatically).
- 2 - Because they themselves have not learned to truly express
themselves, and it makes them uncomfortable to handle such raw
self-expression.
- Don’t judge them for their apprehension… appreciate them for doing their
best to understand and support and keep you around.
- Notice and recognize the ways that you get triggers when your friends and family
meet you with resistance.
- These triggers are clues as to what you need to heal inside of yourself, that you
will soon learn how to start tackling inside of yourself.
- Find the lines of:
- Who you can share with and who you can’t
- What and how much you can share.
- What and how much you feel comfortable to share.
- How much resistance you can handle against your (potential)
over-sharing.
- Learn to navigate these lines with self-love.
- Pushing the boundaries too much too soon will cause you more distress.
- This is a PRACTICE and a MUSCLE that you need to build gradually.
The ultimate goal is full self-expression regardless of what people think,
but you will need to slowly develop self-love in order to do this properly
without creating problems in your life!
- Agent Smith Program:
- When you overshare with people who aren’t ready to hear, to heal, to
grow, to awaken, etc… it triggers their own defense mechanisms which
can push them further away from you and further away from their own
growth.
- Keeping in mind we are talking right now about expressing yourself to
those who most want to keep you in their lives and vice versa, you want
to try to respect these boundaries for now, until you learn how to express
confidently from the vibration of actual love.
- Remember, forcing your new beliefs onto people is not actually
self-expression BASED ON LOVE… it’s still you seeking approval.
- It’s a fine line to walk… I know. But keep your eyes open.
Regardless of exactly how it plays out, be proud of yourself for
speaking your truth!
Forgiveness:
- Forgiving other people has nothing to do with them or what THEY deserve.
- It is ALL ABOUT YOU! (In a good way).
- When you hold anger towards others… YOU ARE THE ONE HOLDING IT!
- You are suffering because you are holding on to anger.
- It doesn’t matter if you are justified in being angry at them.
DO YOU WANT TO JUSTIFY YOUR ANGER… OR DO YOU WANT TO
OVERCOME IT?
- Stop defending your anger and holding onto it.
- Staying angry at others keeps you in a victim mentality.
- You forgive others because you deserve to be free of that anger.
- You forgive others for YOUR benefit. Not theirs!
How to Start Forgiving:
- Remember that the goal of life is the evolution of our soul.
- In that sense (from a higher perspective), everything happens for you, not to you.
- Now… that can be very distasteful when we are talking about moments of true
trauma and victimization, so let’s not over-interpret here.
- I am NOT saying that the worst moments of victimization happened for you.
- Let’s focus more on the regular 3D transgressions… not the worst ways that
trauma occurred at a young age or in ways that you absolutely could not avoid.
IT MAY NOT BE TRUE THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON - BUT WHEN YOU
CHOOSE TO LEARN AND GROW FROM THE BAD THINGS, THEN THEY WILL HAVE
HAPPENED FOR A REASON.
Remember the following in every moment:
IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO BE CRUEL TO OTHER WHILE FULLY LOVING YOURSELF… THIS
MEANS THAT ANYONE WHO WAS TRULY CRUEL TO YOU IS NECESSARILY IN PAIN!
- This is how we can learn to forgive those who have done the worst things to us.
- We should actually feel compassion for those who hate themselves so much that they
could possibly be that cruel to others.
- Someone who truly loves themselves, would be literally incapable of doing that kind of
harm to them.
- Learn to see people’s bad behavior as a sign of their own pain, trauma, and
damage.
- That does NOT for a minute excuse their behavior… but it can help us let go of our
anger towards them.
- It doesn’t make sense to be angry at someone for being in pain, and someone who
can murder or rape someone else, is necessarily in a lot of pain at the soul level.
- They were in pain when they committed the act.
- And they are even more in pain after committing the act.
- The challenge for us is that these people don’t recognize and acknowledge their pain.
- They might think they are happy and ok… but it is so obvious that they are not.
- You are healing. They are not. Let go of your anger for your own benefit.
When forgiving someone: Focus inwards. You do NOT need to confront these
people if you don’t want to. Forgiveness comes from processing the anger inside
of yourself.
- Feel free to speak your forgiveness out loud (this can be extremely helpful), but you
don’t need to confront the person and forgive them directly or personally.
- Forgiveness is about processing the emotions inside of you, which you will learn how to
do soon in this course.
- DO NOT wait for an apology in order to forgive.
- What if they die without ever feeling sorry?
- Should your happiness be dependent on someone else’s healing and
remorse?
- Absolutely not.
- You needing them to feel bad about it is still based in anger and resentment,
which is unhealthy and goes against USL.
Spiritual practice of forgiveness to look into: Cord Cutting meditations and ceremonies.
- Feel free to look these up online.
- I sometimes feel like resorting to this ONLY is a form of spiritual bypassing.
- But… for the spiritual among you, this can be a great complementary exercise to the true
emotional release that we will be working on in this course.
Gratitude:
- What’s really going on here?
- Eliminating negativity and training pathways of positivity, truth, faith, and
surrender to make us more peaceful in our lives.
- The more that you PRACTICE gratitude, the more that you will find things
to be grateful for.
- The more that you find things to be grateful more, the stronger you will be against
the ways that things aren’t going exactly as you would want.
- Practicing gratitude will literally make you happier, stronger and more resilient.
- We are replacing the low vibes and self-harming internal pathways with
positive and loving ones that feel better and push us towards better action.
- Taking back your full power and ownership of your life.
- Creating looping cycles of positivity that will make your life better.
- We are training the brain to automatically resort to happiness and gratitude
in more moments. This will create positive, inspired, driven action that will
create a better life for yourself.
- Positive and intentional co-creation.
- How to practice gratitude:
- Daily Affirmations and positive ‘I AM’ Statements.
- Gratitude journals.
- Catch your negative thoughts. Replace them x 3.
- Always search for and find the lessons in your moments of emotional distress.
- Learn to appreciate the lessons in your pain.
- Turn your challenges into goals and notice your growth.
- Acting ‘as if’ - Be grateful for that which you don’t yet have. (Manifesting)
6 - Practicing Gratitude
Why we practice gratitude:
- Gratitude (like happiness, joy, calm, etc…) is an ART and a PRACTICE.
- It doesn’t ‘just happen’.
- It needs to be actively programmed into ourselves.
- We have spent our lives paving negative pathways in our brains.
- Now we need to spend time actively paving positive pathways to give our brains an
alternate route to go down, so that you don’t suffer as much.
- 99% of the time, our emotional reaction to something is due more to our inner
programming than to the reality of the circumstances.
- We have trained ourselves to always see problems and always be in ‘problem
solving mode’.
- Now we want to train ourselves to stay in gratitude and ‘everything is beautiful’
mode.
- We believe that any time we are not feeling well, there is an external problem that
needs to be solved, which isn’t true.
- Usually, the real problem is our own perception, our beliefs, our attitudes… our inner
world.
- Practicing gratitude helps pull us out of victim mentality and gain control over our lives
and our emotional responses.
- Practicing gratitude perpetuates itself - building momentum for more and more gratitude.
- We will learn that there is always something to be grateful for.
- Even if the only positive thing is the growth you get from your pain.
How Leonardo DiCaprio changed my life:
- The movie - ‘The Revenant’
- The true story of a Fur Trader from 1823.
- This man’s life is just about surviving from day to day.
- Every day is a struggle. Every day is pain. Cold. Snow. Rapes and pillaging. Traversing
long and dangerous terrain just to earn his living. Eventually getting mauled by a bear
and basically being left for dead by his team, etc…
- It’s all just torture.
- The moment in the movie that changed my life:
- Leo’s character survives, finds a native person to travel with. They don’t speak
the same language, but they choose to travel together for safety for a bit.
- In one brief moment of peace, Leo and the native are sitting on a rock as it
snows.
- One character sticks his tongue out and catches a snowflake.
- Then the other does the same.
- In that moment, they share a tiny laugh.
- And here’s the point:
- In that moment, I realized that for that person (a true life story)... that brief
moment of peace and laughter might just be the FUNNIEST THING HE HAS
EVER SEEN! Just catching a snowflake on their tongue.
- On his deathbed, he would be able to recount that one amazingly hilarious
moment when he once caught a snowflake on his tongue.
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My takeaway… If enjoyment of life is about seeking out the good moments, and in this
true story that one tiny moment was one of the best moments of his life… ever…
WE ARE SO FREAKING LUCKY!!!!
We - in the modern world - have SO MUCH TO BE GRATEFUL FOR!!!
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- Even though you are struggling and in pain right now… how many good moments
(as good or better than that moment), can you pick out from your life?
- How awesome is your life to have food? And a roof over your head? And clothes? And a
computer and the internet with the freedom to invest in a course like this and even spend
your time focusing on inner healing and self love?
- How many generations of humans did NOT have the luxuries that you have in this
very moment?
- Even in your moments of pain, you are so incredibly lucky.
Despite your true and real emotional struggles, you live in the modern
world with some form of abundance, and you should notice and appreciate
all that you DO have!
- Start practicing recognizing how lucky you are on a daily basis.
- Is your life perfect and without pain? Absolutely not!
- But do you get to have moments of pleasure spread out throughout your life… moreso
than many generations of humans (even people living today in warzones and captivity)
got to have?
- Being grateful for what you DO have and what you’re lucky for is great!
- But what’s even better?
- Learning how to be grateful for your pain, for your challenges, and for your
struggles!
- This is obviously tougher, but if you can remember and realize that even the bad
moments have their own form of beauty, then there will be hardly any room left for true
suffering.
- OBVIOUSLY… from the human perspective there is nothing pleasurable, funny or good
about the worst experiences that happen on this earth, from the level of higher
consciousness, all experience has it’s kind of beauty in the mere sense that we (the
united consciousness godhead - the universe - God…) we chose to create this Earth in
order to experience the full range of human emotions.
- But, lets’ step down one step… aside from the truest and worst traumas of our
lives… our regular struggles and even moments of depression have a form of
beauty to it.
- A little like a horror movie or a sad story.
- The intense emotion involved does indeed have a form of beauty, and when you are out
of the pain you will be able to appreciate it from the perspective of someone who
overcame it and grew from it.
- My father genuinely looks back at his time in the army as the best time in his life.
- Take that as you will… but it’s true.
- The things we experience as pain in the moment still carry a form of human
experience that - from a certain perspective - are beautiful.
- Even our pain can be appreciated in it’s own way.
- Let’s learn to try to be grateful for every (or almost every) experience in our lives.
- AGAIN… we can exclude the moments of TRUE victimization from this lesson.
- I don’t want you to think that I’m encouraging you to find joy in moments of
childhood abuse.
- Buuuut… when you DO fully heal… I promise you won’t see those things in the
same way either.
- You will have compassion for the person who was able to treat you so
poorly.
- And you will have enough strength to not suffer from it.
- You will see those moments from a higher - divine - perspective.
You have likely had more moments of joy and happiness
than a huge portion of all humans who ever lived.
- That being said, DO NOT give yourself crap for not being more grateful!
- That’s the opposite of what we’re going for here.
- Don’t shame yourself for not appreciating what you have.
- Just practice being grateful and seeing the positives in your life more often.
7 - Find the Feeling
- This is a FOUNDATIONAL and CORE skill that you will need to base the rest of
your healing journey on!
- Every emotion that we experience comes along with 2 kinds of sensation:
- Energetic sensation.
- Things that you feel in your body that are not strictly physical.
- Ex: anxiety (the turning feeling in your stomach, tightness in your chest,
etc…)
- It’s something that you can point to, but that can’t be picked up by - say -
and MRI or an X-ray.
- It feels physical, but it’s not literally physical.
- That’s why we call it an ‘energetic sensation’.
- All emotions are accompanied by an energetic sensation of this kind.
- To help with our healing, you want to start recognizing that there is always
an energetic sensation, and practicing actively finding it in your body.
- Practice putting your conscious attention onto the energetic sensations
attributed to your emotions.
- Physical/physiological foundation.
- Partly presents as the tension and resistance in your physical body
(tensing up muscles, cringing, protective physical responses).
- We tense up as a way to prevent certain sensations to move fully through
us.
- It is our way of avoiding pain… but this is part of what keeps our emotions
stuck inside of us.
- So, when triggered, do a quick body scan, see where you are
holding on to tension and allow yourself to relax and release those
muscles.
- By doing this, you will be forced to confront more of the uncomfortable
energetic sensations that are trying to run through you, but that’s basically
the point.
- By allowing the energy to move through you - although it’s uncomfortable
- you will be able to finally release and resolve the emotion you’ve been
holding on to.
- You are COMPLETELY SAFE to experience whatever uncomfortable
sensations that are trying to run through your body.
- We suffer more than we need to because we find ourselves stuck as being the
experiencer of the emotion.
- But… by learning how to focus more on the physical and energetic sensations of
this (instead of being stuck in the intangible emotion), we can learn to become the
objective observer to the experience, and suffer less.
- This skill builds on the body scan meditation that we have been practicing this week.
8 - Subconscious Healing
- IMPORTANT AND CRUCIAL EXERCISES!!! PAY ATTENTION.
- In this video, you will get 2 out of the 4 most important exercises for doing your
emotional healing.
- We call these 2 ‘subconscious healing’ exercises because you do not need to know
exactly what you are healing in order to heal it.
- You are going to learn how to release and resolve buried emotions WITHOUT
needing to intellectualize or understand them AT ALL!
- Each exercise will come in 3 different forms, to be used as necessary for different
purposes and in different circumstances.
- The exercises themselves are in fact shockingly simple.
- Before explaining either, one important note!
***These exercises MUST BE COMBINED WITH THE ‘FIND THE FEELING’ Technique from
the last video!***
- If you are just repeating the phrases in your head without focusing on the uncomfortable
physical and energetic sensations of your body, you will not be getting the true effect of
these practices.
***The idea is to ACTIVELY FOCUS on the uncomfortable sensations associated with an
emotion, while practicing these tools.***
Exercise #1 - Ho’oponopono
- An ancient Hawaiian technique used to heal the emotional (and… it is said… even the
physical) body.
- Consists of 4 phrases - IN ORDER…
- I’m Sorry
- Please Forgive Me
- Thank you
- I love you.
- These phrases force your subconscious mind and your body to process the trapped
emotion through the various stages of grieving and acceptance associated with each of
those 4 phrases.
- I’m sorry = recognition of your pain. Acknowledging where you are hurting and no
longer running from your discomfort.
- Please forgive me = Taking responsibility and beginning the forgiving process.
Accepting that you are fallible and human and owning up to your pain, your
mistakes, or whatever else you are holding on to.
- Thank you = Recognition that forgiveness and release has taken place.
- I love you = Our ultimate goal (unconditional self love).
- By repeating these phrases over and over while focusing on your energetic and
physical distress, your mind and body will process the unresolved emotion and
allow it to run through you.
- When repeating these phrases, you should mainly be aiming those phrases at
yourself
- Ie - You are asking YOURSELF for forgiveness (for not knowing better at the
time)
- You are thanking YOURSELF for allowing forgiveness to take place.
- You are saying ‘I Love you’ you YOURSELF.
- In some situations (which you will see below), it’s ok to aim this at an outside
person, but remember… healing and forgiveness is all about what happens
inside of you and has nothing to do with the other people, so…
- For the most part, your intentions are aimed at yourself for having these
uncomfortable emotions and reactions, not at the people who triggered them.
Exercise #2 - Self love practice
- This exercise consists merely of one phrase, designed to help us release old emotions
as well, but also to develop the self-love we are trying to program ourselves for.
- The phrase is:
I love myself, and I am Beautiful.
- That’s it! Simple and straightforward.
- All other instructions are just like exercise #1.
- No other explanation is required.
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The 3 Forms of these exercises:
FORM #1 - In Front of the Mirror
- This form is ABSOLUTELY CRUCIAL THAT YOU DEVOTE YOURSELF TO ASAP!
- This is how we are going to break down the walls between your head and your heart and
prepare for the true, deeper healing we are moving towards.
- You CANNOT move on to true deeper healing until you have performed this AT
LEAST TWICE for each exercise.
How to:
- Prepare 5-10 minutes of undisturbed, uninterrupted time.
- Find a mirror to look into.
- Look into 1 eye, and repeat the phrases twice (either ho’oponopono or the self love
phrase).
- Look into your other eye and repeat the same phrases twice.
- Look into both eyes and repeat the same phrases twice.
- Repeat for 5-10 minutes.
Q: What is the Goal of this exercise:
- If you are doing it properly, within a few minutes… emotions will start to arise.
- You might want to cry. You might start shaking. You might feel uncomfortable sensations
in your body, etc…
- If this happens AWESOME!
- Remember… these things CANNOT HURT YOU, and bringing them up to be
released is exactly how you are going to heal!
- Now… here’s the crucial part!
- Once the emotions start flowing.. DO NOT STOP until you are in control of your
words and your emotions again.
- Once they settle down, you will know that you have broken the barriers and
released some trapped emotions.
- You have done an amazing job!
Q: What if no emotions come up?
- That’s ok. It might mean that you are more blocked off than you realize, or it might mean
that you are more open than you realized (more realistically the latter).
- If you can look deep into your eyes and repeat these phrases for 5-10 minutes without
bringing up emotions, it at least means that we can move on to other exercises.
Q: What if I have resistance to this and don’t want to do it?
- Well… that’s EXACTLY WHY you need to be doing this exercise!
- Because there are uncomfortable emotions buried but bubbling up right under the
surface that are about to come up when you do this exercise! That’s the whole
point.
- Just remember that you are safe, that your emotions can’t hurt you and COMMIT to
doing this.
- You signed up for this course for healing, right? Well… it starts right here!
- DO NOT SKIP THIS EXERCISE!
Q: How many times do I need to do this exercise:
- As mentioned, I would like you to do it twice for each exercise (ho’oponopono and I love
myself and I am beautiful) before you move on to the core exercises of week 3.
- But realistically, you should continue doing these exercises as often as possible
until they no longer bring up uncomfortable emotions; ie - until you can look
yourself in the eye and say these phrases with nothing but self-love and
confidence in your heart.
Form #2 - In your Day to Day life
- Basically… this is how you should be confronting all of your triggered moments from
here on out!
- Whenever you are out and about in your life and someone or something triggers a
negative emotion, instead of responding the way you used to, you want to:
- 1 - Observe and notice the emotion,
- 2 - Congratulate yourself for noticing it and catching it, instead of merely
reacting to it.
- 3 - Find the Feeling/Sensations inside of you.
- 4 - Repeat the phrases while actively focusing on the uncomfortable
sensations.
- 5 - Continue as long as you can, and/or until the sensations and emotions
subside.
- Helpful tip / suggestion:
- For this purpose/form, you can use either Ho’oponopono or ‘I love myself and I
am beautiful’ as you see fit, but i recommend the following as a general rule:
- When some ELSE triggers you (someone being rude, for example),
use Ho’oponopono.
- When you and/or your own thoughts trigger you, use ‘I love myself
and I am beautiful’.
This is now your go-to response whenever you get triggered in your day to
day life!
Form #3 - In Meditation
- Using these phrases/exercises in meditation can help you in 2 ways:
- 1 - Dealing with persistent uncomfortable emotions (like anxiety that sticks with
you over extended periods of time, or other things like guilt or shame that are
lasting more than a few minutes when you first experience them).
- 2 - Digging up and releasing old buried emotions that you don’t know are down
there.
- By focusing on these phrases (and whatever sensations you experience in your body)
during meditation, you can achieve deep healing and release of buried emotions
WITHOUT NEEDING TO KNOW OR UNDERSTAND exactly what you are healing and
releasing.
- Use this as often as possible and necessary.
9 - How to Stop Recycling Fear
- There is a vicious subconscious cycle that is happening all the time, that you don’t
realize which has been keeping you in your pain, fear, and self-deprecating loops.
What is this subconscious cycle?
- By now, you understand that:
- When you experienced emotions you didn’t know how to release, you pushed the
emotions away and created defense mechanisms to help you survive the
moment.
- You told your heart “hold on to this pain, and i’ll come back and deal with it
later”
- But you never came back to deal with it later.
- Your emotional body is constantly TRYING TO HELP YOU HEAL by sending up your
unresolved emotions to the surface, saying:
- “Hey! You promised me you would deal with this when you were safe… can we
do it now”.
- But… you don’t understand that this is happening, so you say “nope.. Keep
holding on to it, and take this new moment of distress and hold onto this too”.
- This triggers the subconscious cycle where:
- Instead of dealing with your pain, your brain searches for an external danger
(trigger, problem, issue to solve) that it can try to deal with.
- It does this because it thinks that you are in danger.
- You thinking that you are in danger (not safe to deal with the repressed emotion)
is why you are still avoiding this pain, so your brain shifts into problem solving
mode, and desperately searches for a problem to solve.
- Your brain naturally thinks: “Oh! There’s emotional distress! That must
mean I’m in danger and that there is some external problem that needs to
be solved!”
- But of course… there is no real external danger, only an old unresolved emotion
coming up to be dealt with.
- What happens when your brain searches for a problem even though there isn't
one?
- It will FIND ONE!
- And/or it will MAKE ONE UP!
- So… There was no real problem, but in order to stay in control of the situation,
your brain creates a problem so that it can perform it’s ‘problem solving function’
to keep you safe.
- But you weren’t in danger in the first place!
- And now your brain thinks that you’re in danger.
- And therein lies the harmful cycle.
- Your fear based brain finds reasons to be afraid, and NOW you have a problem.
- It’s a fake problem… but you have a problem to focus on nonetheless, and now
you’re screwed and stuck in this cycle.
- These new thoughts around an imagined problem create energetic and physical
sensations of being in danger.
- These physical and energetic sensations create more uncomfortable and
distressed emotions.
- Those emotions now need an explanation, so your brain comes up with more
problems, which creates more sensations of being in danger…
- And around and around and around we go… perpetuating this cycle of imagining
that you are in danger even though you are not.
Emotions > Thoughts > Sensations > Emotions > Thoughts > Sensations > Emotions
- This is the subconscious cycle that you never recognized that has kept you from ever
truly confronting your pain and actually healing and releasing all the things you’ve been
carrying around with you.
- The emotional distress that you are experiencing right now is ACTUALLY because
of old unresolved pain, not because of what’s really happening in your life right
now.
- By learning to recognize this pattern and - instead of creating new thoughts - refocus our
attention directly on our emotions and our sensations, we can end this cycle and actually
make use of this process that your body is TRYING TO USE TO HELP YOU, to allow
yourself to release the old emotions that are trying to get resolved in the moment.
- Mindful awareness of this cycle, of our emotions and of our sensations is how we
end the cycle and finally heal.
- Stop running from the uncomfortable sensations and emotions!
- Let your brain know that YOU ARE NOT IN DANGER by no longer pushing aside
the internal discomfort.
- Your heart has been been waiting until you were no longer in danger to finally heal and
release, so you need to let it know that you are currently safe.
- You can accomplish this by preventing yourself from looking for an external
problem to solve, and instead turning your focussed attention DIRECTLY and
INTENTLY onto the INTERNAL problem that is happening in the moment!
- This is where and how healing happens.
- Just stop running from your pain and into external, imagined problems.
- The unpleasant emotion and sensation inside of you is ONLY THAT!
- It’s ONLY uncomfortable and unpleasant… but you are NOT in danger!
- Learn to recognize and accept that you are not in danger, and you can start truly
healing.
10 - FAQ
- On the concept of Forgiveness: What is forgiveness and how do I forgive?
- Forgiveness has NOTHING TO DO with the other person.
- It is ALL ABOUT processing your own feelings of anger, guilt, shame, judgment,
etc…
- You are holding onto uncomfortable and unhelpful sensations.
- By feeling them and releasing those feelings, you will have forgiven them.
- That’s all.
- As long as you are still holding on to anger against someone inside of you, you
have not yet fully forgiven them.
- That’s ok, by the way… but that’s what happening.
- On Ho’oponopono: Why/how does it work?
- Each of the 4 phrases resonates at a different emotion and state.
- By repeating the phrases while focused on the feelings, we are moving through
the various emotions and stages of consciousness associated with each of the 4
phrases.
- From guilt and shame, to courage and pride, to acceptance and willingness, and
finally to love.
- Reminder: We are trying to STOP intellectualizing and analyzing our pain so
much.
- Point Being - at least for now, when you are triggered… STOP ASKING WHY!
- Just focus on WHAT GETS TRIGGERED.
- Not WHY you got triggered!
- Also… don’t forget… be kind to yourself.
- You are not failing by being triggered.
- You are succeeding by noticing that you are getting triggered.
- Reminder: The ‘Subconscious Healing Exercises’ are ABSOLUTELY CRUCIAL!
- You cannot achieve any of the deeper healing until you learn how to use these
exercises properly.
- ESPECIALLY the ‘in front of the mirror’ version.
- This is how we will break the barriers and prepare to heal.
- If you are feeling resistance, that means you HAVE TO DO IT!
- Just remember… you are safe! These emotions can’t hurt you. You are no longer
in the danger that your brain thinks you are.
- Even those of you prone to self harm, this exercise will not make you feel that
kind of pain. It will help you feel better. I promise.
- Remember to KEEP REPEATING THE PHRASES until the emotions
subside.
- Confronting and releasing your emotions might be uncomfortable, but it is the
best kind of uncomfortable and will help you feel better almost instantly.
- Reminder: CRYING IS AWESOME!
- You might be afraid to do some of these exercises because they might make you
cry, but crying is how we release old unresolved pain.
- Do not be afraid to cry.
- Important Truth: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE ON THIS JOURNEY!
- This is literally, practically, and logically true.
- It is nonsensical for you to ‘fail’.
- Why?...
- How do we heal, improve and grow?
- By catching our shortcomings so that we can change our reactions.
Right?
- What makes you think that you failed?
- By noticing your shortcoming and ways in which you were not perfect.
Right?
- So… what did we discover?
- The ONLY WAY to even THINK that you failed… is the EXACT THING that
you need to do in order to succeed!
- Therefore, it is logically impossible to fail.
- EXCEPT… if you give yourself shit for not being perfect.
- That is the only way that we might consider that you failed.
- Failure is only determined by your reaction to your behavior… not by the
behavior itself.
- So…
- Give your brain a cookie!
- Start practicing congratulating yourself and being happy and proud for
noticing the things that you are not doing perfectly.
- You did NOT fail by being imperfect!
- You Succeeded by noticing, observing, and catching the way in which you
weren’t perfect!
- You didn’t used to notice these things!
- Noticing them now is a HUGE SUCCESS!
- So, congratulate yourself every time you notice what you might otherwise
call a ‘failure’.
- You did a phenomenal job by raising your consciousness enough to finally notice
and catch the things that used to go unnoticed!
Week 3:
1 - Intro
- Reminder: Weeks 2 and 3 contain some of the most crucial healing material, so make
sure you’re paying attention.
- Week 3 is about doing the CONSCIOUS healing work (versus the subconscious
releasing we were dealing with in week 2).
- Here, we are learning how to more directly confront triggers and traumas.
- But still:
- The ‘answers’ are not the focus here.
- We are focused on conscious awareness of the problems.
- But finding the logical explanations for our defense mechanisms is not the issue.
- We do NOT need to dissect all the psychological issues here.
- Only trying to ALLOW our subconscious to express itself to the conscious
mind.
- As we confront these emotions and triggers, keep in mind:
- The traumas that you are holding on to are anchoring you down in low energies.
- We are learning how to dive down into the depths of our traumas and undo
those anchors.
- We’re not going into the LOGIC of them… but into the energy of them.
- Point being… expect ups and downs emotionally as you go through this.
- It’s normal.
- ‘Trauma’ doesn’t necessarily refer to extreme situations.
- Trauma is any instance where you experienced hurtful emotions that you
weren’t able to express and release in the moment.
- Any moment where you stuffed away emotions to be dealt with later.
- So, ESPECIALLY for those who have deep, intense traumas… DON’T WORRY!
- We are NOT hunting down past trauma.
- You don’t need to stress about being forced to confront anything you’re not
ready to.
- This whole process is going to happen naturally. From the top down.
- Your subconscious will start unravelling itself naturally and progressively.
- You do NOT need to do EVERYTHING in this course every single day.
- Keep moving through the course and picking up tools and skills as you go.
- Focus on the MAJOR things that I’m giving you each week.
- In other words… I know I’m giving you a lot. Don’t let yourself get
overwhelmed by it.
- Your heart and subconscious will lead you naturally through this process.
BUT… MAKE SURE YOU DID THE EXERCISES IN FRONT OF
THE MIRROR FROM WEEK 2! THOSE ARE CRUCIAL!
Also remember that what you are learning in this course:
THESE ARE THE TOOLS AND SKILLS THAT YOU WILL BE USING
FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!
- Point being, this is a process.
- It will take time to master all of these things.
- Don’t stress about how far along you are just yet.
- We are still starting to program and practice new skills.
- So, relax into the process!
- You’re getting there.
- Lastly...
- I’m proud of you!
- You’re doing a great job by following through with the course.
2 - Working From the Outside, In.
- This is how we are going to be doing this inner healing:
- People who feel worse after doing shadow work generally experience that because they
are doing things backwards.
- What does it mean to ‘work from the outside, in’.
- Most therapy and common shadow work deals with tracking down your core
traumas.
- Ie - searching for all of the things that caused your pain and defense
mechanisms.
- This is BACKWARDS, because those core traumas are too heavy for you to lift
right now.
- You haven't yet learned how to process and release trauma.
- So, why would you start with the BIGGEST traumas?
- That makes no sense!
- Your core traumas are like the 200 pound weights of trauma that you carry.
- But right now, you can't lift 5 pounds!
- We need to learn to start with the light weight, surface level wounds and
triggers.
- This is the simpler and easier way to build muscle.
- We are following the bread crumb trail down, until we get to your core wounds
naturally.
- Your small emotional triggers in your day to day life are actually a symptom of
deeply buried trauma and unresolved emotions.
- Your daily annoyances are just bringing up past pain you never dealt with.
- Our goal is just to focus on the little ways that you are getting triggered in
the moment DIRECTLY. NOT trying to logic them down to what caused them
in the first place.
- The goal is just to deal with your feelings in the moment.
- Every moment of emotional distress you didn’t deal with is like putting a pebble in
your emotional backpack.
- The core wounds are the pebbles at the bottom of the bag.
- You can’t get to them until you clear out the pebbles at the top.
- So, we are going to start at the top, and work our way down.
- When you didn’t resolve an emotion in the moment, you created a defense
mechanism (a way of avoiding the pain in the moment to help you survive).
- The problem is that this defense mechanism follows you around, and you keep
playing it out even though you are no longer in danger
- Living as if you are in danger, although you are not in danger, is what causes
your ongoing pain.
- It’s all about fear.
- Over time, you simply forgot that you are currently responding to a defense
mechanism developed in the past.
- Refractory periods:
- For any emotion that comes up, there is a certain amount of time that it takes for
that emotion to get resolved (this is the refractory period)
- If we don’t feel, release, and resolve it properly during that time, it gets dug down
deeper into our psyche.
- An instantaneous EMOTION becomes a MOOD (which also has a refractory
period).
- A MOOD becomes a TEMPERAMENT.
- A TEMPERAMENT becomes a PERSONALITY TRAIT.
- A PERSONALITY TRAIT becomes a CORE BELIEF.
- A CORE BELIEF becomes a FUNDAMENTAL ELEMENT OF REALITY.
- And that fundamental element of reality guides all of your actions and choices
moving forward, which creates that actual world you live in.
UNRESOLVED EMOTIONS KEEP DIGGING THEMSELVES DEEPER AND
DEEPER INTO THE CORE OF YOUR IDENTITY - UNTIL YOU COMPLETELY
FORGET WHERE THEY CAME FROM.
- From the top, down, is a process of excavation - as opposed to a process of drilling, like
therapy tries to do.
We are going to clear away what is at the surface, and work our way down
to the core wounds naturally.
- Your triggers are indications, symptoms, and reflections of the things that you never
dealt with in the past.
- We are only going to deal with what gets triggered in the moment!
- We are never going to focus too much on trying to find the cause.
- We will just learn how to deal with the triggers, and let the causes reveal
themselves when they are ready to.
3 - Weekly Exercises
Remember - week 3 is about learning how to confront our uncomfortable emotions and
triggers directly and consciously to learn how to release them and start discovering what
they have to show us.
1 - Mantra: Everything happens FOR ME, not TO ME!
- We are starting to reframe what the purpose of our lives are.
- When you can recognize that you are here to heal, grow, learn, and evolve, then
you can start understanding your challenges from a different vantage point.
- You are not here just to chase physical pleasures.
- Your challenges are leading you to growth.
- Without that growth life would be meaningless.
- Therefore, without struggle… life would also be meaningless.
- We will speak more about this in week 7.
- It’s unfortunately true that we don’t motivate ourselves to change (usually) when we are
comfortable.
- Only pain sparks us to move.
- Your emotional body is TRYING TO TELL YOU THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG.
- The pain is happening FOR YOUR BENEFIT.
*PLEASE DO NOT OVER-INTERPRET THIS WHEN IT COMES TO
CHILDHOOD TRAUMA AND MOMENTS OF TRUE ABUSE AND
VICTIMIZATION!*
- If you were truly abused, raped, kidnapped, etc… I am not saying that those things
happened for your benefit.
- Your ongoing pain that you continue to experience is happening for your benefit,
because your emotional body is trying to show you what you are still holding onto.
- The ways in which you keep playing out your pain are happening FOR you, to
guide you in the direction of your healing.
- It is within your power to heal, and until you do you can’t achieve your greatest life.
- This mantra is meant to help break you out of victim mentality, and to start taking control
of your life as a conscious creator of what you can experience.
- We’re trying to give you your power back!
IT MAY NOT BE TRUE THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, BUT
WHEN YOU CHOOSE TO LEARN AND GROW FROM THE BAD THINGS,
THEY WILL HAVE HAPPENED FOR A REASON.
2 - Breathing Exercise - Flutter breath
- With the first 2 breathing exercises, we were learning how to release tension from our
breathing.
- The flutter breath will help you relax your belly and torso even more, to experience less
tension when you breath.
- Flutter breath consists of:
- Extremely quick in and out breaths.
- BUT…
- DO NOT FORCE THE BREATH FROM YOUR NOSE OR MOUTH!
- Instead, you are trying to focus on moving your diaphragm and/or belly in
and out very quickly, in a loose fashion.
- The movement from your belly will pull the air in and out.
- If this makes you light headed, you are probably forcing too hard, and that
is the opposite of the intention.
- The idea is to RELAX the muscles as much as possible.
- This forces a reset in your muscles.
- It also oxygenates your body extremely well.
- People training to hold their breath for a long time use this technique before
holding their breaths.
- Do this for 10-20 seconds at a time.
- End with a full, deep exhale.
- Then repeat 2-3 times in a row.
- To help practice this, lie on your back while listening to something that will make
you laugh hard. This will help release your ab muscles and experience the
‘rubber pencil’ effect in your abs.
3 - Gratitude Exercise - What Impossible Thing Did You Overcome?
- As usual, focus either on one event and keep building, OR focus on a different one every
day.
- Point is to acknowledge your power.
- If you accomplished THAT in the past… you can certainly accomplish whatever next
challenge you think is impossible, right?
- You once thought something was impossible and you did it.
- So, why is this next challenge any different?
- We are developing grit and inner strength.
- During this exercise, practice gratitude for the challenge itself and the strength you
gained from accomplishing something that was difficult.
- Connect this with the mantra for this week as well.
This is what the BRAG BOOK is all about - remembering the awesome things
you’ve done in the past and remembering that you are stronger than you think.
4 - Meditation - Light Healing
- Building on Body Scan Meditation and the Find the Feeling exercise.
- Find a part of you that is holding tension, that is in pain, that feels uncomfortable,
or wherever you just feel a lot of energy. (if you can feel any of that, just choose
any part of your body… your heart space is a great place to start).
- Mainly, we are just trying to practice focusing on a particular part of your part.
- How to actively feel whatever is happening inside of you without fear.
- Then… imagine breathing or bringing light into that part of your body.
- Imagine filling that part of you with bright, divine, beautiful light.
- On the spiritual side, different color lights have different effects and purposes.
- Feel free to look up the colors of the various chakras, as well as violet flame light
healing.
- But for general purposes, just imagine white light filling whatever area you are
focusing on.
4 - The Mirror Exercise
THIS IS THE CENTRAL EXERCISE FOR CONSCIOUS HEALING OF
TRIGGERS, TRAUMAS, AND EMOTIONS!!!
MAKE SURE YOU UNDERSTAND AND PRACTICE THIS!
- You will be using this exercise extensively until you find yourself truly in a state of
self-love and inner power.
- This is an exercise you won’t really need to do for the rest of your life, but is absolutely
essential during the core of your healing journey.
- *Not to be confused with the exercises we did in front of the mirror in week 2*
- MAKE SURE YOU HAVE DONE THOSE EXERCISES BEFORE MOVING
ONTO THIS!
- Training your subconscious mind to allow itself to express itself to you.
- You WILL find some answers to your issues, but that’s more of a bi-product.
- A lot of the techniques we have been learning so far will come into play here, and
we will connect the dots between all of them.
HOW TO DO THE MIRROR EXERCISE:
- This exercise is best used when you are feeling ongoing distress (anxiety, overwhelm,
stress, depression… that is lasting over time)
- Step 1: Settle into a state of calm (basic meditation)
- Get into a comfortable position
- Spend a minute or a few breathing, relaxing, settling in.
- Step 2: Use the ‘FInd the Feeling’ technique.
- Locate the energetic distress sensation inside of you related to whatever stress
or emotional distress you are feeling in the moment.
- Step 3: Use the ‘Light Healing’ Technique.
- Envision breathing light into that part of you.
- Focus your attention onto that area of you.
- Step 4: Envision pulling that ball of light out of you.
- Wherever you were breathing light into yourself, evision the ball of light your
created coming out of your chest, your mouth, your head… whatever feels best
for you.
- Step 5: Place this ball of light in front of you.
- Feel free to give the ball of light a form now:
- Ex: A spirit animal, a mirrored version of you, your inner child, etc…
- Step 6: Ask this person, animal or thing questions.
- Start with: ‘Why am I feeling this way?’
- Step 7: DO NOT TRY TO ANSWER THE QUESTION YOURSELF!!!!
- The whole point of this exercise is that YOU ARE THE LISTENER.
- You are not trying to ‘solve’ the problem with your conscious mind.
- You are letting your subconscious mind express itself. That’s all.
- Sit with the question until some thought naturally pops up on it’s own.
HERE’S THE CRUCIAL PART!
WHATEVER COMES UP… DO NOT QUESTION IT!
EVEN IF YOU THINK THAT IT’S JUST YOUR IMAGINATION!
EVEN IF THE ANSWER DOESN’T MAKE SENSE!
DO NOT DOUBT THE ANSWER THAT COMES UP!
- Step 8: Continue this line of questioning.
- Once you get your first answer, ask a question about the answer you just got.
- When you get an answer to that… ask a question about THAT answer.
- KEEP ASKING QUESTIONS AND FOLLOWING THE BREADCRUMB TRAIL.
- Examples of questions you might want to ask:
- Why does ‘x’ make me feel this way?
- Do I believe that ‘x’ is really going to happen?
- Do I believe that this is actually going to cause problems in my life?
- What happened to me in the past that make me feel this way?
- How long have I been feeling this way?
- But… Just follow your intuition. Ask whatever seems relevant.
- The point here is just not to get in your own way.
- Allow answers to come up on their own, and just follow the line of questioning wherever
it leads you.
- Keep going either until you get to ‘the end of the exercise’ (see below for the goal),
or until you simply feel like ‘you’ve done enough for today’.
- Ie - you don’t need to finish this exercise or get to any particular answers in a
single session.
- Remember: The main purpose of this exercise is to let your emotions unravel
themselves. To allow your subconscious mind to learn that it is safe to express
itself. To allow your ‘inner child’ (if you want) to finally let out whatever it’s been
holding on to.
What is the ‘end goal’ of the exercise?
- 2 main goals:
- #1 - To arrive at a limiting belief.
- When you arrive at a limiting belief (ex: I am not worthy of love):
- Keep asking as many questions as you want about where this is coming
from (why you believe it), and let yourself untangle those thoughts and
traumas as much as you like.
- EVENTUALLY… (and this is the real goal), you are going to want to ask,
“Do I truly believe this thing”
- The END GOAL is when your inner self can truly and honestly say, “Oh…
no… I don’t really believe this”.
- When you reach a limiting belief and realize that deep down you
don’t believe that it’s true, you have achieved goal #1.
- If you ask “Do I believe this?” and your inner voice still says “Yes…
because…”, that’s OK!
- It just means that you’re not done yet.
- Keep asking questions until you can come back around and ask
again… “Do I truly believe this?”
- #2 - Ask your inner self what you can do to feel better.
- This should mainly be done AFTER you have achieved goal #1, but…
- If in a single session you don’t get to the end of goal #1, you can try to
end your session with this question anyway, to help you take care of
yourself in the meantime as you will continue to work on this stuff.
- Then, do whatever your inner voice said that it needs.
- You are showing your subconscious that it can get what it needs
from you, and you are practicing self-love and self care.
- As for the answers that you will get (logical answers)... they are mainly a
byproduct.
- Your brain already knew the answers.
- They’re not especially important.
- It’s really just about the unravelling of these emotions.
- Step 9: When you are finishing up any session of this:
- Envision giving this external version of yourself a hug or a kiss.
- Envision pulling it back into yourself and replacing it where it came from.
- It’s like you pulled the energy out, cleaned a little, and put it back in.
REMEMBER (sum up of important points):
- DO NOT TRY TO ANSWER THE QUESTIONS. JUST LISTEN!
- DO NOT DOUBT WHATEVER ANSWERS COME UP - EVEN IF THEY DON’T MAKE
ANY SENSE AT ALL! Just go with it.
- Don’t rush an answer once you’ve asked a question. Feel free to sit with the question for
a few seconds or more. Let the answer come naturally.
- If you find yourself rushing to an answer… either just go with the answer that
came up immediately, or take a breath, calm yourself, focus on whatever you’re
feeling, and wait a moment longer.
- This will take many sessions over a fair amount of time, but every instance of you doing
this provides some healing and relief and strength.
- NOTHING CAN HURT YOU. You are completely safe.
- The logical answers don’t really matter.
GOOD LUCK!
5 - Inner Child Healing Exercise
- This is the 2nd major exercise for direct conscious healing.
- The Mirror Exercise is the primary one.
- This exercise is complementary to it, to help you deal with any distressful
memories that may linger in you or that come up when you are doing the mirror
exercise.
- Any traumatic memories that you hold inside of you can be dealt with here.
- This is called the ‘inner child healing exercise’, but is not just about childhood.
- When an uncomfortable memory comes up, before using this exercise, use the
week 2 subconscious healing exercises as much as possible on the feelings that
arise.
- Do as much subconscious healing as possible on the EMOTIONS first, before moving on
to this conscious healing of the MEMORY.
- The idea is that once you have dealt with the emotions around a trauma, this
memory no longer serves a purpose at all, and just keeps firing neurons down
pathways that we want to stop paving.
- The GOAL of this exercise is to OVERWRITE OLD, UNHELPFUL, TRAUMATIC
MEMORIES around which you have already done as much healing as is possible.
- We want to stop firing neurons down the pathways of the old unhelpful memories, so that
we stop paving pathways of fear, doubt, guilt, shame etc…
- This is NOT an act of denial!
- It’s just a matter of paving new pathways so that you no longer need to fuel your pain.
- Your brain doesn’t care if a memory or real is imagined… but it needs a pathway
to shoot the neurons down when a particular trigger comes up.
- We are giving your brain a new pathway - a new memory - in relation to a given trigger,
so that your brain has a positive and loving story to play out when something reminds
you of a painful memory from your past, which you no longer have any use for.
How to do the Inner Child Healing:
- Step 1: Enter a state of relaxation/meditation:
- Just like we did in the mirror exercise, settle into a comfortable state.
- Step 2: Envision the event that happened.
- Start at the very beginning of the story.
- Step 3: Envision stepping into the role of the person who hurt you.
- You are not replaying the memory from the lens of your past self.
- You are replaying it from the perspective of the person who hurt you.
- Step 4: Do the memory over!
- Give your inner child what you should have gotten the first time.
- This is not about just telling your inner child that they were wrong to do it.
- That’s not helpful.
- This is about BUILDING A NEW MEMORY!
- A new positive version of this scenario in your head, so that when you get
triggered, your brain has a loving story to play out.
- Step 5: Play out the full story.
- Take the story to its logical conclusion, if you had been treated the way that you
should have been treated when this happened the first time around.
- Step 6: Give the story a happy ending.
- Leave your inner child in a positive activity.
- In other words, pretend like when you end this exercise, the version of yourself
that you are imagining will stay perpetually wherever you leave it, playing out the
end of the story.
- Ex: in my example, I talk about ending the story with my inner child playing catch
with my dad. So when I end the exercise, that inner version of me can keep
playing catch with my dad. Perpetually enjoying some father-son time.
- By performing this exercise, your brain now has a powerful new memory to play out
whenever something reminds you of what used to trigger the old painful memories and
emotions.
- We will stop paving the old pathways of fear and pain in our brain, and start paving new
pathways of love and trust and joy.
- REMEMBER - Always try to focus on the feelings of whatever is happening as much as
you are focusing on the actual visualization.
- You might need to do this exercise a few times for any given memory, but not always.
IMPORTANT NOTE:
- This exercise might seem a little distasteful when we are dealing with INTENSE
traumatic experiences (like rape or real physical abuse).
- Nonetheless, distasteful as it may seem, it does still work, so I would encourage you to
try it anyway.
- If doing so brings up uncomfortable emotions, remember… that’s actually kind of
a good thing (we WANT to bring up uncomfortable emotions for us to heal).
- If that happens, shift over to ho’oponopono or ‘I love myself and I am Beautiful’
(or even the mirror exercise) around that feeling for a bit, until you can continue
with this exercise.
- Heal the uncomfortable emotions with the subconscious healing techniques, then
come back.
- Alternatively, if your inner mind refuses to step into the role of the person who did that
much pain to you in this kind of situation, then envision someone else entirely and create
a memory where this entire scenario didn’t happen at all.
- I don’t truly recommend this strategy, but it is sometimes necessary for extreme
traumas that you don’t want to acknowledge anymore at all.
- It is ok if this is what is necessary.
6 - Theory Work
Doing the conscious Healing Work.
- If you master one thing, you have mastered ALL things.
- In order to master anything, you must first master yourself and your environment. So,
let’s just focus on mastering ourselves, and let the rest happen naturally.
Preparing to Heal:
- Priming your brain for the healing that is about to happen.
- We don’t want to go too far too fast. We need to let your brain know that you’re about to
start diving into this stuff so it doesn’t freak out and back off when we begin.
- We HAVE BEEN preparing to heal in the first 2 weeks, of course.
- Darkness runs from the light:
- The unhealed parts of yourself resist being looked at, because your brain still
thinks that you are in danger.
- To someone who is living in the shadows, they look at truly loving people with
suspicion and disdain.
- Darkness likes to pretend that the whole world is dark.
- It doesn’t feel comfortable feeling love… speaking up… seeing the light.
- Be aware that your ego will freak out a bit when we start confronting our
pain.
- When healing, we always need to focus on love
- Do not confront the hurting parts of yourself with anger.
- The hurting parts of yourself are NOT the villain.
- They are the victims.
- You can’t heal darkness with more darkness.
- Our goal is to give unconditional love to the parts of ourselves that never had a
chance to express themselves.
- You can’t have Unconditional Self Love while rejecting ANY parts of yourself.
- We are addicted to negativity, because pushing things away is how we
have kept ourselves safe.
- But that is also the very cycle that keeps us in pain.
- Your brain thinks that it’s kept you safe (because you’re still alive),
not realizing the harm that it has been causing through this rejection
of self.
- Negativity is our comfort zone.
- It’s how your brain has been programmed.
- You MUST start understanding the damage that this is causing.
- Crying is AWESOME!
- Crying is your body’s natural way of releasing unresolved emotions.
- Tears not cried lead to illness in the body.
- Crying is for the emotional body what sweating is for the physical body:
- If you work out and don’t sweat, you will die.
- Similar to the emotional body.
- We need to cry.
- But, there are various kinds of crying.
- Sometimes we cry simply diving deeper into our pain.
- Revelling in or succumbing to your pain - and crying as a result - doesn’t actually
provide much real release.
- But as we learn to confront our wounds, the kind of crying that we will experience
will help you release all kinds of pain from the past.
- Point being, DO NOT BE AFRAID to cry.
- If you feel yourself about to cry, DO NOT AVOID IT! Dive right into it!
- It will be so beautiful and you will feel a huge release.
Anxiety and Depression:
- Both are the result of cognitive dissonance.
- 2 parts of your brain (or self) fighting each other.
- Holding contradictory beliefs simultaneously.
- Competing frequencies in your brain.
- In general, it stems from dissonance between your head (your fear-based, logical
defense mechanisms focussed on the outside world and on survival) and your
heart (the core of who you are, focussed on self-love and self-expression).
- Anxiety is generally caused when you are not being true to yourself.
- Some part of you knows who you are and what you want but you’re
getting in your own way.
- When your fear and unresolved emotions are preventing you from being
or expressing your core self.
- Or when you are allowing yourself to hang around people or be in places
that are not in alignment with who you truly are and what you truly want.
- Depression is generally caused by the world forcing you to be out of
alignment with yourself.
- So, as opposed to anxiety, it’s when you feel like you don’t even have the
option of being or expressing your true self.
- Trying to align yourself with a world that doesn’t suit who you are as a
person.
- Jim Carrey would say that depression is your avatar's way of telling you
that it is tired of the game you are playing.
- Medication is a band-aid, not a solution.
- Medication can help deal with the emotional symptoms of depression.
- It does not help truly confront the cognitive dissonance that is behind
these issues in the first place.
- In order to truly heal, we need to come into alignment with who we
are, and learn how to move our lives in a direction of true self-love,
self-awareness and self-expression,
- Consciousness Creates Reality
- An often misunderstood statement.
- It IS absolutely true on all levels.
- But… beware of taking it a little TOO literally at the physical level.
- How you think and how you feels determines your state of being:
- Your inner world creates your experience of reality.
- In other words, your version of reality is subjective, and is filtered through
the lens of your inner frequency, emotions, beliefs, senses, etc…
- Your version of reality only comes into existence as a combination of the
outer objective reality and your inner subjective experiences.
- The way you feel affects how you experience reality.
- Your experience then creates your choices.
- Your choices create your experience.
- And around and around we go.
- Neurobiologically:
- Your reality is synthesized inside of you. (subjectively).
- When an objective phenomenon hits your senses, it gets filtered through
that lens, which then gets accumulated and boiled down into a
momentary conscious experience.
- Your mind takes in more info than can be experienced in a moment,
and chooses what it wants to experience.
- Proof: With one eye closed, you see your nose. But with both eyes
open… you don’t! WTF?!?!?
- Your brain is just ignoring your nose most of the time.
- Your experience of reality is hallucinated by your brain according to it’s
preferences.
- Objective outer world > Inner world > Experience of reality.
- Your experience of reality is the place where your inner world and your
outer world meet.
- Your Conscious Mind:
- Everything that you experience internally paves pathways in your brain.
- Thoughts, memories, emotions, etc… everything shoots neurons
down certain pathways, paving those pathways.
- Eventually you pave a pathway so clear that you would never think to
walk any other way through that field.
- So… you can train your brain, and you DO train your brain, whether
you realize it or not.
- So, you want to start ACTIVELY choosing your thoughts, words, and
beliefs, to make sure that you are paving pathways that are helpful.
- A belief is just a thought that you keep thinking.
- Your conscious mind is only 5% of your reality.
- Your subconscious mind controls the rest.
- Whether you realize it or not, you are training your subconscious mind
ALL THE TIME.
- One of the goals with our healing, is to start consciously taking
control of how we are training our subconscious minds.
- Thoughts and words >
- Actions >
- Brain food >
- Beliefs >
- Thoughts and words, etc…
- We need to start actively choosing all of the things listed above so that we
can consciously program our subconscious mind for positivity and love.
- So far, you have been training your brain passively, because you didn’t
realize this was happening.
- Realizing that you are in control of your subconscious mind is part
of what we call ‘awakening’.
- Coming out of autopilot mode and taking control of our minds.
- Either you play the game, or the game plays you!
- Either your environment creates your thoughts, or your thoughts create
your environment.
- Your EMOTIONS are the KEY!
- If we want to control our thoughts and train our subconscious minds, we need to
focus more directly on our emotions.
- Emotions are usually an afterthought in our lives, but they COMPLETELY control
and make up EVERYTHING that we are working towards.
- What you ACTUALLY care about is only your emotional experiences… not the
outer things you think you are chasing.
- Which would you choose?
- A: Infinite money with eternal misery? Or
- B: Eternal happiness and joy with no money?
- Obviously, option B is always better, because what good is money if
you’re miserable.
- When it comes to reprogramming your brain, your emotions are far stronger than
thoughts.
- Your subconscious understands frequency, not language.
- Your emotions form much deeper pathways in your brain than thoughts.
- This is actually why you’re stuck in these subconscious cycles in the first place.
Subconscious cycle #1:
Trauma > Emotional & Chemical reaction > Refractory period (the amount of time it take
for this reaction to dissolve and subside) > If you don’t deal with it during that period,
then the emotion becomes > Mood > Temperament > Personality trait > Core Identity
Marker > Core Belief.
- Whatever you don’t deal with during its refractory period, gets dug deeper and deeper
down into the core of your perception of reality.
- When you get triggered, your subconscious is trying to show you what is still stuck inside
of you.
- But, since you don’t recognize that, you keep stuffing it away, and it keeps getting paved
more and more into your subconscious mind.
- By holding onto traumatic memories, you keep training your brain to expect the worst
that this world can offer.
- Since you expect that, you act in a certain way that encourages you to keep
experiencing negative things.
- When you raise your emotions, your whole reality changes!
- When your inner world is at the level of love, joy, etc… your outer world will reflect that.
- When your inner world is in fear, guilt, etc… your outer world will reflect that.
- Instead of focusing on controlling the outer world, focus on controlling your inner
world and the rest will fall into place naturally.
Subconscious Cycle #2:
Trauma > Emotional Defense Mechanism > Programming of the brain > Trigger > Trauma
- Trauma unresolved creates defense mechanisms.
- Succumbing to defense mechanisms repeatedly paves pathways in the brain.
- Because your brain is programmed a certain way, you react to triggers, bringing back up
the frequency of unresolved trauma.
- And around and around we go.
- Now, here’s the problem with other forms of healing:
- Therapy and counselling focuses on TRAUMA.
- This won’t work, because the trauma doesn’t exist now and isn’t the real problem,
it’s just the moment when the cycle began.
- Medications and psychiatry focus on the programming of the brain.
- This won’t work, because the brain is CONSTANTLY being programmed as a
result of the emotional defense mechanisms.
- So… Instead… we are going to focus on the emotions and the defense mechanisms
themselves!
- This is the simplest way of finally overcoming these cycles, processing the initial
traumas, and escaping the loops that keep programming our brains for negativity.
- It’s SO SIMPLE!
- Therapy and Counselling.
- These can be helpful tools, but are usually not the most effective. Which is.. Of
course… why you are in this course in the first place.
- For one thing, these train you to give away your power.
- Even to the extent that they are helpful, they don’t give you true
self-reliance in the way that you need to be the best and strongest version
of yourself.
- These methods are ineffective partly because we can’t fully express what’s
in our hearts.
- We spend time trying to intellectualize and verbalize things that are
sometimes ineffable (unable to be truly expressed).
- You can’t explain to a blind person what ‘Red’ is.
- It’s impossible to truly translate our emotions into language a lot of the
time.
- For those of you who are experiencing emotional distress as the result of
an awakening, therapy with an unawakened or non-spiritual therapist is
likely to cause more harm than good,
- They will try to convince you that your experiences are not valid or real.
- This will often lead to more depression and anxiety, based on the
cognitive dissonance that they are installing into you.
- Some part of you understands that what you’re experiencing is not just a
usual depression and that your view of reality is changing.
- It will make you feel worse about yourself.
- Beware of who you choose - at least - for therapy, if you choose to keep
seeing one during an awakening.
- Fortunately, if you truly commit to this course, you won’t need a therapist
anymore. But that’s up to you of course.
- Therapy and counselling allow you to perpetuate negative cycles as well.
- You’ll notice in this course that we don't allow ourselves to spend time
venting about all of the things that we think are causing us pain.
- That’s not the goal.
- Talking about all of your traumas in that way or venting about all of
the things pissing you off in your day to day just keeps you shooting
neurons down negative pathways of fear, anger, shame, frustration,
etc…
- You are training your brain to stay angry and frustrated and in negativity.
- Even if you trace this stuff down to core traumas, you are paving negative
pathways in your brain, and not truly training yourself to overcome your
pain.
- Our goal is to make you self sufficient and not stuck in your pain, trauma,
negative, venting and complaining cycles.
- That’s why we practice gratitude, instead of venting our pain.
What is ‘Shadow Work’
- Coined by Carl Jung.
- Refers to confronting all of the parts of yourself that you have stuffed away throughout
the course of your life.
- BUT… we are not talking about bringing up your past traumas specifically.
- We are talking about bringing up the parts of your identity and personality that you have
been doing your best not to look at.
- We are confronting the emotional defense mechanisms and unresolved emotions
that are behind all of your decision making.
- All of the pain that is actually at the core of the outer identity you have created for
yourself.
- These shadow parts of yourself feed on pain and negativity.
- That’s why you are addicted to negativity.
- These parts of yourself are fueled by all your self-pity and hatred.
- This is also why therapy and counselling is often unhelpful.
- You are feeding those self loathing parts of yourself by focusing on all of your
pain and the traumas associated with it.
- Shadow work is about learning how to stop running from those repressed parts of
yourself.
- How to stop running from your uncomfortable emotions.
- How to finally release the unresolved emotions by learning how to let themselves
properly be expressed through you.
- Shadow work is just about confronting whatever comes up in the moment:
- Working from the outside, in… as we are doing.
- Excerpts from my book Feelings First Shadow Work:
- I would say that (shadow work) is the process of learning how to reconnect with
our emotions by breaking the barriers we have put up against our pain. It is the
method of learning how to finally observe, confront, heal and release all the
unresolved emotional trauma inside of us so that we can live in a more heart
centered way. It is the collection of tools, techniques, and intellectual wisdom that
we need to keep with us, practice and maintain so that we can live a life free from
fear, fully expressing our true selves, and engaging in healthy, mutually beneficial
relationships with everything and everyone around us.
- Shadow work is the process of learning how to observe, confront, heal, and
release all of the uncomfortable emotions that we experience in any given
moment - in a safe and healthy way - to allow us to finally release the unresolved
emotions from the past that need to be released to keep us emotionally healthy
and strong.
Or, to phrase it for the 7-year-old - Shadow work is about learning what to do with
bad feelings when you have them so that they don’t get stuck inside of you, and
learning how to get rid of the bad feelings that were already stuck inside of you
from the past. That’s it!
- Everything happens FOR YOU, not TO YOU!
It may not be true that everything happens for a reason, but if you choose to learn and
grow from the bad things, then they WILL HAVE HAPPENED for a reason!
Your growth becomes the reason for them to have happened
- *Preface warning: we are NOT specifically talking about your worst of the worst
traumas… just your ongoing day to day struggles.
- You keep suffering in your day to day life because you are still holding on to old wounds,
patterns, traumas, and beliefs.
- This is your subconscious mind TRYING to show you what is still holding you down,
through this loop of co-creation where you keep on creating scenarios you don’t like.
- It is showing you these patterns to teach you to overcome them!
Every moment of emotional distress that you experience is pointing you in
the direction of where you need healing!
- We need to start with the surface level triggers, and follow the bread crumb trail down to
the core wounds naturally.
- When you can trace your cycles back to the initial wounds, it will become much more
clear how you have been keeping yourself down this whole time.
- Why do you keep experiencing the negative?
- 1: Your subconscious mind is trying to show you what’s holding you down.
- 2: The unresolved emotion from the core trauma is still stuck inside of you,
looping over and over until you learn how to resolve and release it.
- To correct the frequency, you need to confront the triggers.
- DO NOT CHASE PAIN!
- Just respond appropriately to the emotional pain of the moment, right here, right
now.
- When you have healed your triggers, you become invulnerable AND you STOP
attracting those experiences into your life altogether.
- Old way you looked at your pain:
- You are the victim.
- Your triggers should be avoided because they cause pain
- You were trying to cover up your wounds to help you survive.
- You pushed it down all the time.
- As a result… the pain kept trying to come up over and over and over.
- It never went away!
- New way to look at your struggles, pain and challenges:
- Your subconscious created these events and these pains for a reason.
- It did so to help you heal!
- Your triggers are clues as to what you are still holding on to.
- All you need to do is stop running, and learn how to dive into them.
- By confronting them, you heal the pain, fix the frequency, and raise your state of
consciousness, leading you to a better life.
- You have 3 brains!
- We usually identify with the space in our heads… but we are more than that!
- In order to truly heal, we need to move out of our heads and into our other brains
equally.
- Seeing and hearing are just types of feeling.
- We need to learn how to trust our OTHER feelings just as much as we trust those
main senses.
- Your 3 brains are:
- Head (thoughts)
- Heart (emotions)
- Gut (Sensations)
- And all 3 work together to create your experience of reality.
- The head is not actually naturally in charge.
- Your heart and your gut know MUCH MORE THAN YOUR BRAIN DOES!
- This is because they tap into deeper truths and frequencies of the external world
than your brain does.
- Your heart is 5,000x stronger than your brain.
- Your heart’s electromagnetic field extends 3-5 feet in every direction, and is
connected to the frequencies of the universe more than your brain is.
- So, your heart is always guiding you more in the direction of the flow of the
universe than your brain is.
- AND… your heart CANNOT be programmed the way that your brain IS
constantly being programmed.
- Therefore… if we want to eliminate cognitive dissonance, get into
alignment, and overcome anxiety and depression, we MUST learn to
program our brains to follow the guidance of the heart!
- As long as we are operating the other way around, we will always continue to
suffer.
- In order to solve our emotional issues, we MUST put our emotions in charge of
our lives.
- So long as our fear-based brains are in charge, there will always be
disagreement between our hearts and our heads, and there will be no room
for a true shift in consciousness.
- Following our instinct and intuition is how we overcome suffering and make life
SO EASY, without the need to analyze and plan everything out.
7 - Conquering Anxiety
What is Anxiety and How to Conquer It
- This video is not JUST about anxiety. So watch it regardless of whether or not anxiety is
an issue for you.
- To truly heal anxiety, we are going to need to apply all of the healing techniques we are
learning, but…
- This video is about how to confront your anxiety directly in the moment to relieve the
symptoms and learn how to handle it.
What Causes Anxiety?
- It’s not - at its root - a chemical problem.
- Although there are chemicals associated with it and chemicals that may reduce the
symptoms of it, in general it is not a chemical problem at it’s core.
- The root of anxiety is - in my opinion - cognitive dissonance.
- When 2 conflicting beliefs exist in the same place, they create a sense of disruption.
- One part of you wants to go left, the other part wants to go right, and this creates
an inner storm.
- When you are holding conflicting beliefs, no amount of logical reasoning is ever going to
lead to a satisfying conclusion to a problem, since your values are conflicted inside of
yourself.
- It is impossible to decide which way to go, because the importance that you give
to your different values and beliefs is constantly up in the air.
- Buridan’s donkey: A donkey stuck between 2 equidistant bails of hay would never be
able to decide which to run to, and would starve to death.
- In general, this cognitive dissonance - and your conflicting beliefs - is between your head
and your heart.
- Your brain can be trained and is being trained every moment of every day.
- Your brain has been programmed over your lifetime, mainly based on trauma, to
keep you safe and to navigate the world.
- Your brain’s job is to keep you alive at all costs.
- Your heart CANNOT be trained.
- Your heart doesn’t respond to logic.
- It just knows who you are and what it wants.
- Your heart is connected to deeper universal truths and truths about who you are.
- Your heart wants nothing but love, self-love and self-expression and it will always
push you in that direction.
- So, when your fear-based, survival minded defense mechanisms are in conflict
with the core of who you are, this is what causes anxiety.
Since your heart cannot be programmed, you will NEVER be at peace
until you learn how to program your brain to follow what your heart is
leading you to do.
- What is the Experience of Anxiety?
- There are 3 elements of our experience of reality:
- Thought, Emotions, and sensations.
- In the same way, there are 3 elements to our experience of anxiety.
- Thoughts:
- The cycling thoughts in our head.
- A never ending ongoing calculus of trying to solve a problem that we can’t
possibly solve because our values and beliefs are intrinsically conflicted.
- Emotions:
- An intangible sense of fear or dread that is constantly following you
around.
- An inescapable sense that you are in some kind of danger.
- Sensations:
- The turning feeling in the pit of your stomach, or
- The tightness in your chest, or
- The lump in your throat, or
- However else anxiety might present to you in your body.
- These are ‘energetic sensations’, in the sense that we feel them
physically, but they can’t actually be physically measured or observed
(say… in an x-ray or an MRI machine) the way that other physical things
can be observes
- In order to conquer anxiety, we will need to separate these 3 elements of
anxiety and deal with each one at a time.
- Things to understand:
- Emotions hit you in an instant, but thoughts take a certain amount of time.
- Point being, the emotion hits FIRST. The thoughts are actually a symptom of the
emotions.
- The brain takes the emotion and tries to translate it into a thought so that it
can perform it’s defense mechanisms - it’s programmed job of trying to
keep you safe.
- When your brain senses the emotional distress of anxiety, it presumes there is a
REAL problem, and it searches for real problems to solve, creating the cycling
thoughts.
- The thoughts are a reflection/manifestation of our emotions.
- So, in order to conquer anxiety, we are going to need to be able to objectively
observe our thoughts and our emotions.
- We need to be able to notice them, without immediately reacting to them.
- We need to recognize - in moments of anxiety - that our thoughts are
being manipulated by that emotion.
- We must recognize that despite what your mind is telling you, the
anxiety is NOT caused by a REAL problem in the external world.
- As soon as we can notice and observe our anxiety and our cycling thoughts, we
will be ready to start tackling our anxiety and releasing it.
How to Conquer Anxiety:
- Step 1: Become the Conscious Observer!
- NOTICE your anxiety and the illusory thoughts.
- Identify in a moment that “oh… look at that… I’m experiencing anxiety at the
moment”.
- Develop mindful awareness of the emotion so that you can recognize that the
thoughts you are having that moment are not real.
- RECOGNIZE THAT YOUR CYCLING THOUGHTS ARE A SYMPTOM OF AN
EMOTION, AND NOTHING MORE.
- With that in mind, you can put the thoughts aside for just one moment by
reminding yourself that you have nothing to truly ‘solve’ or worry about in that
moment.
- Step 2: The Storm WILL PASS!
- Referring to what we learned in week 2, now that you notice that you are
experiencing a particular unpleasant emotion, you can now calm yourself
enough to remember that this emotion will pass.
- Basically, recognize that the emotions is ALSO not something to worry about.
- You don’t need to ‘solve’ the emotion.
- You’re just used to trying to solve a problem in association with an uncomfortable
emotion because your brain think that you are in danger.
- But now you know that having an uncomfortable emotion does NOT mean
that you are in danger.
- This in itself does not relieve the emotion, but it allows you to relax into it.
- Step 3: Find the Feeling!
- Using this technique that we learned in week 2, we are going to seek out the
physical/energetic sensation of this anxiety in our body.
- In Steps 1 and 2, we used our conscious awareness to put aside our distress for
one moment.
- In this step… we are going to do the EXACT OPPOSITE!
- Put your conscious attention onto the physical sensation in your body as
attentively and with as much direct focus as possible!
- You want to feel the feeling as directly as possible.
- By observing and focusing on the uncomfortable sensation directly, you will
notice that it is NOTHING MORE than an uncomfortable sensation!
- That’s it!
- It’s basically just a stomach ache! Nothing more than that.
- Now that you can feel and identify it as physical discomfort, this will help you end
the cycle that was happening a moment ago, where the sensations created more
emotions which created more thoughts which created more sensations, etc…
- Now, you can allow the sensation to be fully felt inside of you and by
allowing this sensation to fully express itself - without you responding with
fear - it will be able to finally resolve and release itself naturally!
- Basically, once you stop running from the discomfort, NOW the healing can truly
begin!
- Step 4: Apply the other healing techniques we have learned so far.
- Either: Ho’oponopono or ‘I love myself and I am beautiful.
- Use those phrases while focusing on the direct physical sensation inside
of you.
- Use this for momentary anxiety and/or for when you are out and about in
your life and can’t do deeper healing in the moment.
- Or use the mirror exercise (for more persisting anxiety that has been following
you for a while and won’t go away) to dissolve this anxiety even more deeply.
That’s it!
When you allow yourself to stop the cycle, to feel the feeling directly,
and to apply the techniques we have already learned, you will be able to fully
start dissolving anxiety, learn not to fear it, and with a bit of practice…
the anxiety will begin to completely dissipate.
8 - FAQ
- We have now reached the end of ‘stage 1’ of this course, where we are learning the
main healing tools that you should be using to resolve all of the unreleased emotions
inside of you.
- 1 - Explanations and Distinctions about the Mirror Exercise:
- We are allowing the unconscious mind to relax and unravel itself naturally.
- Your subconscious has been protecting itself your whole life, thinking you
were in danger - because at some point in the past (when trauma first
happened) you WERE in danger.
- The mirror exercise is NOT about searching for answers…
- It’s about training your subconscious mind to know that you are safe to reel,
express and release your emotions.
- Your subconscious doesn’t actually care about the logic or answers behind
your pain (plus.. It already knows the logic and answers that your
conscious mind doesn't).
- It is simply in pain because it is afraid.
- We are trying to show it that it doesn’t need to be afraid.
- We do this by NOT QUESTIONING whatever answers come up!
- Whatever it wants to express, it is SAFE to express, and you ARE GOING TO
LISTEN TO IT! No matter what it wants to say.
- You are showing your subconscious mind unconditional love and
acceptance.
- 2 - Be the flower… not the bee!
- In relation to the mirror exercise and our healing in general, you DO NOT need to
go chasing trauma.
- Remember, your goal is merely to respond properly and with love and
compassion to whatever emotions and energies are revealing themselves
to you in the moment.
- What this also means is… don’t force yourself to do deep healing work on a day
when you are feeling good!
- If you are having an amazing day, don’t do the mirror exercise! Enjoy the
day as much as possible.
- You want to train your brain to stay in positive vibrations when you’re in them.
- You do NOT want to train it to think that there is always a problem.
- So, on good days… enjoy the good feelings!
- Then, on days when you’re in pain, train your brain to know that there;s no real
problem there by facing those pains head on, with all of the proper tools and
skills at hand to deal with them masterfully.
- 3 - The answers don’t really matter.
- It’s great if you’re getting logical answers to your issues.
- It’s even better if you are connecting the dots between your old traumas and the
defense mechanisms that you are still employing on a daily basis.
- But the answers don’t really matter.
- And, more importantly for now…:
- Finding ‘answers’ is NOT the end goal of the mirror exercise!
- When you find the logical answers by doing the mirror exercise, that is
only the half way point to completing the mirror exercise.
- The TRUE end point of the mirror exercise is to recognize the limiting belief
that’s in your way AND then to recognize that - deep down - you know that
the limiting belief is false.
- Your goal is to recognize the illusion of the belief that was causing you pain.
- 4 - Reminders about the Inner Child Healing Exercise:
- The point of this exercise is to ‘replace’ or ‘overwrite’ memories
- Your brain doesn’t care which memory is real and which is imagined.
- We are simply trying to avoid cycling back into previously paved pathways
associated with painful emotions.
- We are making sure that our brain doesn’t automatically shift back into fear
based pathways that we have been paving.
- Reminder that this exercise can be unpleasant with INTENSE traumas.
- But it does still work and is relevant.
- Feel free to decide to alter the exercise as necessary if you’re dealing with
the worst of the worst of human experiences:
- Ex: If you don’t want to step back into the role of someone who truly
abused you in the worst ways, you can imagine taking the role of
someone else and rewriting the entire scenario completely, so that you
never entered that scenario to begin with.
- BUT… for the BEST results… simply use the other healing techniques
around the uncomfortable emotions associated with the idea of doing this
distasteful exercise, and THEN come back and complete the exercise.
- Remember, any uncomfortable emotions arising - even if it’s around how
distasteful doing this exercise seems - is in fact an opportunity for more
healing.
- Those emotions can’t hurt you, and confronting that emotion will
help you heal even more.
- Confronting uncomfortable emotions is the whole point of all of this
healing!
- 5 - This entire healing process takes time!
- You can’t force or rush the timing of this healing, nor would you want to.
- If I could somehow make you do all of the healing in a minute… it would be too
much.
- The pain of releasing a lifetime’s worth of unresolved emotions in an instant
would be too unbearable.
- So, allow this all to take it’s time. Do your best to settle into the experience and
let it take as long as it needs to.
- Don’t stress about trying to be HEALED already… just focus on HEALING.
- So long as you are taking steps forward and doing the work, you ARE making
progress, and that’s all you need to know.
- In fact, learning how to be ok with life as it is, is an important muscle that you
need to develop for true inner peace.
- Let all of the healing come to you in it’s own time.
- We are mainly just learning how to handle all emotions properly.
- So, any stress about not being at the end of your healing journey is… in itself…
just another emotion that you need to learn how to handle!
- Make sense? If you’re worried about how long this healing will take… the
only REAL problem there is the emotion of worry.
- Recognize the illusion of thoughts there, and focus on applying our
techniques to that worry.
- Ironic… I know… but these are the muscles we are building.
- 6 - WARNING about moving forward!
- As I mentioned at the beginning of the course… to an extent… you MUST KEEP
MOVING THROUGH THE COURSE even when you don’t feel like you have
mastered things yet.
- That is still completely true…
- BUT…
- These first 3 weeks are where the main healing techniques are being
learned, and if you haven’t at least STARTED doing these exercises (in
particular if you didn’t do the exercises in front of the mirror from week 2,
learned ho’opopono, find the feeling, the body scan, and the mirror
exercise), then you should make sure that you start that stuff before
moving on.
- If for whatever reason you ABSOLUTELY REFUSE to start that stuff, then… I
mean… fine… better that you keep learning than that you stop entirely… But
none of the rest of what we learn is going to be truly effective if you haven’t
started practicing what we have learned so far.
Week 4
1 - Intro
- We are now moving into ‘Stage 2’:
- Stage 1 was about building the core ‘healing techniques’.
- Stage 2 is about building the new positive pathways in your brain and
learning a new way of living.
- Reprogramming your brain away from fear and into love, confidence, faith
and surrender.
- We need to build new alternate pathways to switch to, so we don’t fall
back into old habits.
- New perspectives and approaches to everything in life.
- Reminder: If you are putting in the work, progress is happening more than you realize.
- You can’t see it so much while you’re in it. But growth and progress is
happening. Just keep moving forward.
Week 4 main topic: Unconditional Love and the Heart Space
- Learning how to translate the self-love we have been working on into love for other
people.
- It is IMPOSSIBLE to fully love yourself while being cruel to other.
- So, it’s important to start learning how to love others unconditionally… in a HEALTHY
way!
- Until doing this healing, the love that we have been giving to others has been often
unhealthy.
- It has been a form of attachment
- A cry for help from our inner selves.
- True love for others requires FIRST that you love yourself, so that your cup
is full and you can give others the excess, as opposed to trying to fill your
cup by loving someone else.
- By learning how to love others properly, we will also learn how to love ourselves
more.
- We will overcome the ‘me vs you’ duality.
- There is no distinction between how we treat ourselves and how we treat
others. But how we treat ourselves comes first as the foundation.
- Recognize that LOVE is only about halfway up that scale of consciousness we
looked at in week 1.
- That being said, LOVE is where we want to live!
- We can’t really persist in the vibration of enlightenment while living a normal life.
- Our goal is to maintain the vibration of unconditional love.
- Love doesn’t mean needing to be happy and ecstatic and joyful all the time.
- It’s more about trust and connection and a lack of fear, ego, and worry.
IMPORTANT:
These lessons about loving others are FOR YOUR BENEFIT!!!
- This isn’t about morals and ethics and your duty to others.
- This is about what is best for YOU!
- When I tell you to be kind to others - although we do genuinely care and should
care about others - this advice that I’m giving you is for your own emotional
wellness.
- Recognizing that is how you will overcome the ‘me vs. you’ duality.
- There are practical benefits (re: the co-creation process and how you will direct
your life) to developing this healthy unconditional love for others.
- You shifting your energy will lead you in better directions in your life (through motivation,
inspiration, and purpose) and will attract better things into your life (through the law of
attraction).
- Living in love also has a ripple effect outwards:
- This is how you achieve your first and main purpose on this Earth of being of
service to humanity.
- Simply by being in the vibration of love, you are being of service to this
world.
- At least through ‘energy’.
- And more practically through the way that you interact with others.
Ending The Anger Game
- The Anger Game:
- Someone triggers you, you give them back anger.
- They get triggered by your anger and give you anger.
- And around and around we go, creating a negative feedback loop.
- Then each of you goes around and spreads that anger into the world.
- Learning unconditional love will help you end the anger game.
2 - Weekly Exercises
Mantra: There is only LOVE and FEAR.
- More than a mantra… it is an important piece of life wisdom.
- It is a perspective on your life that you need to start adopting.
- Every decision that you make is being driven by one of these 2 emotions, and all
other positive or negative emotions can be boiled down to these 2 core emotions.
- While we like to think that we act rationally, we are always truly acting according to our
emotions.
- Our goal - with this course and inner healing - is to always be making our decisions from
love (self-love and love for others), and this will free you from fear and suffering.
- When we can learn how to put love at the foundation of all of our decisions, Ethics
becomes a little ‘irrelevant’ (in the sense that philosophical debates about what counts
as ethical become incredibly simple when you just put the vibration of love at the core of
your decision making process).
- The outcomes of actions are always beyond our knowing in advance.
- But when we act from love, we are at least cultivating the energy of love inside of
ourselves and others.
- This frequency will grow on itself and will always provide the best outcomes in
the energetic sense, which will of course get translated into the physical world.
- You MUST recognize the ways in which all of your defensive, judgmental,
aggressive actions are ultimately based in fear.
- If you knew 100% that you were safe, you wouldn’t feel the need to treat people
that way.
- And because you know that love feels best, you don’t WANT to treat others that
way.
- It is only because you are afraid - as the result of a lifetime’s worth of unresolved
emotions - that we mistreat ourselves and others.
- Try to start seeing EVERYTHING in your life through this lens of Love vs. Fear.
- This will also help you develop compassion and forgiveness by recognizing that other
people’s bad behavior is also due to fear.
Breathing Exercise: 360 Breath
- Now that we have learned how to breathe down and out (through diaphragm and
belly), now it’s time to expand our breath into all directions… naturally and easily.
- Imagine that there is a single lung in your heart space that is expanding and contracting.
- This single lung in your core expands in all directions - 360 degrees.
- Expanding the rib cage in all directions.
- Just make sure to stay relaxed, to pull air in from your core instead of forcing it in from
your mouth/nose. ALLOW YOUR BREATH! Don’t force it!
- Feel free to isolate each direction first (focus on breathing into your sides in a few
breaths, then into your back, etc…) and piece it all together as you learn how to do this
fully.
Meditation: Heart Space Activation
- Basically just a combination of the 360 breath and the light healing meditation from last
week.
- Version 1:
- Focus on your heart space and activate it by bringing light into that area.
- White light (general healing) or green light (green is the color of the heart chakra)
are best.
- Envision bringing that light in from the top of your head, coming from ‘source’,
- and/or envision the light moving around in your heart space, filling it up more and
more with this divine, healing light.
- This is to help you connect to your heart and the vibration of love.
- Version 2:
- Expanding the ball of light in your chest beyond your body.
- Connecting your inner vibration of love to the frequencies of the world around
you.
- When you breathe in, envision the ball of light expanding.
- When you breathe out, the ball DOES NOT contract.
- Then you breathe in and expand it even more.
- Over and over…
- Build that ball of light as large as you can get it, until it is completely surrounding
your body, and as far out as you can get.
Gratitude Exercise: “When I’m living from love…” or “When I’m in the vibration of love…”
- Taken from Abraham Hicks.
- Simply consists of repeating the phrase “When I’m in the vibration of love…”,
followed by positive intentions and outcomes of you staying in the vibration of
love.
- Ex: “When I’m in the vibration of love…”:
- … Everything goes easy for me.
- … People are proud of who I am.
- … I get to fulfill my purpose and grow in life.
- … Money comes easily to me.
- Etc...
3 - Accessing the Heart Space
- Connecting to the heart space is about getting out of your head, connecting to your body
and allowing yourself to live more from your emotions than from your thoughts.
- Your thoughts are illusions anyway and are always being manipulated by your
emotions, so let’s skip the middleman and connect directly to the core of who we
are.
- Your brain is always searching for problems - so that it can keep you safe - but it truly
has no clue what it’s doing.
- Your heart, on the other hand, is connected to universal flow and truths.
- We can’t ‘STOP THINKING’.
- But what you CAN do is to START FEELING.
- The more you focus on your feelings, the less that your thoughts will control you.
- We are trying to focus on non-language based experience of reality.
2 Methods of Connecting to Your Heartspace:
Method 1: Hands over your heart, close your eyes.
- Super simple.
- Just start spending some time, a minute or two at a time every day, with your
hands over your heart, practicing the 360 breath or the diaphragm breath while
focusing on your heart space.
- Although it is super basic, it is also super powerful.
- A couple of intricacies:
- 1 - Which hand goes first?
- There’s no ‘one fits all’ answer, but this is simply something to consider.
- One hand gives energy and one hand receives.
- Which hand is which is different for every person.
- So, which hand you have closest to your heart can affect the flow of energy.
- 2 - Multiple areas of your heart:
- You can connect to multiple areas of your heart, and different areas carry
different energies and varying strength of energy.
- The front of your heart space is the most superficial.
- The core of your heart space is more powerful.
- The ‘bottom of your heart’ is where (I find) true unconditional love lies.
- At the back and bottom of your heart space.
- (See the second method of connecting to heart space below to learn how
to connect to that part).
- 3 - Using memories to connect to your heart.
- Think of loving memories while holding your hands over your heart to start
memorizing those loving feelings, so that you can learn to bring them back up at
will whenever you need them.
Method 2: Moving from your head to your heart:
- This is one I developed myself.
- Extremely powerful but a little tougher to learn.
- We are usually locked off in our heads. Our focus is on the experience in our heads, and
we want to move from our heads to our heart.
- Here’s how you do it:
- Step 1: Close your eyes and focus on your headspace.
- Focus on your eyes - the energy of your eyes.
- Basically, pay attention to what you are seeing while you have your eyes closed.
- Since you are usually focused on your visual experience, we want to hyper focus
there to start.
- Step 2: Center your focus to a singular point.
- As you have 2 eyes, when you first focus on this, you are in a dualistic point of
view. We want to move our focus to a singular point.
- With your eyes close, move your gaze to a few inches in front of your third eye
(the area just above and between your eyes).
- Breathe in while doing this step.
- Step 3: Move that singular point down into your chest.
- Now that your focus is on a singular point near your third eye, we want to move
this ‘ball of energy’ (let’s say) down into our chest.
- So, turn your eyes downward (move your gaze down) while envisioning moving
your focus (or this ball of energy) from that point in front of your face, down into
your heart space.
- Breathe out while doing this step.
- Push your abdomen out a little while doing this step (this should happen
somewhat naturally as you move your focus and breathe out. Don’t force it too
much).
- Step 4: Connecting to the ‘bottom of your heart.
- Now that you are in the front of your heart space, we want to move into that
deeper part of your heart where true unconditional love lies.
- Do this either by:
- Splitting the ‘ball of energy’ into two, and moving it around the front of
your chest, around your back, and coming together again the back of your
heart. Or…
- Moving the ball of energy directly through your chest to the bottom of your
heart space.
- Breathe in while performing this step.
- Step 5: Expand Your Heart Space.
- Now that you are grounded in the bottom of your heart space, we want to expand
this ball of energy (and your heart space) as large as we can.
- So, we are going to practice the 360 breath and expand the heartspace from this
week's weekly meditation.
- Simply envision this ball of energy growing and expanding outside of your body
as much as you can.
- Breathe in while performing this step
- Yes… you breathed in during the last step as well.
- Breathe in again!
- You absolutely have more room to breathe in. No doubt about that.
- Step 6: Maintain focus on that feeling.
- Stay focussed on the feeling of that ball of energy in your heart space (and on the
sensations in your body) for as long as possible.
- The goal is simply to refocus our attention on our emotions and on our bodies.
So, stay there as long as you can.
- You will necessarily get distracted and move back into your head fairly quickly
(especially once you open your eyes).
- That is absolutely fine.
- This is merely a practice of connecting to our emotions and our bodies as
much as possible.
- It WILL have a lingering effect the more that you do it, even when you are
back in your head.
4 - Heart Radar:
- This is an exercise to help you make decisions when you feel stuck and unable to
figure out what you truly want.
- We are going to bypass your logical mind and allow your heart to tell you what to
do.
- Getting the answer will be the relatively easy part.
- Especially if you’ve been practicing the mirror exercise.
- The true challenge will be learning how to trust and follow the answer that comes
up, even if you don’t understand why you got that answer or how it will play out.
- This is an exercise in beginning to connect to our emotions and to trust our
intuitions.
- Your heart actually knows far more than your brain does.
- Your heart is tapped in at a subconscious level to energies and wisdom that is
inaccessible to our 5 primary senses, and therefore incomprehensible to our
logical brains.
- Your heart is ALWAYS guiding you in the right direction.
- … even if that direction is sometimes at odds with what you think is best for
yourself in the 3D world.
- It might take some time and some recalibration before following your heart
consistently leads to the best external results, but that’s only because
we’ve been chasing the wrong things in our lives.
- When you manage to get your brain in alignment with your heart, then your heart
will - more reliably - always lead you to the best external consequences as well.
- But… that’s irrelevant for now, because acting AGAINST the will of our heart will
ALWAYS cause us pain and steer us in the wrong direction spiritually and
emotionally.
- So, following what our hearts want is in our best interest, regardless of external
consequences.
- There is ONLY love or fear!
How to use the heart radar:
- Step 1: Get settled:
- Calm yourself. Breathe. Settle into a place of at least some slight calm or a
meditative state.
- For best effects, place your hands over your heart.
- Connect to your heart space.
- Step 2: Calibrate your Heart Radar
- Make test statements for love and see what that feels like
- Pick something that you know you truly love, and make a statement about
it so that you can identify the sensations in your heart associated with
love.
- Ex: Say to yourself ‘Ice cream makes me really happy’ or ‘my dog is the
most amazing friend I could ask for’.
- See what that feels like inside your heart.
- Step 3: Test your decision
- Make a statement about the choice you are unsure of that you’re trying to figure
out.
- Make the statement as if you have already decided
- Ex: I am going to move out of my apartment immediately.
- Ex: I am going to ask this person out on a date.
- Did it feel like love… or fear?
- Step 4: Follow love. Always!
- Be careful… sometimes a bit of nervousness will cloud a decision that is actually
based in love.
- So, learn to tell the difference between hesitation and true fear.
- But, in general - *IF you have been practicing* everything else in this course
(and if you continue to practice what you will be learning), your heart radar will
become more accurate with time, always pointing you in the right direction with
a feeling of love.
5 - Theory Work
Unconditional Love for others:
- Love is a frequency.
- It is a ‘flavor’ of day to day life.
- It is a vibration unrestricted by the traumas and triggers that are currently holding
you down in fear.
- Love that is founded in attachment, desire, triggers, traumas and defense
mechanisms is not ‘real love’ at the vibrational level.
- We want to aim for a pure vibration of love.
- Pure love for others stems from unconditional self-love.
- Only from that foundation can we give pure, untainted love to others.
- We stay in unconditional self-love for our own benefit, and unconditional self-love
is fueled even more when we practice unconditional love for others.
- By giving unconditional love to others as a reflection of your own self-love,
you can put yourself in a position where you are ready to receive
unconditional love for others.
Yup… it’s all a rich tapestry of a looping cycle of love that starts with
you loving yourself.
- Staying in the vibration of self-love takes a lot of practice and healing, which is what we
are doing in this course.
- Just know that this isn’t ‘easy’.
- But it’s only not easy because of a lifetime’s worth of trauma in a world that has
not been based in love so far.
- It IS in fact our natural state.
- Our goal is to maintain the vibration of love as our average, with as few slips out
of it as possible and repelling all energies that are not founded in love.
- Others are unhappy… and you don’t need to let their unhappiness become
yours.
- Don’t let other people’s pain become your pain by taking it personally or judging
them for it.
- Think about ‘Divine Love’.
- The kind of love where all creatures, all beings, are worthy of your caring,
concern, and compassion.
- How would a higher dimensional being - unrestricted by human morals and
ethics, with a higher perspective of reality - look at humans?
- A true divine God has love for absolutely everything.
- True acceptance of everyone, and nothing but compassion for those who are in
pain and being cruel to others.
- Does NOT MEAN that you should not put up boundaries!
- You DO need boundaries against that which doesn’t serve you.
- But you can set up boundaries WHILE maintaining the vibration and intention of
unconditional love.
- Unconditional love is about understanding the nature of yourself, the universe and
the foundation of inner peace.
- Love is the nature of the universe.
- To be in alignment with the universe, we want to stay in the vibration of love.
- By recognizing that we are all one (fragments of a single consciousness), we
recognize that unconditional love for self requires unconditional love for others.
- This means non-judgment towards others, while maintaining boundaries.
- This is about how to be happy within yourself.
- You cannot judge others and fully love yourself. And you must love yourself to be
truly happy.
- By recognizing that it is only possible to be cruel when you don’t love yourself,
and that not loving yourself causes pain, you can understand how other people’s
cruelty is the result of their inner pain and trauma.
- This helps you develop sympathy and compassion for those who are cruel to you
or others.
- Anyone who is cruel to others is simply not as far along this path as you are.
- Paradox of the tortured pain of the empath:
- The people who are being cruel are ACTUALLY in more pain (at the soul level)
than you are, because they are very disconnected from themselves.
- But… they don’t recognize and acknowledge their pain, while you recognize
yours.
- So, it seems like you are in more pain (and emotionally, perhaps, you are).
But spiritually, they are much more far gone than you are, and that deserves compassion.
- Love vs Fear.
- How much free will do we really have?
- Cannot truly control your preferences.
- Your only real choice is whether to follow your whims and preferences in the
direction of self-fulfillment or to succumb to pressure and to fear.
- Your only REAL choice, is fear vs. love
- Especially once you become awakened, your divine guidance starts taking more
control.
- The choice is ultimately between surrender to who you are and to the flow of the
universe, vs. resistance to the core of your being and where the universe is
pushing you.
- Resistance is what causes true suffering.
- Surrender does not mean not taking action, it means not succumbing to fear.
Doing what your heart tells you regardless of uncertainty.
- Playing chicken with the universe.
- Recognizing the fear based decision in your life:
- The job that you have, the relationship that you’re in, the schooling and housing
you chose, etc…
- A lot of these were chosen in fear - taking the ‘safe bet’ instead of following your
heart.
- You MUST choose love in as many cases as possible in order to be happy and in
order to arrive at your true life purpose.
- But choosing love will often result in more struggle along the way.
- This is the true challenge in life.
- This is what your higher self and the universe is asking from you.
- Choosing love doesn’t always work out immediately for your benefit in the 3D
world.
- But it does ultimately lead you to where you are supposed to be.
- Practicing feelings:
- Practicing feelings is about cultivating certain vibrations inside of you.
- Your thoughts, actions, beliefs, choices, etc… all affect your experiences… and
the looping cycles of all that affect your vibrations.
- You are constantly training yourself to stay in certain vibrations.
- Practicing feelings is partly about ‘acting as if’.
- Act AS IF you already have the things that you think would bring you into that
vibration.
- Training the pathways in our brains to make sure neurons are firing down the
right pathways when we lose mindful awareness of our emotions and thoughts.
- Affirmations, solfeggio frequencies, acts of kindness, gratitude exercises, guided
meditations, etc…
- None of those things will have any impact if you are consciously fighting
and resisting them.
- It is about connecting to the inner emotion attached to those things.
- Not just practicing the surface level actions.
- We want to learn how to produce the vibration from inside of us regardless of our
external circumstances.
- Instead of waiting for the world to provide us the vibration of love, we will learn
how to cultivate in ourselves.
- This is also how we help change the world.
- Like a fish changing the temperature of the ocean by raising it’s own inner
temperature.
- This is the job of a lightworker.
- Ways to practice feelings:
- In a sense, this is how we can ‘train our hearts’.
- As we’ve said before, your heart can’t be trained the way that your brain can, but
you can practice staying in certain emotions more than others.
- Find your happy moments (like Peter Pan and his happy thoughts).
- Memorize and ‘analyze’ the emotion, sensation, and ‘quality’ of what
happens inside of.
- Recognize the ‘flavor’ of this emotion.
- Do this for different emotions to be able to identify them more readily
(good and bad ones).
- These memories will ‘wear out’, and you will have to:
- A - Find new memories to use from time to time, and
- B - Learn how to bring the feeling up WITHOUT needing a
memory to spark it.
- Eventually Peter Pan didn’t need to think of his mother
every time he wanted to fly, because he held the vibration
of love in him all the time.
- Soundtrack of awesome!
- Pick songs that are tied into specific strong memories and strong feelings
in your life.
- Not just upbeat songs that make you happy, but songs that have specific
relevance to moments in your life.
- Scents
- The olfactory sense is the strongest in relation to memory.
- Although… it is harder to find smells that bring up old memories.
- So… see if you can come up with anything (food, soaps, candles, etc…)
- Incense can help you train your brain for certain emotions, but might not
be effective to bring up old memories and emotions.
- Pictures and movies.
- Don’t underestimate the power of nostalgia.
- Go through old pictures, old mementos also, from time to time, that bring
up loving memories from your past and connect to the emotions
associated with them.
- Childhood movies are also a great tool.
- Mind tricks with the body:
- Laughter and smiling.
- Evolutionary purpose of laughter was to indicate safety after a
moment of fear.
- Laughing - therefore - sends signals to your body that you are
safe.
- Practicing extreme laughter can also help us release trapped
emotions.
- Power poses.
- Standing confidently for 5-10 minutes at a time has been shown to
have positive effects on our emotions.
- Love and Authenticity
- This plays into the Love vs. Fear issue.
- Anything that is not authentic to who you are creates dissonance inside of you.
- Dissonance creates conflict and - as we learned - anxiety and depression.
- Negative energies that go against who we are literally negate loving
energies that we carry inside of us.
- In sound engineering, this very real phenomenon is known as phase
shifting / phase inversion.
- This is why a lot of you feel numb.
- Because you are carrying a lot of energies that are literally cancelling out
the positive emotions of self love that are trying to express themselves
through you.
- When two competing frequencies meet, they try to find a balance (like hot
water vs. cold water).
- Conflict and dissonance of energies reduces vibrations overall, making you
numb.
- Cultivating any thoughts, choices, beliefs or energies that are not
authentically you will reduce the frequencies of love that you are trying to
cultivate.
- This is also why speaking your truth is so important.
- Boundaries of unconditional love.
- Maintaining unconditional love for others is about your intentions, thoughts and
emotions that you hold towards them.
- It is NOT about whether or not you keep them in your life.
- You can continue to love someone while also cutting them out.
- Because… keeping someone in your life who is harmful to you goes against
unconditional self-love… therefore… Keeping someone in your life who is
harmful to you means that it is impossible to give them true unconditional love.
- Cutting someone out of your life if they are causing you harm, is technically a
more loving thing than keeping them around.
- Allowing them to take their pain out on you will only enable their own harmful
behavior, and ultimately keeps them in their own pain.
- The main rule that you want to keep in mind is - when cutting someone out
- to do it with love and compassion, instead of anger.
- Cutting them out with anger will cause more cords of attachment and more
karma between you two.
- But walking away while maintaining a calm compassion for them and a strong
unconditional self-love will benefit both of you in the long run.
- Any love that does NOT stem from self love is harmful to both of you.
- Some people think they should love others and love themselve ALSO, but… as
we now know.. That is backwards.
- The official boundary of unconditional love for others, is anything that drains your
own love for yourself.
- And walking away from anger drains our self-love.
- So, we put up boundaries against connections, but NOT against love itself.
- You can let others into your life and your heart only to the extent that
allowing them in fuels your own self-love.
- You MUST let go of anyone that is holding you down.
- Connecting to the heart space.
- Where is the core of your being?
- In the west, we think our heads are the core of our beings - where the seat of our
consciousness is.
- But realistically, the core of your being is in your heartspace.
- We are trying to learn to associate more with our core and heartspace as the
fundamental element of who we are.
- Learning how to connect to the vibrations of our heartspace is the first step
towards being able to truly follow our intuition.
- Intuition speaks to you through emotion.
- It is always speaking to you.
- Following intuition is really just about following love over fear.
- We also need to start noticing the vibes of other people/places/things and the
impact they have on the frequency of our own heartspace.
- Especially during this healing and in a wounded state, you are very susceptible to
external frequencies.
- Eventually, you will be able to put out a frequency of love so strong that other
things can’t impact you in the same way (this is the goal).
- But you will still need to put up boundaries.
- It’s all about balance.
- Simultaneously, the more connected you are to your emotions, the more
connected you will be to others emotions.
- This is what it means to be an empath.
- Sometimes you will experience a level of love in your heart that is actually
incredibly uncomfortable.
- This is because you are not used to carrying that much love in your heart.
- As it opens up, it can start being a little scary or a little uncomfortable.
- Do not resist this emotion. Let it in. It is beautiful.
- This is you fully opening up to your heart space.
- But… don’t chase or expect that… It doesn’t happen easily. Just be
aware.
- You won’t always be able to connect truly with your heartspace, and that’s ok.
- It’s actually kind of rare.
- It will be a lifelong practice to be able to stay in that space for many of us.
- Some people have that open more naturally.
- For others, we are simply not there yet.
- Don’t force it. Don’t stress about it. But do practice it.
- Extra ways to connect:
- Solfeggio frequencies: Search on youtube.
- The heart has a particular frequency.
- Heart focussed solfeggio frequencies resonate at the frequencies of our
heart and help you connect.
- Elevator meditation.
- Envision the mental version of you in your head stepping into an elevator
and moving downwards into your heart.
- Sometimes, you may be feeling most of your energy in another part of
your body.
- You can use this meditation to move either up or down from any other
chakra and into your heart space.
- Chest to back ping pong.
- Focus on the feeling in the front of your chest.
- Envision a ball of energy moving from the front of your chest to the back
of your chest.
- Imagine it moving back and forth until you can focus more on the center
of your heart.
- Lying down with something pressing on the back of your chest - behind
your heart - can help you develop this practice.
- Chest pounding.
- Do this lightly… not too intensely.
- Lightly pound on your chest while focusing on your heart space and the
vibration of love.
- For extra effect, do this while humming, vibrating, or making sounds.
- Visualizing the heart beat.
- The heart actually beats in portions (different cavities in the heart beating
at different times).
- Actively visualizing your heart beating inside your chest is an effective
way to connect to your heartspace.
- For extra effect, feel for your pulse and envision your heart beat in time
with your actual pulse.
- (Vow of) Silence.
- Committing to not speaking for even 24 hours can help us connect into
our heart space.
- Being out in the woods for a few days at a time without speaking can
drastically change our mental frequency and help us connect to you heart
space.
- Softly flexing your abs.
- This simply moves your attention and your focus more into your body,
closer to your heart space.
- Psychedelics
- Practically the only surefire way to open up your heart space in a short
amount of time.
- Also the most powerful.
- But, unfortunately… not particularly sustainable.
6 - Importance of Positive Inner Dialogue
- We MUST develop mindful awareness of everything that we think and say to ourselves.
- Start noticing all of the subtle ways that you are sabotaging all of your healing and
self-love efforts with negative self talk.
- REMEMBER: We program our brains each and every moment of every day.
- Your brain is like a fresh field of grass.
- Every time you walk a certain way down that path, you start paving that pathway.
- So, every time you allow yourself to focus on the negative or tell yourself that
you’re not worth it, etc… you are programming your brain for those beliefs, and
this keeps playing out in your life in countless ways.
- When we are triggered and not mindfully aware, you will naturally slip into the
old, negative pathways.
- Negative self-talk is a form of SELF-HARM.
- You think it’s just you expressing beliefs… but it’s actually like you cutting
yourself. You are doing damage to yourself every time you say these things.
You’re either healing or you’re harming, each and every moment.
- You MUST choose healing.
- You are actively setting your beliefs when you allow these thoughts to keep
cycling.
- The first step towards changing is noticing and observing.
- You have the power to change these cycles any time you want.
- It’s not ONLY about what you say or think to yourself!
- It’s ALSO about the way you think and talk about OTHERS!
- Every moment of judgment, anger and blame towards others is paving these same
pathways in your brain!
- This is why compassion, forgiveness and understanding are so important.
- If you carry anger towards others, then YOU ARE CARRYING ANGER.
- That anger weighs you down.
- This is still another form of self-harm
- This NOT about ‘ethics and morality’ and you having to be a ‘good person’.
- It’s about recognizing that YOU want to feel good, and recognizing the self-harm
involved in cultivating anger within yourself.
How are we going to solve this?
- Step 1: We need to start observing:
- Ie. recognize that you don’t want to think and say these negative things anymore
because IT IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU!
- Step 2: DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF FOR IT!
- When you catch yourself thinking negative and aggressive thoughts, do not give
yourself judgment for it.
- Firstly, because that would be a paradox right there and a cycle (to judge yourself
for having judgmental thoughts would only be more judgment, right?)
- Secondly, because THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE! Remember?
- How can we succeed at changing ourselves?
- By recognizing something that we are doing imperfectly, and
putting our focus and attention on doing it differently.
- How can we POSSIBLY PERCEIVE that we are failing at something?
- By recognizing something that we are doing imperfectly.
- See the paradox here?
- The ONLY WAY to even think that you failed, is in fact the first
step towards changing and succeeding!
- Therefore, the only way to truly fail is to give ourselves shit for not being
perfect.
- ONLY with that inner judgment do we prevent ourselves from growing.
- ONLY with negative inner talk can we actually fail!
- Without the negative self-talk, noticing our mistakes is THE BEST THING
WE CAN DO!
- So… when you catch yourself slipping into negative inner dialogue,
CONGRATULATE YOURSELF FOR NOTICING THIS!
- This is what we call ‘giving your brain a cookie’.
- Make your subconscious mind associate catching your slip-ups with a
sense of accomplishment, instead of a sense of failure.
- Thinking a negative thought is NOT a failure! Catching yourself thinking a
negative thought is a SUCCESS!
- Actively say to yourself that you are proud for having noticed this self-harming
behavior, and you will start moving in the right direction easily.
- Step 3: Replace the negative thought with the positive opposite 3 times.
- EVERY TIME you catch yourself in a negative thought, actively think a positive
thought to replace it x 3.
- Over time, the old pathway will start growing over, and the new pathway will
become more paved than the old one.
- Extra tip: Recognize and love EVERY version of yourself!
- Recognize ‘angry you’, ‘jealous you’, ‘self-hating you’, and say to yourself “This
version of me… I accept and love you here. You are a beautiful part of my human
experience and you are welcome here.’
- This is an extension of just loving yourself.
- You do not want to ONLY LOVE the BEST versions of yourself… You want
to LOVE EVERY VERSION OF YOURSELF.
- Your subconscious needs to know that every part of it is safe to express itself.
- This is practically the core element of shadow work… EVERY element of
yourself is a part of you and is welcome in your body.
- The more that you reject parts of yourself, the more that they come and demand
your attention.
- But when you train yourself to recognize that all parts of you are welcome, those
self-harming and hurting parts of you will feel acknowledged and will back off.
- You came into this world to experience the full range of human emotion.
- So, every emotion, every part of you, is a beautiful part of the fullness of you.
- The 2 most powerful words in the English language are “I AM”.
- Remember, we are talking about the pathways we pave in our brain and how we
are forming beliefs.
- Whatever you put after the words “I AM” become incredibly powerful beliefs that
will cycle in your head, affect your decisions, affect your mood, etc…
- Every single time you say ‘“I AM” anything’... you are paving a belief about
yourself.
- Go out of your way to use positive I AM statements as much as possible.
- Swearing is NOT helpful!
- I know… this triggers a lot of people, but it very simply IS TRUE!
- Swearing carries with it the negative energies and connotations that we have
programmed into ourselves in association with these words over our lives.
- Swearing WILL keep you in lower vibrations.
- Yea… I know… they’re just words and intentions are the most important
thing. And yes… There's some truth to that, but you cannot ignore the
negative association with those words, and they NEVER add the vibration
of true love that we are trying to reach towards.
- If you’re resistant to it now, start noticing what it feels like in your heart when you
use these words, and compare that to how you feel when you are practicing true
gratitude and unconditional self love.
- You’ll inevitably notice that these words do not carry the vibration of love.
- So, don’t judge yourself for swearing… but start noticing, and start reminding
yourself that you simply don’t want to cultivate these energies anymore.
- .... As much as possible.
- None of us is perfect. Don’t stress about this. But notice it.
7 - Why You MUST Help People in Need!
- Remember: Although this advice is about how you treat OTHERS, this advice is
FOR YOUR BENEFIT! Not theirs! … Not directly anyway.
- You MUST be kind to people, because cultivating anything less than kindness for
others in yourself is harmful to you.
- This is NOT about morality, ethics or religion…
- It’s just about your own inner wellness and happiness.
- We are at our best when we are being of service to others.
But more importantly… Ignoring the pain of others is a reflection of ignoring our
own pain.
- This does NOT mean that you need to go out of your way to find charitable acts to do or
that you need to volunteer at the soup kitchen every day, etc…
- It just means that you can’t ignore people’s pain.
- It means trying to stay in the vibration of love and service towards the world, because
those are the vibrations that feel best.
- The way in which you treat other people is a reflection of the way that you treat
and feel about yourself.
- It’s a reflection of the pathways that we are paving in our brains.
- Imagine Bruce Lee walking down the street.
- Bruce Lee is - at least presumably - a self-loving, wise, intelligent person who
lived by the best values we are cultivating in ourselves.
- Even if he was late for a film shooting… if Bruce Lee saw a man on the street
who just broke his leg, is there any world in which Bruce Lee would think “screw
that guy… I’m late” and just keep walking?
- Absolutely not!
- Those who love themselves are naturally kind to others.
- Those who love themselves cannot ignore the pain of others.
- Because… we are NATURALLY EMPATHIC at our cores.
- We naturally feel the pain of others.
- So, ignoring their pain is ignoring your own.
- And ignoring your own pain is the very problem that led to all of your
suffering in this life, remember?
- It is by succumbing to our defense mechanisms and ignoring our emotions that
we have cultivated all of the negative patterns in our lives.
- So, in order to heal to the next level, we need to start learning to be of service to
those in need when we have the natural opportunity to do so.
- An extension of this is that doing random acts of kindness is good for your own
heart as well.
- As much as you can devote yourself to being of service to others, the happier
and more fulfilled you will be.
- BUT!
- Remember that UNCONDITIONAL SELF-LOVE must be the foundation!
- This is NOT about martyring yourself for others or giving any more than is
in your strength, energy, or ability to do.
- You don’t need to drain yourself to help others.
- You simply need to take care of yourself first, and give the excess love and
abundance that you have - when presented with the opportunity - to someone
that the universe has put in your path.
- Fallacy of emotional strength:
- We have been trained to think that ‘emotional strength’ means pushing
aside your emotions.
- That is COMPLETE NONSENSE.
- Avoiding your pain and your challenges is the exact opposite of strength.
- Avoiding lifting weights doesn’t make you strong…
- Training yourself to lift the heaviest weights is what makes you strong.
- So, emotional strength is actually about learning how to dive head first
into your own pain and that of others, with love and compassion.
- So, you being able to walk past someone in pain and just keep living your
life is the opposite of emotional strenght.
FOR YOUR OWN BENEFIT, YOU MUST HELP PEOPLE IN NEED
(AND BE KIND TO PEOPLE) WHENEVER YOU ARE GIVEN THE
OPPORTUNITY TO DO SO.
- Just note and remember that ‘kindness’ is just about how you treat them.
- This doesn’t mean you need to give money to every homeless person you pass (though
that would be nice if you can afford to).
- It just means to be compassionate, to treat people as human, and to do what is in your
power to do.
8 - Maintaining Unconditional Love
- 1 - They ARE you!
- Everyone outside of you is a projection of yourself, in a few ways.
- A: Psychologically
- You can only understand others through the lens of your own ideas,
rationalizations, and beliefs. You CANNOT see or understand the fullness
of who they are. You only understand their actions through your own lens.
- How you see them is a reflection of how you see yourself and how you
yourself understand the world.
- How you judge them is actually just a reflection of the ways in which you
judge yourself.
- B: Spiritually
- We are all fragments of the same singular consciousness
- On the other side of the physical realm, we are all connected. We are all
one.
- They are LITERALLY you at the spiritual level.
- So… you’re really just judging yourself.
- 2 - Judging others is a form of self harm!
- Other people are causing themselves pain by allowing themselves to be cruel to
you (because it is impossible to fully love yourself while being cruel to others).
- Do NOT let their pain convince you to harm yourself by succumbing to the same
cycles that they are in.
- They are harming themselves by being cruel, but you shouldn’t nor do you
want to therefore hurt YOURSELF by allowing yourself to be cruel to them.
- Don’t let their pain become yours.
- Let them harm themselves. You don’t need to.
- Taking revenge on someone who has hurt you is the prime example of this.
- Taking revenge on others will lead to guilt and shame inside of
yourself as you learn to connect more with your emotions.
- So, if someone has hurt you, taking revenge on them is hurting yourself.
- So… does it make sense to hurt yourself because someone else hurt
you?
- Obviously not!
- It is in YOUR best interest not to be cruel to someone even though they
were cruel to you.
- BUT!!! I am NOT saying ‘turn the other cheek’ in the sense that you are meant to
allow them to keep taking their pain out on you.
- You MUST set up boundaries against toxic behavior that doesn’t serve you, but
you need to do so compassionately. Not with anger, blame or judgment.
- Use self-love and compassion - not anger - to set up boundaries against
toxic people and behavior.
- 3 - They are necessarily in pain.
- All of the lessons that you are learning for yourself about how judging or being
cruel to others is a form of self harm also applies to them.
- Therefore, anyone who is being cruel to you is stuck in cycles of self harm, guilt,
shame, etc…
- Those who are able to be cruel to you are SO DISCONNECTED from their own
emotions, that they are actually in MUCH MORE pain than you are.
- You are able to recognize that you are in pain, which means that you are
somewhat more connected to your emotions and to who you are as a person.
- So, while you technically ‘experience’ more emotional pain in the moment, they
are actually far more closed off and ACTUALLY in more pain.
- You are closer to your healing than they are.
- ‘Empaths’ deal with their pain by desperately seeking love and approval (they are
sensitive to their emotions and those of others), which can sometimes be painful
when we don’t love ourselves and are being taken advantage of, but at least we
can feel and we get to enjoy moments of true joy and love as well.
- ‘Narcissists’ deal with their pain by shutting off their emotions. So, in the moment
it might seem like they are experiencing less pain, but they are incapable of
experiencing the true positive emotions that this world has to offer?
- Who would you rather be?
- Personally, I’d choose vulnerability and sensitivity (even if that means some pain)
over being shut off and empty, any day.
- A person who is always angry is living a miserable existence.
- It makes no sense to be angry at someone for being in pain.
- 4 - Your kindness will trigger their demons
- The more that you grow and evolve and dedicate yourself to improvement and to
finding purpose and direction in your life, the more that it will shine a light on the
ways in which they are NOT doing that for themselves.
- This will frustrate and anger them even more.
- Watching someone living their life in a positive way forces them to confront the
fact that they are not doing so.
- They want you to be as miserable as they are, because if you’re not, then they
have to admit to themselves that they are the ones who are miserable and in
pain, and they are not ready to do that.
- So, the more that you try and rise, the more that they will try to bring you down, to
justify the ways in which they are living their lives.
- They WANT to play the anger game, and they want you to play by their rules.
- Don’t let them suck you into their game.
- Acknowledge their pain- without judgment - and walk away.
9 - FAQ
- If you’ve reached this point, you’re halfway through the course. Congratulations!
- By now you should be seeing some noticeable progress in how you are handling and
approaching everyday situations.
- BUT… don’t stress about measuring your success!
- You are likely progressing more than you realize, because this whole thing is a
process, and it’s hard to see the full change until you are a little more firmly on the
other side.
- SO… congratulate yourself for coming this far. Notice and appreciate the progress you
see. And just remember to relax into the process and let things happen naturally and
progressively.
- Reminders:
a. At this point in the course it’s easy to start getting distracted by your
external triggers and by life and the world around you.
- It is CRUCIAL that you remind yourself to focus back inwards…
- Over and over and over and over and over…
- And over and over and over.
- Keep on bringing your attention back to what you are experiencing
internally.
- NOTHING ELSE MATTERS.
- As you heal your inner reactions, your outer world will start reflecting it
through your choices, responses, reactions, and decisions.
- But every time you forget this and, either:
- Try to solve an external problem FIRST (rather than looking
inwards), or…
- Try to find the ‘source’ of your emotional pain (ie - the past trauma
that created), you are trying to skip over your emotional distress in
the moment, and will encourage the subconscious cycles that we
are trying to change.
- So… over and over… remind yourself to focus back inwards.
b. Learn to actually APPRECIATE the moments of emotional distress.
- Why? Because now that you know how to handle low vibing emotions,
every instance of them coming up is an opportunity for healing.
- “So long as I don’t get in my own way and I actually allow this feeling to
run through me, then my life is about to get better!”
- By allowing yourself to feel what you’re feeling right now, you will release
some of what has been holding you back in your life.
- Think of it like a work out. But all you need to do is not resist it!
- Low moments handled without fear is how you heal!
- Appreciate it.
c. There is a LOT of information in this course!
- Do your best to absorb and put into practice as much as possible, but…
- Do be aware that it is going to take years to FULLY master this stuff.
- So, don’t get ahead of yourself. You are learning tools and skills that will
guide you for the rest of your life. So… just relax.
- Know that you will need to go over this material multiple times until you
can fully get it.
d. Remember that we are healing ‘from the top down’.
- In other words, DO NOT BE A TRAUMA HUNTER.
- Enjoy the good moments as much as possible, and use what comes up
as an opportunity to heal.
- That’s it!
- Don’t try to force the process.
- All in good time, my dear. You’re getting there.
e. You’re awesome!
- Most people are not even ready to do this work.
- If you’ve made it this far, you are putting effort in where others don’t even
realize there is work to be done.
- Good for you!
- Congratulations.
- I am honored to have you on this journey with us!
Week 5
1 - Intro:
- Week 5 is all about your body and your physical environment.
- We need to make sure that - as you raise your inner frequency and state of
consciousness - your outer world begins to match the new improvements you are
making internally.
- Your external reality is a reflection of your inner world.
- AND… it’s also a relevant causal factor to your inner world (ie - it has an effect on
how you feel).
- This is a matter of co-creation cycles - the outer world must be in alignment
with our new inner world.
- So, we need to eliminate any toxic elements in our 3D world that are dragging us down.
- We also need to improve the causal elements of our 3D world to make sure that we are
feeding ourselves good influences (make sure that our 3D world is supporting us in this
healing).
- We need to develop a healthy relationship with our 3D world that will encourage
and spark extra opportunities to heal.
- If we do all of this inner work but continue to maintain a toxic environment, we will
eventually be brought back down to where we started.
- Part of mastering ourselves is mastering our bodies and our environments.
- We’ve focused a lot on our inner worlds, now it’s time to focus on the outer world
a bit more.
2 - Weekly Exercises:
- Mantra: I am the conscious co-creator of my life
- Recognize the co-creation cycles.
- Merely by observing them, we develop the ability to change the negative
cycles we have been in.
- Remove yourself from victim mentality.
- YOU are the conscious co-creator, and it is important that you recognize
all of the ways in which you have been contributing to creating the
circumstances you have been living in.
- Gratitude: Thanking your body.
- It is a miracle that you have this physical body to carry you around and keep you
experiencing this physical reality.
- Make sure that you take the time to practice gratitude around this.
- Don’t forget… don’t merely pay lip service to it, but rather actually PRACTICE the
feeling of gratitude in relation to the miracle that is your body.
- Thank the parts of you that are working overtime, 24/7 to keep you moving.
- Thank the parts of you that AREN’T working so well either and make peace with
them. Because the guilt, shame, and anger that you carry surrounding them are
not helpful or conducive to healing and growth.
- Meditation:
- A - Envisioning your surroundings.
- Helps ground you in the present moment and appreciate exactly where
you are.
- B - Connecting with empty space.
- Helps us drop into a meditative state and/or a practically mystical sense
of calm fairly quickly.
- Focusing on ‘that which is not’ shifts our brainwaves very quickly from
focusing on our external problems or on the 3D world, and helps connect
us to our inner being very quickly.
- Breathwork: Box Breathing
- Helpful for mindful awareness of self, relaxation of breath, and slowing of heart
rate.
- Breathe in 4 - Hold 4 - Breathe out 4 - Hold 4.
- When you hold after the ‘out’ breath, notice the stillness and calmness within
yourself.
3 - Social Media Tips.
How to use social media to accelerate your healing journey:
- Social media is an incredible training ground for how to manage your triggers, how to
master your emotions, and how to interact in the real world.
- It is a strong microcosm of everything that we are going to encounter in the regular
world.
- We are instantly connected with the best and the worst of human society all at once.
- There is a massive amount of interaction with good hearted people and with trolls. With
people who are looking to learn and people who are looking to judge. People who will
trigger you and people who will get triggered by you.
- If you can learn how to properly master yourself and your emotions in relation to
engaging on social media, you can certainly handle yourself acting one on one or
in small groups in real life.
- So… for those of you who don’t use social media at all, these things won’t apply, but
most of us do, and these skills will help you immensely.
Tips for using social media to practice your emotional wellness.
- 1 - Be Aware of the Algorithm
- This is a bit of training in relation to the law of attraction.
- Start noticing how what you choose to engage with is shown to you more
and more.
- This is how the law of attraction works… what you choose to focus on will grow.
- It’s not JUST about what you love and enjoy… it’s what you choose to give your
energy to.
- Facebook and tiktok don’t know or care whether you liked something or
not… it only cares whether you engage with it or not.
- And if you engage with it, it will show you more of that.
- The same goes with life and the law of attraction.
- The more that you engage with judgment, anger, hatred, bigotry, etc… the
more that you attract these things into your life.
- The more you attract these things into your life, the more this paints a
picture of what you think the world is.
- So… start choosing to engage only with things that you want to attract
more of in your life.
- 2 - No more take backs!
- It’s very easy to post stuff online and then delete it if it turns out to be proven
wrong or you find it embarrassing later on.
- This removes accountability for your actions.
- It allows you to just shoot your mouth off and see where it lands, then
take it back if it doesn’t get the reaction that you wanted.
- Learning how to feel the emotions that come along with being proven
wrong or accepting that you said something offensive will help you
process & release old traumas and emotions that are holding you down.
- But simply avoiding the uncomfortable emotions of learning you were
wrong will help you bury uncomfortable feelings even more.
- Leaving your comment up that was proven wrong will also help other
people learn about the mistaken thing you posted.
- This helps everyone grow, because other people probably thought what
you thought, and now everyone can see and learn from this.
- It, of course, takes strength and courage to leave something up once you
were proven wrong, but that’s the point of this first rule.
- Instead of running from the uncomfortable emotions, confront them.
- But also… sticking to this rule - and knowing that you will stick to it - will make
you start considering whether or not to make a particular post or comment before
you do so.
- It will help you develop mindful awareness of what you’re choosing to say
and speak out on.
- Maintaining this rule in the real world - being careful about what you say - will be
extremely helpful, because in the real world you CANNOT take things back in the
same way.
- This is training you to think before you speak - No harmful speech!
- 3 - No More ‘Knee-Jerk’ Reactions
- If you find yourself needing to IMMEDIATELY respond to something where
someone disagrees with you or calls you out on something, this is a sign that you
are actually being emotionally triggered.
- Needing to answer right away is your way of avoiding confronting the
uncomfortable emotions that are coming inside of you at that moment.
- It helps you avoid having to look at yourself, your emotions, etc…
- It also helps you avoid learning compassion for the person who is
disagreeing with you or actually considering their point of view.
- Learning how to pause and process all of the emotions that someone
else’s post or comment is bringing up in you, will help you heal and
release things that are trying to come up inside of you in the moment.
- It will also help you respond with more love and compassion, and thereby
form better connections with other people, or avoid any negative karma
and cords with those other people.
- Knee-jerk reactions fuel ‘the anger game’, where everyone just keeps on
triggering each other back and forth.
- Learn to take the time to feel whatever feelings someone else’s post or comment
brings up.
- 4 - No More Inviting Arguments!
- This plays back into the law of attraction thing from the ‘algorithm’ tip.
- We all have the habit of NEEDING to state our opinions all the time!
- Even and especially when we are dealing with someone who is determined to
disagree with us, to troll us, to get angry at us, etc…
- Especially these days with everyone being on one particular side of the COVID
and Vaccine debates… we all feel we have the duty and responsibility to speak
out about everything that someone says that we firmly disagree with.
- But… what is the benefit of engaging in these debates online?
- What is it doing to YOUR reality to engage with someone who is
determined to argue with you?
- Is it helping you truly cultivate love and inner peace?
- Is it helping you heal and grow?
- Or is it just you asserting your ego and your opinion onto other people for
you to feel better about yourself or to put someone else down?
- When you have learned TRUE unconditional love, then perhaps you can
learn how to state helpful opinions without inviting arguments…
- But you will inevitably invite arguments when dealing with people who
aren’t ready to hear you.
- Even when YOU have grown to unconditional love, you will need to learn
the difference between an opportunity to help people grow vs. a useless
debate that is only going to bring strife and frustration into your life.
- Remember… your goal ALL THE TIME is raising your vibes!
- Ie - your own emotional wellness is your #1 priority.
- So… stop inviting arguments, and learn how to just scroll past things that
you don’t agree with and let others go on their own journeys and figure
things out for themselves.
- Not to mention… you can’t truly be certain about your beliefs anyway.
- Just focus on your emotional wellness. Let everything else go.
- It’s not your duty to push your beliefs on others, even if you are ‘right’ about a
certain subject.
- 5 - Cut out all Negativity.
- Don’t be afraid to block or unfollow things that are not fueling your emotional
wellness.
- Just focus on what’s best for you emotionally, especially while you are doing this
healing. It’s not worth absorbing anything else.
- 6 - Fill your feed with positivity!
- Actively use social media to feed your heart and brain with things that will help
you practice positive emotions and positive lessons.
4 - Importance of decluttering.
- Dealing with your environment: Home, Workspace, etc…
- Importance of keeping a tidy environment and ridding ourselves of attachments to ‘stuff’
and to old versions of ourselves.
- 2 main elements of decluttering.
- 1 - Making sure that our environment is supporting our healing journey.
- Dealing with the co-creation cycle of how our environment affects our
inner world.
- 2 - Using this process of decluttering as a healing exercise.
- Making use of it to bring up old emotions and traumas that are buried
beneath the surface, giving us the opportunity to release and heal them.
- 1 - Everything has energy:
- Every space - and the objects within them- carry certain energies and
frequencies that our hearts, guts, and spirits pick up on in subtle ways that we
don’t usually realize consciously.
- A messy environment itself has a cluttered energy.
- That cluttered energy impacts our own internal energy when we spend a lot of
time there.
- Hoarding - for example - is a symptom of emotional junk that we haven’t
dealt with, and it also fuels mental health problems.
- Your external reality around you is a reflection of your inner reality, and in
turn your inner reality picks up on cues and energy from our external
environment.
- Co-creation cycle of inner and outer world.
- If you want to be experiencing abundance in your life, for example, you first need
to feel abundance inside of yourself, and holding on to things that you don’t need
anymore (being afraid to let go of things that are no longer useful to you) is the
exact opposite energy of abundance.
- Decluttering is a helpful way to clear out lack energy from your own mind and
soul.
- Living in a clean and clear environment also represents clean and clear energy
inside of yourself.
- The very act of cleaning can actually help you release old energy inside of
yourself and renew your vigor and emotional wellness.
- 2 - Decluttering Gives us the opportunity to heal past traumas:
- The things that we are holding onto and afraid to get rid of are attached to old
versions of ourselves that we haven’t yet dealt with.
- Does that mean that you’re not allowed to have mementos and memories?
- No… you can absolutely hold on to treasured memories from the past.
- BUT… we often hold onto things that remind us of pain from our past
because we are not yet ready to let go of these things.
- Although… that being said… the ULTIMATE self-loving, buddha level
version of yourself actually would be willing to let go of all of those
mementos.
- Non attachment to the past actually is helpful.
- But I don’t expect you to go that far.
- Our goal is merely to let go of anything that doesn’t bring up
positive frequencies of love and joy within us.
- AND to use this act of decluttering as an opportunity to let go of past
traumas.
- Basically, we want to let go of anything that no longer serves us, whether
those things are meant to serve us practically or emotionally.
- Recognize that the inability to let go of things that are no longer of use to
us stems from fear.
- Fear of confronting our past.
- There are emotions (and energy) connected to these things that
attach us to past versions of ourselves.
- Despite the pain of those past memories, we are holding on to
them,
- This is a reflection of unresolved emotional energy.
- It is because we are not ready to let go of those old versions of
ourselves that we resist letting go of them.
- Finally letting go of the objects allows us to release that past
energy and our attachments to the old version of who we were.
- And fear of not having enough (lack energy - the opposite of
abundance).
- Learning to trust that - if you need something like it in the future -
you will always have what you need (and even better than what
you have now) is a matter of trust in our journey and faith in our
higher selves that will help you feel more relaxed in your life.
- Using the act of decluttering to heal:
- Especially when we are dealing with objects that hold attachments to our
past selves, we don’t want to JUST throw them out haphazardly and
move on.
- That would rob us of this opportunity to heal.
- We want to ‘ritualize’ this act of decluttering.
- Confronting these objects - and deciding to get rid of them - will bring up
uncomfortable emotions.
- We want to actively feel and confront these emotions, because we
won’t have such an easy opportunity to bring up those buried
emotions again once these objects are gone.
- The emotions that are triggered by these objects (and the fear of letting
go of them) gives us an opportunity to heal.
- Place the objects around you, take them, hold them, reflect on the
emotions that are coming up.
- Find the feelings inside of you and actively focus on them.
- Don’t run from the emotions.
- You should no longer be scared to confront uncomfortable emotions, so
let yourself dive right into this stuff.
- Then apply the exercises like Ho’oponopono or the mirror exercise in
relation to the emotions that are coming up.
- That you still have these objects is a gift for your healing that will
allow you to connect to uncomfortable memories that you wouldn’t
have such easy access to otherwise!
- Make use of this opportunity!
5 - Identifying Toxic Influences.
- ‘Toxic’ isn’t simply about people who don’t resonate with you or you don’t like.
- It’s about people who make you feel worse about yourself when you are doing
your best to live your life well.
- Anyone who makes you feel bad for expressing your truest and best self is
someone we would call toxic.
- If you notice yourself walking in proud and confident and kind, but walking out
feeling ashamed and guilty, that is a sign of a toxic person.
- Anyone who makes you feel bad for what you love about yourself.
- Anyone who is making you feel less than worthy or feel like their love is
something you need to earn.
- People who make you feel bad for your passions.
- People who make you think “what is wrong with me?” when you are doing
nothing but expressing your truest self.
Mutual toxicity is a thing as well. It is possible for you to each be toxic to
each other at the same time.
- Recognize if and when you might be having that kind of impact on someone else.
- Sometimes you might be doing this well meaningly (if, for example, someone isn’t ready
to heal and you are forcing your new awakened and enlightened beliefs on them, you
may be making them feel bad for who they are).
- It takes time, patience, and practice to learn how to lovingly guide people towards
healing when they are resistant.
- Trying to force healing on the unwilling is toxic, and is actually a sign of
unresolved issues inside of you.
- Keep refocusing on your own issues. Don’t force others to ascribe to your beliefs
or to be on your journey.
- Family is NOT exempt from being toxic.
- In fact, family members are often the most toxic people in our lives.
- We justify, excuse, and allow a lot of toxic behavior because we feel like we can’t
separate ourselves from them or that we owe them something.
- It is ok to create space from toxic family members.
- If you can’t leave them, understand that their actions come from pain (the kind of
pain that we are working on healing), and it might be your responsibility to help
see them through this.
- Keep in mind:
- People who are being toxic may unconsciously resent you for living life in
the way that they want to.
- Judgment, anger, and blame towards them is not helpful.
- People who try to hold you back from improving yourself are also toxic.
- Often this happens because you are making positive changes that they are not
ready to make, and if you continue to make these changes you will leave them.
- It’s a defense mechanism.
- Resist the urge to get mad at them, but also avoid the urge to justify, allow and
accept that behavior as a result of a connection that you have already built with
them.
- Toxic is toxic, and you need to choose self-love.
- Make sure that when you separate yourself from toxic people, you do it with love
and compassion, not anger and resentment.
- Your goal is to recognize those who are being toxic to you, to choose self-love
enough to walk away from them (because you are just not willing to let them drag
you down anymore), but to maintain compassion for them while you do so,
recognizing that toxic behavior is a sign of unresolved pain (and therefore that
there is no sense in you being angry at someone for being in pain).
- Remember that anger and resentment is corrosive to you, and creates
chords of attachment between you.
- Make a clean break. Do it kindly. Compassionately. And with self-love.
- Doing it ‘with self-love’ means not allowing yourself to slip into anger and
judgment while walking away.
6 - Posture and Alignment.
- Physical elements:
- When you are out of alignment, your body starts compensating. It can’t
operate properly.
- Can’t breathe properly. Can’t digest food properly. Can’t send blood
properly throughout the body making the heart work harder.
- Your body is also holding on to trauma in various muscles, and you are
giving in to this by allowing yourself to slip into bad posture.
- We instinctively (and unconsciously) tense up our bodies in order to resist
emotional distress and prevent ourselves from feeling it.
- A tense posture will encourage these harmful emotional avoidance
cycles.
- Learning to release tension and stay relaxed will help you let go of
unresolved emotional issues:
- Releasing bodily tension will force you to confront
uncomfortable emotions and energetic sensations that you
were blocking off by holding that tension in your body.
- There is also a psychological element to this - confidence and self esteem
are affected by posture.
- Bad posture will also make basic exercise and movement difficult, which
will then have cyclical effects on our health and then our emotions.
- We also use things like ‘body blocking’ (think of standing with your arms crossed)
as ways of keeping people out or protecting ourselves emotionally.
- We use resistant posture as a defense mechanism - based in fear and
lack of self-love.
- Facial posture is also a representation of unresolved emotions.
- Your face obviously expresses a lot of your emotions…
- So, constantly holding onto tension in your face is a sign of unresolved
emotions very much near the surface, and even just a representation of
your bad mood, energy and attitude on a regular basis.
- Are you constantly tensing parts of your face? (screwface).
- Even tongue posture is a real thing.
- Recognize how much tension you are holding in your tongue (and jaw).
- This is a sign of stress that you are not recognizing.
- Learning to notice your facial stresses and mindfully relaxing your face as
often as possible will reveal a lot about what emotions you have been
suppressing or simply not noticing.
- Learning to be mindfully aware of the little stresses we hold in our body will
help you release more.
- Spiritual Elements.
- If we’re talking at the spiritual level, there is the idea of the proper flow of
energy or chi as well. Bad posture will get in the way of a healthy flow of
energy.
- Having a straight spine is important for the flow of energy, for meditation, etc…
- Crossing body parts creates resistance in our body.
- Overall point… notice where you are holding on to tension and resistance, or not
using your body properly and out of alignment.
- Pay attention, because releasing tension in your physical body will help your
emotional body identify and move negative energy and unresolved emotions and
trauma that you are holding onto.
- Sleep posture is also important to notice.
- You spend practically ⅓ of your life asleep.
- If your body is in a poor posture during that time, bodily functions and energy
movement are restricted.
- Although maintaining perfect posture while you are asleep is difficult, it is
something you should start paying a little attention to.
- In theory, sleeping on your side with a pillow between your legs (to keep
your spine straight) and making sure you are not too hunched over (to
allow your lungs to expand fully and your digestive system to function
properly) is whats best.
- Sleeping on your back may be best for some, but comes with it’s own set of
issues.
- Snoring happens mostly when on your back - and this is a sign of poor
breathing.
- Heavy set people will also find they have more trouble breathing while
sleeping on their backs.
7 - Vision Boards and Notes:
- 2 Super helpful tools that you can start using to use your environment to help you
practice emotions and accelerate your healing journey.
- Using your environment to constantly program positive messages into your brain, and
support you when you slip into fear and other negative emotions.
- 1 - Vision Boards.
- The more that I practice raising my frequency, the more that I recognize the
benefit of having a vision board, but this is not ‘required homework’. Just a helpful
suggestion.
- What is a vision board?
- It is simply a collage, a picture, a wall or a board with all kinds of
images and/or words that represent the version of reality that you
want to move into.
- Ex: The kind of house you want to live in, people with the physique that
you are trying to accomplish, the car you want to drive, role models you
want to emulate, etc…
- The idea is to be programming into your subconscious mind the version of
reality that you want to create for yourself.
- Remember that the idea behind what you put on your vision board (and
how you use it) is always about practicing an emotion (as well as simply
programming your subconscious mind).
- So, pick images and words that help you connect to emotions of
inspiration, gratitude, love, joy, excitement, etc…
- The emotions are the most important part.
- Once you have made your board, for 21 days (at least), spend 5-10 minutes a
day actively looking at the board, focusing on the feelings that it evokes, and
imagtining the future that it is portraying for yourself.
- Notes, Notes, Notes, EVERYWHERE!
- This IS Required Homework! DO IT!
- Remember that you are constantly programming your subconscious mind.
- Every moment of every day, your mind is picking up on cues from your
environment, and it is important to make sure that we are actively programming
positive beliefs and messages.
- So, the idea is:
- Place notes with positive mantras and phrases ALL OVER YOUR
HOME!
- They should not be compacted into tone specific area… they should be
everywhere, so that no matter where you look, some helpful messages
are being programmed into you.
- Especially in places where you are looking all the time (ex: under your TV
screen or computer screen)
- When creating your notes:
- Feel free to look under the video for examples of phrases you might want
to use.
- Feel free to use the mantras from the course.
- You can use plenty of positive ‘I AM’ statements that resonate with you.
- Any helpful revelations about your own life and journey that pop into
your head at any time (especially while doing this course and
healing) are very powerful.
- Anything that is particularly relevant to lessons that you need to
learn or that you are currently learning that resonate with you will
be extremely helpful for you.
- These messages might be especially relevant for you when you
encounter challenges in your journey.
- You will get important messages in the moment right now that will
be extremely relevant for you as you continue to face that
challenge or learn that lesson at deeper levels in the future.
- Basically, you learn the lesson once consciously and this phrase
pops into your head.
- But then it still takes time to truly integrate that lesson.
- So, when you are faced with a challenge in the near future that
brings that challenge up again, you will have the EXACT right
message that you need at that time, and having the note there will
feel like a magical gift from your past/future self to help you when
you need it.
- Make sure that whatever phrases you use TRULY RESONATE
WITH YOU! Don’t just use random cliches that mean nothing
to you and don’t evoke emotions from you.
- How to write your notes:
- Get clear, white Index cards (if possible) or cut up regular white paper into 4 or 2
pieces. Whatever seems aesthetically pleasing to you.
- But make sure that they are large enough to fit BIG LETTERS onto.
- They should not be tiny post-it sized pieces. They should be big.
- Write your notes in BIG BLACK SHARPIE or anything else that can be easily
read from 5-10 feet away.
- The idea is that you want your mind to be picking up these messages ALL
THE TIME… not just when you are right in front of them.
- Your mind should be able to passively absorb the messages as often as possible.
- You won’t notice yourself absorbing these messages most of the time.
- Keep the phrases short (4-8 words is ideal).
- They should be able to hit your subconscious mind easily.
- Change up the notes every once in a while (once you feel like any particular
message has lost its power)... but keep the important ones ‘forever’ (ex: ‘Love
your challenges’ is a timeless piece of advice that will always be relevant).
8 - Intoxicants:
- Although you probably want and/or need to stop using intoxicants, this is not about
purism.
- You are free to enjoy the 3D life and pleasure as you see fit.
- Intoxicants should be used to elevate our emotions and our experiences. Not to
run from them. That’s the main idea.
- The big problem is that the ‘high’ of drugs and alcohol is not sustainable, and is
necessarily followed by a down, which encourages us to keep chasing that
unsustainable high, leading to a vicious and harmful cycle.
- The guilt and shame associated with drugs is often worse than the drug itself. So
your relationship with yourself is of the utmost priority.
- Don’t worry if you’ve been using drugs or if you choose to in the future. Know that
you’re better off clean, but that there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with
experimenting and indulging.
- Intoxicants can be helpful to give us insight about life, by changing the frequency
of our brain waves to experience a different flavor of reality for brief moments.
- The perspective gained from different states of consciousness can be extremely helpful.
- But, there is a difference between raising your consciousness and raising your emotions.
Beware of confusing the two.
- Any intoxicant can become a problem when we start using it habitually, and forget why
we’re using it or the impact it is having
- Make sure you take a break from time to time if possible, to reassess your
relationship with these things.
- Alcohol:
- Can sometimes be used to amplify good experiences.
- MUST be used in moderation.
- Is most often used to hide bad feelings.
- Carries with it an invitation for the great demon of alcoholism.
- DON’T FOOL YOURSELF… it’s as bad a poison as anything else on this list.
- It’s shocking that society has accepted it as a regular thing.
- Marijuana
- Can be helpful on your spiritual journey.
- Can sometimes help you raise your consciousness, but vibrates lower than we
are aiming for ultimately.
- Helps us avoid certain emotions, so be careful.
- Psychedelics (Mushrooms, Acid, DMT, Ayahuasca, etc...)
- Can be extremely helpful on your awakening journey, but just be careful
- They require practice to be used properly for higher dimensional
revelations.
- Can be extremely helpful for emotional healing as well.
- They activate parts of the brain that have been neglected, and force
emotions to run through us.
- Mushrooms in particular can be extremely helpful for depression.
- 1 - Be careful with your first experiences - try to have someone experienced
with you if possible.
- 2 - Be careful about overindulging and losing track of reality.
- 3 - Be careful of acting on the outside world while in that state.
Think of psychedelics as plant medicine. Develop a healthy respect for
them, and they can be very helpful.
- Cigarettes:
- The stupidest thing in the world (and that’s coming from a long-time smoker)
- Has absolutely no benefits, and only serves to help us avoid emotions.
- Physically, emotionally and spiritually draining.
- They ONLY feel good and help us ‘relax’ once we are already addicted to them.
- They provide no intrinsic benefit of their own.
- But… don’t judge yourself for it if you’re already addicted. Just be prepared to let
go of it when you’re ready.
- Party drugs (Ecstasy, Molly, Ketamine, etc...):
- Can sometimes be helpful for awakenings, introspection, and opening the heart.
- They provide access to levels of intense emotions that are practically impossible
to achieve in any other way.
- In that way, they can provide inside, perspective, and experiences that are
beneficial to your evolution
- BUT… They can be dangerous when over-indulging in them.
- Too much at a time or using them too regularly can cause EXTREME
problems in your life!
- Unless you have great will power and strength when it comes to
these kinds of things, I would not recommend indulging at all.
- Just be very careful. Use them sparingly.
- Stimulants (Speed, Cocaine, etc…):
- Basically just demons.
- NOT recommended for ANY reason!
- They have no benefits for your spiritual and healing journey and are just
immensely addictive.
- Provide brief moments of pleasure while destroying your life in countless ways.
9 - [BONUS] Overcoming Addiction
- Tips to overcome addictions.
- None of this will make this EASY… but it will certainly make it easier and improve your
chances of success.
- Is addiction a ‘disease’?
- While I’m not an addiction specialist, I personally believe that this is a
misinterpretation.
- It is as much a ‘disease’ as bipolar disorder is a true ‘disorder’ of the brain.
- If you are in this course, it is likely because you agree with my assessment
that Bipolar of Borderline being defined as ‘disorders’ is a harmful
misunderstanding that makes it harder to overcome these things.
- I am NOT denying the chemical or even the genetic elements to what makes us
keep doing these things.
- I am merely saying that defining addiction as a ‘disease’ is simply unhelpful
for us and makes it seem as though these things are harder to overcome
than they are.
- There is a ‘causal effect loop’ of calling these things diseases that helps us dig
into them even deeper.
- People who only study the body (chemicals and physics) but who don’t have true
wisdom about life find it easy to classify these things as diseases the same way
they will define Generalized Anxiety Disorder as something that is straight up
wrong with you.
- Emotions are the REAL issue!
- We are using addictive substances as mechanisms to help us avoid certain
emotions.
- We need to tackle the emotional root of why we are using these things.
- When we tackle the emotional issues, the ‘disease’ element becomes easier to
overcome.
- We believe “I need this thing”.
- But.. you need this thing… or what?
- Well, without it, you might suffer from more anxiety, more stress, more
fear, etc…
- Basically, the ‘or else’ is the creation of undesirable emotions that you
don’t know how to handle.
- I need alcohol OR ELSE I will experience anxiety, fear, self-loathing and
suicidal thoughts.
- Those are all emotions.
- If we learn how to deal with the emotions directly, then the ‘or else’
changes character a little bit.
- When we stop using these substances, emotions will arise that we are
going to need to know how to handle.
- SOME substances really do come along with physical pain points (ex:
heroin). NOT denying that.
- But for the most part, even the substances that have ‘chemically addictive’
properties (like cigarettes) don’t come with true physical pain or serious physical
pain when we quit.
- See Allen Carr’s famous book “Easy Way to Quit Smoking”
- We have been trained to think that there is a serious physical element to
our chemical addiction to cigarettes, but it’s simply not as true as we think
it is.
- Remember… I smoked cigarettes for 15+ years.
- The real issue is about the anxiety and stress that have you freaking out
when you can’t smoke and are worried about it.
Remember the ‘Thoughts > Emotions > Sensations’ cycle that we have
been learning about in this course. THIS IS WHY you have such intense
physical reactions to quitting smoking.
It’s NOT because of the physical dependence itself, but because of your
emotional cycles.
- With something like heroin, there is no denying the physical detox period. But for the
most part, that’s not truly what we’re dealing with when quitting most substances.
- When you learn how to conquer the emotional triggers around it, then you can just allow
yourself to experience the physical discomfort for a brief period without fueling it with
more fear, leading to worse physical symptoms.
- By isolating the physical symptoms as their own thing (without fueling them with fear),
you can withstand them easier and make it through the quitting process.
Most of these addictive behaviors DON’T EVEN TRULY FEEL GOOD! Not at
their core! They only feel good because you are already addicted and
because they are helping you avoid certain emotions!
- Smoking cigarettes IN ITSELF does not actually feel good at all to someone who is not
already addicted.
- It’s a truly disgusting habit.
- We have to WORK at becoming addicted to it!
Tips for Overcoming Addiction:
- 1 - Recognize the Paradoxical Fear of Quitting.
- While you are addicted, you feel like you NEED this thing in order to feel good.
- In this space, even the thought of not being able to have this thing scares us!
- “What happens in the future when I want this thing and can’t have it? Oh
no!! I’m not ready to deal with that eventuality. I’m scared of not being able
to have it!”
- Thing is… this fear makes no sense!
- The whole point is that by the time you’ve quit, you WON’T feel the need for it
anymore!
- It’s kind of a fear of success.
- You’re scared about what will happen once you’ve quit and won’t actually
want it anymore because RIGHT NOW you still want it.
- This is a nonsense, paradoxical fear.
- You’re afraid now about being afraid in the future.
- You’re worried about being worried about being worried.
- It’s just your brain's way of keeping you in the comfort zone.
- It’s ONLY your addicted self that needs this thing. Non-addicted you won’t ‘miss’
this thing.
- You’re only really afraid of the quitting process.
- Start recognizing this now, so that the idea of quitting doesn’t freak you out.
- 2 - STOP SHAMING YOURSELF!
- This is a big issue in how we need to look at ourselves while we are addicted.
- It also plays heavily into tip #1 above.
- The shame that you give yourself in the meantime actually encourages your need
to continue engaging in this addiction.
- The addictive substance helps you avoid uncomfortable emotions… right?
- Well… shame is one of those emotions that the addiction is helping you
avoid.
- So, the more that you shame yourself, the more that you need that addiction!
- Moreover, once you eliminate the shame about needing this addictive substance
right now, then we can ‘allow ourselves’ to indulge as much as is truly NEEDED
while we quit, so that we can let go of the fear we were talking about in tip #1.
- So… Acknowledge to yourself that in the long run you want to quit…
- But recognize that in the meantime it’s helping you.
- Acknowledging this without shame will help you relax into the realization that you
just straight up don’t really want this thing anymore.
- Without shame, the process of quitting becomes a lot easier because you will
start only using it to the extent that you need it, instead of in this vicious shame
cycle where using it makes you need to use it even more to cover up the shame
of using it.
- 3 - Be Aware of the ‘Pain Point’ and Detox Period.
- If you can maintain awareness - in advance - that there will be a brief
uncomfortable period, then you can reach that ‘pain point’ without succumbing to
fear.
- Remember, it is mainly the emotional cycle that leads to fear that leads to
physical distress that is keeping you stuck,
- You have - by now - practice feeling your physical distress sensations (like
anxiety) for exactly what it is, without succumbing to fear.
- This is how we need to approach quitting a substance.
- When you hit the pain point, now you’re aware, now you can allow yourself
to feel it for what it is and just be kind to yourself while you experience a bit
of physical discomfort.
- By eliminating the fear around it, it becomes just a little physical distress.
- Then it simply becomes a matter of ‘do you really want to keep doing this or not’.
- You will know that if you simply push through this brief pain point of brief
discomfort, everything is about to get better.
- The fear is the worst part.
- The ‘freak out’ makes the pain exponentially worse.
- So, knowing in advance that a pain point is coming will help you relax into it.
- Similarly, there is a ‘detox period’.
- Simply know that it takes some time for your body to recalibrate.
- Not expecting your body to re-adjust IMMEDIATELY will - again -
help you release any fear associated with this detox period, and will
help you remain patient.
- You will KNOW - 100% - that things are changing and that you WILL feel
very different and much better soon.
- We slip back into our habits because we are afraid that the discomfort we
are in will never end.
- But… KNOWING that it will end will help you survive the brief
periods of discomfort.
- 4 - Don’t ‘cut down’. Instead create ‘time windows’.
- Cutting down is about simply trying to indulge in your substance or addiction
slight less throughout your day.
- But, by simply cutting down a little bit, you are never truly building the muscle
necessary and the knowledge that you don’t actually need this thing.
- In fact, you are feeding the idea that being without this substance is SO BAD!
- If you smoke once every 2 hours instead of once every hour, you’re never
truly creating space from the substance, you’re just suffering for an extra
hour in between every cigarette, making it seem like being without
cigarettes is so painful and horrible.
- So, instead of forcing yourself to CONSTANTLY BATTLE this need to smoke,
let’s create ‘time windows instead’
- Ie - for most of the day, you can smoke as much as you feel the need to
(combine this with not shaming yourself), so that you can understand that quitting
doesn’t mean you have to suffer so much.
- Then, for some period of the day, you are training yourself not to smoke.
- Start with one hour. Then 2. Then 4. Then 6. Then a day. Then 2 days.
- This will help you build the muscle of being without this substance while helping
you avoid the paradoxical fear mentioned in tip #1.
- Because you KNOW that not smoking during this time window doesn’t mean that
you can NEVER SMOKE AGAIN, you’ll be more willing to push through pain
points, knowing that ‘ok… I WILL be able to indulge again… let’s just see how
long I can go.’
- In the long run, you will start realizing that you don’t actually need this thing.
- If you can make it 2 days, then you can make it a week, and you will build this
muscle naturally.
- 5 - Be prepared for ‘failure’.
- This connects the dots between all of the other tips we have gone over..
- Know in advance that your effort to quit does NOT need to be an
instantaneous, one-time thing!
- Quitting cold-turkey is great, but as soon as people ‘fail’ at their cold turkey effort,
they believe that they have completely failed that cold turkey attempt and slip
right back into their old habit completely, until they find the strength to start all
over again.
- There is NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE!
- Instead of focusing on the one moment of ‘failure’ you just had, focus
instead on the success you had before your ‘slip up’.
- Then, just get back on the horse and try again.
- You didn’t ‘fail’, because before your attempt you were doing this all the time.
So… you made it a week WITHOUT doing that thing!
- Congratulate yourself for the time you succeeded, instead of focusing on
the time when you indulged.
Now… Recognize the connection between all of these tips.
- If you combine them in your head when you start your quitting process, then:
- 1 - You will avoid the fear of quitting and the fear of the pain of quitting.
- 2 - You will stop hating yourself for your need to indulge and for any moments of
you indulging - even though you know you want to quit.
- 3 - You will be able to confront the pain points without fear and patiently wait
through your detox period.
- 4 - You will slowly build the muscle and knowledge the you don’t need these
things anymore.
- 5 - You will easily pick yourself back up whenever you feel the need to indulge,
and continue with your quitting process, focusing on your successes, not your
‘failures’.
5 Tips for Quitting Substances
(Just thought I’d put these onto a single page for you for quick reference)
#1 - Acknowledge the Paradoxical Fear of Quitting!
There’s no sense in worrying now about whether you might want it in the future.
By the time you’ve quit and gotten past this, you WON’T WANT IT!
So, just relax. With the other tips here, the quitting process won’t be terrible, and once you’re
past the detox period and pain points you won’t have the need to keep doing this thing.
#2 - STOP SHAMING YOURSELF!
Yes, you know you don’t want to do this anymore, but there’s nothing shameful about you
currently doing what you need to survive.
Acknowledge your long term goals, but don’t hate on yourself for indulging in the meantime.
# 3 - Be Aware of the ‘Pain Points’ and ‘Detox Period’
Yes… It’s going to get uncomfortable at certain points.
But your FEAR associated with that discomfort is really the worst part!
When you hit a pain point, know that it was inevitable, know that it’s temporary, and know that
the physical discomfort is JUST THAT… A bit of discomfort. Nothing to freak out about.
#4 - Don’t ‘cut down’. Create ‘Time Windows’.
Instead of constantly feeding the pain of resisting the urge to do something EVERY MOMENT
OF EVERY DAY… allow yourself to indulge as much as you need during certain period, and
start creating time windows where you will train yourself not to.
This will help you build muscle and long-term resistance, while eliminating the fear of not being
able to do this thing when you feel like you need to.
#5 - Be Prepared for ‘Failure’
Quitting an addiction is not a ‘once and for all’ endeavor.
Just like our emotional healing, there will be some ups and downs.
Focus on your overall progress and successes. Avoid the shame of ‘slip ups’ and just get back
up on that horse and keep moving forward!
Week 6:
1 - Intro
- Staying in the now moment and trusting your intuition.
- Going to set you free from worry, fear, and stress.
- Everyone talks about living in the moment, but no-one teaches you HOW!
- Not too much work this week. Just a lot of wisdom and guidance.
- Learn to trust your inner guidance so that you don’t need to figure things out all
the time.
- Learn how to focus only on what you’re experiencing right now, so future and past
problems aren’t really relevant to you.
- There are countless potential 3D factors to every decision you make, but it’s impossible
to calculate all of them. Let’s let go of that need.
- For every variable that you can think about, there are 100 others that you don’t
know to think about.
- The point is to find balance between what you can control and what you can’t, and/or
what you can reliably know and what you can’t.
- Just like when you’re unsure what to order at a restaurant… when the waiter
comes, you make a snap decision and go with it.
- Whether or not you realize it, you are ALWAYS going with your intuition to some extent,
and the goal is just to get out of the way.
- You are always doing ‘what you want to do’ at some level, it’s just the beliefs around why
you think you want/need to do it that led you there.
- We have been preparing for this throughout the course.
Let go of the need to have everything ‘figured out’, and instead learn
to go with what feels right in the moment, just because it feels right in
the moment.
2 - Weekly Exercises
- Mantra: This moment is good enough.
- Change our expectations of what life is supposed to be.
- Release expectations altogether.
- Are you fed, clothed, and have a roof over your head? AWESOME! What more
do you TRULY NEED right now?
- The only reason that what you have right now isn’t good enough, is because you
keep expecting that you should be somewhere else.
- What if right here is exactly where you’re supposed to be?
- Not every moment of life is meant to be the superbowl.
- Think about a monk's life.
- Gratitude: Gratitude for immediate sensations (nice pillow, blanket,
clothing…)
- Where is your attention going? To the things that are pleasant in your life right
now, or to the things you are lacking?
- Train your brain to focus on all of the little positives.
- Positivity makes me feel good, and that creates a looping cycle.
- The opposite is true as well, so focus on whatever feels good in the moment.
- Breath Work: In-out nose/mouth, and reverse.
- Helps you focus into the moment, release resistance, and ‘repel’ unpleasant
sensations.
- Taken from Wim Hof, but he is a master at breath work, this is just a little take
away from his methods.
- Feel free to look into Wim Hof for more advanced breathing techniques.
- Meditation: Grounding and rising.
- This meditation is used for super quick access to a calm, aware, meditative
state (to the best of your abilities to access that state in the meantime, of
course)
- Step 1: Gather your energy into your heart space/core (build the ball of light with
the ‘light healing’ meditation technique’
- Step 2: Envision that ball of light exiting through the base of your spine or
through your feet.
- Step 3: Envision that ball of light moving through all the layers of your floor, the
ground, the earth, the magma, etc… all the way down to the core of the earth.
- Step 4: Envision a little chamber with a well of magma, tapped into the true core
of the earth.
- Step 5: Envision cleansing yourself with that magma a bit if you like, then tie a
cord around your ankle and attach it to the side of the well.
- Step 6: Envision coming all the way back up through the earth and re-entering
your body, still attached to the well by the that cord.
- Step 7: Envision exiting your body again, this time through the top of your head.
- Step 8: Envision moving up past the sky, into space, past our sun and past the
edge of our solar system, past other galaxies, past the ‘grand central sun’ and up
and up until the entire universe can be seen in front of you.
- Step 9: Envision grabbing the entire universe like a disc or a frisbee, stretching it
out a fabric or a liquid, and covering yourself with it.
- Step 10: Remember… you are still connected by the ankle to the well at the core
of the Earth, and now you are covered with the entire universe.
- You are now ‘at one with everything.
- Step 11: Enjoy the peace and serenity of being all that there is. The real 3D
version of you, the core central Earth version of you, and the grand universal
version of you. There is nothing but you.
- Good job!
3 - 4 Words to Transform Your Life
- The more that you can repeat these words - every single day - the better off you’ll be.
- These words provide a way to connect with the moment and listen to your body, which
will help you connect to your intuition.
- Example of the recording and mixing process - starting from the bottom up vs. the
top down.
- Starting with the tiny details vs. starting with the big picture.
- Start with the overall tone and big picture, and then fit in the tiny details.
- The overall tone of the drums is the overpowering truth that you can’t change.
- Point being - focusing on how you feel is the big picture of what is actually
happening in your life, and what your brain is telling you about the world is the
tiny details.
- The logistics of your life are the tiny details, but how you feel is the overpowering
truth.
- Remember that as we’ve been focusing on, the things in your life that you think are
causing you stress are not the problem. The only REAL problem is how you feel about
what is happening.
- So, the 4 words to transform your life are:
- HOW DO I FEEL?
- Think about ‘being stressed about money’.
- Whether or not you have as much money as you want is not the REAL immediate
problem.
- The STRESS about money is the real problem.
- Let’s learn how to focus on that real problem.
- Plus, there is an unhelpful cycle about being stressed about money.
- What happens if you show up to a job interview stressed about money vs if you
show up calm, confident, and assured that everything will be ok?
- What do you think would have happened if I showed up on our enrollment call
needing your money?
- By focusing on the external problem, you are disconnected from the moment in a
way that will exacerbate both the internal stress, fear and worry as well as push
the actual solution to the 3D problem further away.
- Similarly, the more lonely you allow yourself to feel, the more desperate you come
across to a potential partner.
- This will either push them away, or…
- Will only allow you to connect with someone who is in that same desperate
energy.
- That will not be a healthy relationship.
- When you ask HOW DO I FEEL, here is your checklist:
- Breathing.
- Heart Rate.
- Posture (don’t forget facial posture as well).
- Emotions.
- Change what you can, and just pay mindful awareness to what you can’t.
- The point is to connect to elements of yourself that are beyond language.
- This will help you silence the mind and connect to the moment.
- You can start by putting what you are feeling into language if you want, but the
idea is to focus on sensations (and emotions) that are not ‘logical’ or expressed
in language.
- We are getting out of the head and into the heart.
- The goal is to ‘listen’ to your body. Not to think about it.
- Every time you do this, you will find yourself more centered, more calm, and with
fewer cycling thoughts.
- By going through this process, you will have brought yourself back into your body.
- All of these things we are checking in on are happening RIGHT NOW.
- You are settling into the current moment.
4 - 7 Day Intuition Challenge
- Spirit guides vs intuition
- Just 2 different lenses of looking at the same truth.
- Connecting to your spirit guides is just another way of saying ‘trust your intuition’.
- At least for those of us who don’t truly experience ‘spirit guides’ directly.
- If you communicate with guides in particular, good for you, no worries!
- But, side note… learn to open your mind to language you might not resonate
with, and translate helpful wisdom into your own language.
- When someone talks about ‘spirit guides’, there may be wisdom in there helpful
for you if you understand it from the context of a different language.
- Point being…
- Your spirit guides (intuition) are constantly trying to talk to you.
- You only need to listen.
- BUT… every time you reject the connection or the guidance, you cut that
connection off.
- So, we need to learn how to stop doubting that inner voice.
- When you have an intuition to do something, if you disobey it, you are cutting off
that connection.
- If you practice trusting and following that intuition, the connection will build.
- Every time you allow yourself to follow what your heart is telling you, you
increase your connection to your intuition.
- Following this guidance can be scary sometimes, because you don’t know or
understand how it is supposed to work out.
- We need to start small.
- Start with the tiny meaningless intuitions. Learn to trust that internal feeling and
see where it leads.
- By doing this, you will build the connection and trust.
- Want to go left instead of right on your walk? Go for it!
- Want to order pizza instead of hamburgers? Go for it!
- At the beginning, this might not always lead to the ‘best outcomes’.
- There are 3 main reasons this might be:
- 1 - There was a lesson there. Search for the lesson, and you will find it.
Your intuition was leading to inner growth, not to 3D success.
- Our intuition is leading us in the best direction overall in our lives.
- Sometimes, what is best for us in our lives isn’t immediate success, but
rather growth, evolution and learning.
- Therefore, a choice that pushes you to become the best version of
yourself, even though it doesn’t lead to immediate benefits and success is
still your intuition pushing you in the right direction.
- Learning to find the lesson and trust the journey and your intuition even
more in these cases will build that intuition muscle exponentially.
- Learn to look for the lessons and the growth instead of doubting whether
your intuition was on point.
Remember that at the foundation - WE FOLLOW OUR INTUITION SIMPLY
BECAUSE DOING SO IS WHAT FEELS BEST AND WHAT IS MOST IN
ALIGNMENT WITH OURSELVES
- Going against our hearts causes dissonance in us regardless of consequences.
- So, if our goal is inner peace, following our heart and trusting it is what’s best, regardless
of how it works out.
- If you build that skill and muscle, then in the long run it will lead you to the best life, even
if in the short term the results seem questionable.
- 2 - The ‘bad outcome’ was actually helpful in a roundabout way.
- You actually have a very limited viewpoint of what it is that you’re aiming
at and how you are supposed to get there.
- Sometimes, the thing that looks like a bad outcome in the moment is
actually the very thing that you need to get you to your goal, it’s just
that the picture is larger than you can see at the moment.
- 3 - Your GPS has been aimed in the wrong direction so far, so the action
you took based on intuition wasn’t in alignment with the life you’ve been
living so far.
- It WAS in alignment with the TRUE YOU. But You haven’t been living as
the true you.
- In the long run, when you recalibrate your GPS, intuition will always (or at
least consistently) lead you to the best outcome. You just need to take
some time to shift your ‘destination’ and recalibrate.
The 7 Day challenge
- Start small with this intuition, and build your way up to bigger and bigger decisions.
- Develop your intuition muscles with meaningless decisions for the next 7 days, so that
you can learn what it feel like, and just keep growing from there.
- When you learn how to follow whatever feels right in the moment and trust in the
outcome/learn the lessons from the outcomes, you WILL end up - in the long run -
exactly where you need to be.
- But ignoring your intuition will ALWAYS lead to internal conflict and a fear based
life that is not worth living.
- These are muscles that need to be developed over time.
- Nothing truly meaningful in life happens overnight.
- Stop putting unrealistic expectations on your intuitions.
- Let yourself develop, grow, evolve, and move forward in good time.
5 - Theory Work - Living in the Now Moment & Trusting your
Intuition
- By letting go of the past and the future and learning how to focus on your present
experience, you will be able to let go of guilt and shame (past) and stress and worry
(future).
- Intuition vs Ego:
- Ego - Located in your head (experientially, anyway… has no real location).
- Really refers to your sense of self: the part of yourself that
acknowledges the existence of self and associates with the identity
that you have created for yourself.
- Conscious, language based part of yourself.
- Fear based (operates based on the fear-based programming you
have developed over your life - is very self-defensive).
- Functions only on limited reasoning and logic which are actually rather
poor guides for our lives.
- Ego has been brainwashed by the pathways you have created over the
years.
- Potential positives of the ego:
- Ego is not ALL bad though…
- It is a part of ourselves, a part of our psyche, and we need to love all of
the parts of ourselves.
- Ego is really just about the conscious opinion of who you are.
- Our goal is not to completely eliminate our ego, but rather to get our ego
in line with our heart space’s sense of self (intuition).
- Ego is almost synonymous with our self-identity, but it refers to the
superficial self-identity that we have built up, not our true core self identity.
- So far, your ego has been beating your core self into submission because
it is desperately trying to protect itself, and that’s where things go wrong.
- Knowing yourself consciously (ego) is crucial… but when your ego is
responding to fear, our identities get very confused and pained.
- Problems with the ego:
- Since it is currently programmed from fear, it desperately needs to ‘have
all the answers’ before making any moves.
- But we cannot possibly have all of the answers before making moves.
- This leaves us mainly paralyzed when making choices in our lives.
- Leads to fear and lack of commitment.
- It causes us to live always trying to protect ourselves, instead of taking
the risks of self-expression that living our best lives would require.
- Shifting to a higher form of consciousness and a better life will require
risk, trust and faith that your ego (currently programmed in fear) is not
willing to take.
- Intuition & Instinct
- Intuition - Comes from the heart (again… mostly metaphorically).
- Expresses itself through emotions
- Instinct - Comes from the gut.
- Expresses itself through sensations.
- With all this in mind, we can identify our 3 brains:
- Head, Heart, and gut.
- These 3 work in tandem to create our reality.
- Your heart and your gut know SO MUCH MORE than your head does,
because they are not limited by the fear based and limited 3D reasoning
and logic that your brainwashed head (ego) is.
- Heart and gut do not operate on language and logic.
- Your heart and gut can’t be reprogrammed based on logic and
reasoning… they are connected to deeper truths about yourself and about
the universe and the world around you.
- The conflict between these 3 brains is what causes our inner turmoil.
- Your heart and your gut know your TRUE self.
- Your ego is not your TRUE self, it is the protective, defensive surface layer
identity (the mask) that you have created to present to the world to keep
you safe.
- The goal is to reprogram our ego (our conscious sense of self) to be in alignment
with our core, true identity.
- This is how we will eliminate cognitive dissonance, and thereby - anxiety and
depression.
- When your ego aligns with your intuition and your instinct, then all parts of your
being are aimed in the same direction, and this is when you become truly
powerful to create your own reality and your best life.
- Imagine a tricycle where one wheel is constantly turned in the opposite
direction of the other 2 wheels… you’d never be able to get anywhere.
Every moment would be a struggle.
- But when all 3 wheels are fully aligned, movement becomes smooth and
effortless.
- Becoming a Receiver:
- Referring to learning to connect to our intuition and our instinct.
- Something we have been practicing already.
- In any conversation, there is a speaker and a listener.
- We are used to constantly being the speaker in our heads.
- We identify as the speaker (this is the ego).
- We identify as the ‘active’ thinker, not recognizing that - most of the time - we are
not truly ‘picking’ our thoughts as much as we think we are.
- We are not actively and consciously choosing our thoughts anyway. We just think
we are.
- Our goal is to get out of our own ways and become the listener to the
conversation in our heads.
- And even moreso… to learn how to become the listener to our emotions
and sensations.
- We do not need to silence the mind. We simply need to learn how to observe our
thoughts moreso than believing that we are actively thinking them.
- This is what ‘living in the moment’ will largely consist of.
- Being the listener is actually easier than being the speaker anyway.
- Requires less energy.
- Also requires less that you question yourself and struggle to figure out the
right answer all the time.
- As we learned in week 1, this is what meditation is truly all about. (for
those of us just looking for inner peace in the western world, anyway).
- Being in a flow state - which is the most productive and beneficial state to
be in - is all about getting out of your own way and allowing (for lack of a
better term) the universe to work through you.
- You don’t want to have to forcefully consider every thought and
movement.
- You want your unconscious mind to guide your actions because your
unconscious works much more quickly than your conscious mind.
- The idea is to ALLOW our thoughts, actions and decisions to happen
instead of trying to actively force them.
- Learn to follow the answers that you are naturally ‘guided to’, not
the ones you think you ‘should’ do.
- Of course, these answers may not always make perfect sense in the moment,
and that’s where faith and trust in your intuition comes in.
- What does it mean to TRUST your intuition?
- Trust means surrendering and letting go.
- How do you act with someone you TRULY trust?
- This is how you are meant to act with your inner emotions.
- Why do you trust your intuition in the moment, then double back on yourself and doubt
and question?
- Playing chicken with the universe
- Sometimes you have to just take that leap of faith, move forward and see where
it all leads.
- Learning how to do this is extremely scary.
- But… do it enough times and you’ll eventually realize that the universe DOES
always catch you… eventually.
- When you have truly learned that lesson, you will be relatively free from fear and
worry in your life, and THAT is where we want to live.
- Remember, your emotional wellness is what matters most.
- So, taking a 3D loss for a brief period - if doing so frees you from fear - is well
worth it.
- What does it mean to ‘be a receiver’?
- Letting the universe work THROUGH you.
- At a certain level, we do need to make conscious decisions, but…
- Realizing that there are parts of ourselves (our preferences, our whims, and our
intuitions) that we can’t control… it’s about letting those inner motivations be the
prime factor behind our decisions, even when it’s uncomfortable.
- Our conscious choices need to follow our emotions and whims in order for us to
be in alignment,
- The challenge is not questioning your choices after you’ve made them.
- Once you’ve eliminated enough fear, this will become more natural.
- Allegory of the Chinese Farmer and His Son.
- Chinese farmer who owns some horses.
- One day, a horse runs away.
- Villagers say, “Oh… what bad fortune”, but the wise chinese farmer says
“Maybe…”
- Next day, the horse comes back, and he brings 3 wild horses with him.
- Villagers say “Oh… What great fortune”, but the wise chinese farmer says
“Maybe…”
- Next day, his son tries to tame and train one of the wild horses, falls off and
breaks his leg.
- Villagers say, “Oh… what bad fortune”, but the wise chinese farmer says
“Maybe…”
- Next day, the army comes to his farm to recruit soldiers into their war. Because
the son has a broken leg, they don’t recruit him.
- Once again, the villagers say “Oh… What good fortune”, again… the farmer says
“Maybe…”
- Moral of the Story: You have no real idea whether the things happening in your
life in the moment are ultimately good or bad. You don’t know how the full story is
going to play out.
- So, it’s important to take things in stride. Follow the flow of your intuition and your
emotions and just keep moving forward, one foot in front of the other, waiting to
see how things play out.
- Working with ‘collective energies’.
- You are a creator being in this universe, constantly putting out your own
energies.
- Thing is… so is everyone else… so is the earth itself and all of nature… etc…
- There is an unseen dimension of energy that is constantly operating all around
us.
- We are all helping to create the collective reality in countless ways.
- Practically, quantumly, metaphysically…
- If you were the only consciousness and energy in existence, then - in
theory - you would be God and you could create whatever reality you
want.
- The collection of everyone's energy and consciousness (plus the energies of the
Earth and entities of other dimensions) creates the flow of the overall collective
energies around us.
- Our hearts and our guts tap into these frequencies, but your conscious ego mind
is not able to truly see - or to understand - these energies.
- In order to be at peace, it’s important not to fight against the flow of these
energies.
- A boat in a river that’s constantly trying to fight against the current will inevitable
tip over.
- The more that you can be in tune with the collective energies (as well as your
personal higher dimensional energy), the quicker and more smoothly you will
arrive at your own personal goals and destiny.
- Even if you are trying to work ‘against’ the collective flow of the 3D world, you still
need to work WITH the energies (like tacking in a sailboat… using the wind to
move into the wind).
- Finding the lessons and the growth.
- Intuition and instinct don’t always lead to the best immediate results.
- Faith and trust are important. In ourselves, in our intuition, in the universe, and in
our journey.
- When you are truly in flow with the collective energies, you can see (or at least
trust) how some part of you is attracting the experiences that are best for you.
- Of course, the reason you attract certain things is usually not clear from the
surface level or from the human level.
- Only in hindsight, from a higher perspective, will the full story make sense.
- But, regardless of the outcomes, CHOOSING to look for the lessons is how you
turn negative experiences into positive ones.
- Your subconscious keeps attracting certain experiences to help you iron out old
emotional frequency imprints that you haven’t dealt with yet.
- It’s all about your healing, growth, and evolution.
- You chose the path of your life before you came in. It’s all perfect.
- When things go ‘wrong’, you have 3 choices:
- Give up - let your circumstances take over, and choose to no longer
make any effort.
- Give in - Realign yourself with the direction that your circumstances have
pushed you in, and then consciously put your efforts in that direction (this
is what leads to most depression and how most people here are living
their lives)
- Keep pushing - Use your conscious energy to realign yourself with the
direction your heart is trying to push you in.
- In order to keep pushing, you will need to learn how to find the
lesson and the growth in all of the challenges that you experience.
- Nothing can ever TRULY go wrong…
- The only way that something can be perceived as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ is in
relation to your expectations of what should have happened.
- By releasing expectations, you release judgment and attachment to particular
outcomes, which allows you to keep moving forward with more strength and
vigor.
- The more that you choose to see every negative experience as an opportunity to
grow and learn, the more there is no such thing as a truly bad experience.
- No-one is saying this is easy… but it IS true.
- If you can’t find the lesson on this 3D plane of existence, then we have to
recognize the higher perspective of our lives.
- Some stories take a while to play out and will only make sense in hindsight, years
down the line.
- Some stories only make sense from a perspective beyond human understanding:
- We are spiritual beings having a human experience, and from that
perspective, even the worst experiences might have their purpose.
6 - Path of Least Resistance:
- Instead of forcing your way to your goals in an old-school, ultra-masculine,
hustle-and-grind attitude, your goal is to relax into the flow of energies, intuition
and inspiration in order to arrive at your goals through the EASIEST path.
- You are seeking the path of ‘least resistance’.
- This will make your journey and your life much more enjoyable along the way,
and will keep you most prepared and vigilant to be ready to take advantage of the
right opportunities that present themselves when they come along.
- The universe has your back… stop trying to force everything!
- Learn to enjoy life and follow what the universe presents to you, instead of
desperately trying to bend the world to your will. Life will be easier this way.
- What it means in relation to manifesting.
- Manifesting is about tuning into the vibration of that which you want to receive
- Many people think this means instant results
- But it’s actually about finding the easiest, more aligned and stress free path to
your goals.
- It might ‘take a little longer’ in some contexts, but you will end up at your
ACTUAL goal more quickly, because you will show up at the destination ready to
take advantage of where you’re at, as opposed to stressed, struggling, and
unprepared.
- Forcing results too soon just creates more dissonance and distress.
- GPS vs radio.
- Your heart is the GPS and your fear-based brain is the radio.
- If your radio is blasting too loud, you are not going to hear the GPS when it tells
you to take the next exit off the highway.
- Your goal is to quiet down the radio and live without stress or fear, so that you
can be prepared to hear your inner guidance when it is ready to speak up.
- Raising your vibes is priority #1 - this is the only way to affect the flow, but that
happens over some time with good habits.
- Be in the right energy to make a decision when the opportunity presents itself.
- Stress and worry are counter-productive.
- Don’t try to ‘solve’ your problems. STOP trying to ‘figure them out’.
- Learn to be all right with emotion and be calm, to allow the solution to come to
you.
- Your brain is a radio, not a computer.
- Your brain is only able to hear the thoughts that are coming in most of the time.
It’s not truly calculating and choosing thoughts. So the goal is to choose which
station you are listening to.
- You want to be tuned into your inner GPS as opposed to the radio.
7 - Can’t fight the flow.
- Building on the path of least resistance:
- You CANNOT fight the flow of certain energies in your life.
- Ex: Body clock and physical energy
- Inspiration vs. writers block
- Hunger vs. satiety
- Etc…
- Basically, we just need to recognize that we can’t force certain things and we need to be
kind to ourselves as we move through our lives and healing journeys.
- Allow yourself the freedom to follow what your body and the collective energies
are guiding you towards.
- When you have plans to accomplish something in particular and the energies are just not
working with you, learning how to go with the flow and not judge yourself for it is
important.
- It comes down to resistance vs. flow.
- Sometimes the energies of the collective, of your body, or of your emotions
simply might not cooperate with what your conscious mind wanted to accomplish
on a particular day.
- Often, this is in your best interest:
- Your subconscious might be working on things that will make your
endeavors all that much more successful if you wait a day or 2.
- This is divine timing at play.
- You will get more done and in a better way when you wait for the energies
to support your efforts instead of fighting against them.
- Your conscious mind might know you want to accomplish a certain goal, but it
might not be the time for it yet.
- If you try to force it when it’s not ready, the whole process will be a struggle and it
won’t come out well.
- But, when you learn how to tap into your intuition… when the time IS right,
you will hardly be able to stop yourself from doing it.
- This has happened to me countless times (ex: when I finally got around to writing
my books).
- Wait for the right flow, energy and ‘season’ for you to accomplish whatever is right at the
time.
- Know and recognize that the ‘seasons’ of your energy DO change!
- So… we always plant seeds in spring and reap the harvest in fall.
- If you try to plant seeds in winter, they’ll die.
- Learn to recognize what energy you are in and tap into intuitive guidance about what you
can accomplish in the moment.
- When the time is right, God himself won’t be able to stop you.
- All that being said… that doesn’t mean you should be lazy and should just
COMPLETELY sit back and wait for things to happen on their own.
- You DO need to maintain good discipline, proper habits, work on raising your
frequency all the time, and prepare to follow whatever energies present
themselves at any time.
- You should ALWAYS be working on YOURSELF!
- But other than that… you want to motivate yourself by working TOWARDS goals…
but not FOR them.
- In other words, you use your goals and dreams to motivate you to constantly
improve yourself and stay in your highest energies, but you stay open to your
intuition and inspiration to guide you towards whatever particular task or project is
most appropriate at the time.
- Your intuition might even know more than your conscious mind about the proper
order and time to accomplish the various tasks that are required to get you to
your goals.
The path between you and your goals might not be as linear or clear cut as
your conscious mind thinks… but your heart KNOWS how to get there
through the path of least resistance!
- Basically, we’re going back to week #1 - RAISING YOUR VIBES IS PRIORITY #1
- The rest needs to happen naturally.
- You can control only how you treat yourself on a regular basis to be the most
prepared version of yourself to capitalize on good energies when they hit.
- But you can’t force the exact right idea, the exact right inspiration, the exact right
opportunity, etc… at any given time… and if you try to force things when they are not
right, you will waste your energy and your resources and keep coming up against
roadblocks.
- Develop discipline, and wait for your heart to tell you what to do next.
- This will release stress, overwhelm, fear and worry and will keep your vibes up to
the highest extent.
- The universe is preparing you for what is coming.
- Relax into the process.
- (See also the Divine TIming video at the end of week 6).
Even when you are not making 3D progress to your goals, you might be
making more internal progress (developing yourself and your skills
towards your goals) more than you realize.
- REMINDER: On the note of maintaining discipline to constantly be ready for the
next wave of energy… DO NOT FORGET OR IGNORE THE MORNING ROUTINE!
8 - Breaking addiction to fear
- Your brain is literally addicted to fear.
- You have trained yourself to think that fear keeps you safe.
- Your brain's current ‘job description’ is to find problems to solve so that it can
make sure that nothing bad happens.
- When it stops having that job to do, it starts freaking out, and will desperately
reach out for problems to solve.
- It thinks that it’s helping you by doing this, but this is all just part of your old
programming that you are trying to overcome.
- You need to start recognizing the ways in which your brain is desperately
attached to it’s fear-based programming.
- Don’t try to solve problems that aren’t immediate.
- No amount of thought, stress or worry are going to help you deal with anything
that you can’t act on right now.
- Your subconscious will keep working on the problem in the background.
- Consciously stressing and actively trying to calculate a solution isn’t really going
to solve anything.
- Allow yourself to keep moving forward, collecting clues and evidence and waiting
to understand more about your life and scenario by the time you reach the time
when you can act on this issue.
- In this moment, (usually) your only REAL problem is your thoughts.
- So long as you have your emotions in check, then there is no real problem in the
moment.
- The thoughts are an illusion, and it is only the thoughts that are causing your
distress in the moment, cycling around and around to no end.
- Worrying doesn’t help
- Worry only gets in the way of you hearing your intuition and being in the right
energy to make good choices.
- Actions taken from fear will never lead you to outcomes as good, solid, and
beneficial as ones taken from love.
- Fear based actions will only keep you in the same cycles that have caused your
pain throughout your life.
- We have this weird belief that worrying means that we are working on a solution,
but that’s complete nonsense. Worrying just makes you unable to wait patiently
for the answer and will push you to take fear-based action in the meantime that
will cause problems you need to solve before reaching your goal.
- Wait for the right guidance and intuition.
- Learn to trust your intuition. KNOW that it will provide the right answer in the right
time. That’s what ‘trust’ is.
- If you are constantly trying to solve the problem with the fear based brain, then
your inner love based GPS needs to keep on recalculating based on the fear
based decisions you just made. They only get in the way.
- Only by letting go and relaxing into your emotions will you be able to find the best
path to your goals.
WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT, IT JUST MEANS THAT
THE ANSWER ISN’T READY YET!
- Instead of stressing and trying to force a solution, just refocus inside, raise your
frequency, enjoy your life in the meantime and let your subconscious/higher self/the
universe work on the problem for you and deliver the answer to you in due time.
9 - Divine Timing, Trust, and Surrender
- Finishing off the topic of staying in the now moment, because if you can master your
thoughts and emotions in the moment nothing else matters.
- Let’s stop focusing so much on where exactly we think we need to be, and focus more
on where we are, so that we can more smoothly move in whatever direction is right for
us, and naturally discover where we are going to end up.
- We are starting to branch into the real ‘spiritual’ topics of this course.
- For those of you not on that page, don’t worry… it’s not about God or religion.
- It’s just about a higher perspective to our lives… being able to observe ourselves as
humans from a top down perspective.
- The 2 most frustrating - and yet freeing - words that you will ever hear:
- DIVINE TIMING.
- Aka ‘perfect timing’, ‘destiny’, etc…
- I’ve had to accept that there was no way around certain timing in my life.
- No matter how hard I pushed or worked, some things were meant to happen at
certain times - basically pre-destined - that I could not have changed.
Nothing I could have done could have brought me my revelations and
breakthroughs any more quickly.
- So, you can choose to be happy and faithful, disciplined and self-loving while
waiting for the right breakthroughs… or you can force yourself to take whatever is
available in the moment (based on fear), and get yourself into the wrong
connections and cycles in your life.
Don’t worry though… because there are NO ‘wrong choices’ along the
way… They are all ultimately part of your growth, progress, and evolution.
- The ONLY things that we could say are ‘wrong choices’ are things that make you
give up on yourself and stop progressing.
- But… if you’re in this course, clearly that’s not the case for you.
- What we’re saying is that the ULTIMATE positively destined portion of your life is
going to happen in it’s right timing and that’s all there is to it.
Divine Timing = You can’t FORCE breakthroughs, revelations, or the next
stage of your journey. You can only stay open to it and prepare for it when
it presents itself.
- For myself in particular (though I don’t invest in ‘divination’) EVERY form of ‘predictive
divination’ (astrology, numerology, human design, palm reading, intuitive channeled
messages), I was ‘told’ that my life was supposed to hit it’s next stage at the of 35-36, in
the year 2022.
- And… although I didn’t WAIT for that in the slightest (i’ve been working on reaching
those breakthroughs for YEARS), and it JUST SO HAPPENS to SO CLEARLY be
opening up for me.
- I can now SEE, so clearly, that the next stage of my life is ready.
- And there were many things that i needed to do and learn along the way in order to be
prepared for it.
- Highway metaphor:
- If you are driving from Montreal to New York, it will take 6 hours going at average
speed.
- It’s possible to drive a LITTLE faster than average (without getting pulled over for
speeding) or a LITTLE slower than regular traffic (without causing problems), but
there is NO PHYSICAL POSSIBILITY for you to arrive at your destination in 20
minutes.
- So, you need to accept that it’s going to take a certain amount of time to get to
your destination.
- And, along the way, you can complain and kick and scream “ARE WE THERE
YET!” over and over and over… in which case the drive will actually go slower
because you’re not paying attention to the drive.
- Or, you can learn to relax into the moment and enjoy the drive and the scenery
and focus on the journey, in which case you can speed up just a little bit, get
there a tiny bit sooner, and enjoy the whole process all that much more.
So long as you keep working on yourself, you WILL arrive at your goal
eventually (this highway necessarily leads to your destination) and you
need to learn to trust that, and not try to speed along the way.
- If you work on yourself and prepare yourself for your destination, then you can be
prepared to make the most of it when you get there.
- If you don’t, then you will still end up in that place (the right opportunity, the right
connection, the right job, etc…) at exactly the time you are meant to be there, but you
might not be prepared to take advantage of it, or you might screw it up when you get
there.
Your goal isn’t to FORCE the timing of your journey, it is simply to work on
yourself as much as possible in the meantime so that you can be most
prepared to make use of the opportunities, inspirations, intuitions, etc…
that the universe gives you, when it’s ready.
- Why Can’t I Force the Timing?
- The answers to that are not linear and straight forward.
- It’s not as simple as ‘because you have more healing to do’ (although you do
have more healing to do along the way).
- Ie - it’s not ‘your fault’ for not being ready for your destination yet.
- Even though there is still more inner progress to happen before you get
there.
- The real reasons have more to do with the intricate nature of the universe, the
‘collective projection of reality’ that we are living in, and all of the million moving
pieces that need to come together for your destiny to be ready for you.
- My Recording Studio:
- My studio was a huge, important portion of my life. It was the bridge between my
law school days and my spiritual awakening. I would not be the person I am
without those experiences.
- The ability for me to build a recording studio in a residential building -
where I was able to get away with doing it, on a shoestring budget, and not
get kicked out for all the noise I was making - was all divinely perfect.
- Had I not moved into this building 4 years earlier…
- Had I not found the exact right ad for a band needing a manager (to
slowly get me to veer away from law school).
- Had I not already spent 3 years playing in a band with one particular
person.
- Had I not been so depressed with law school - coming to a peak at the
exact right time.
- Had I not been taken advantage of and decided enough was enough at
the right time…
- Etc…
- 5 years worth of ‘coincidences’ and divine connections that led me
to being in the right place at the right time to take over the right
loft… the ONLY loft I could have possibly gotten away with doing
this in… none of it could have happened.
- THEN… having built this studio… led me to 5 more years of coincidences and
divine connections that led me to the exact place that sparked my spiritual
awakening and gave me the story that I needed to experience to be here
teaching this course to you.
Overall, this course you’re taking right now, is at least 15 years in the
making in terms of divine coincidences and connections that NEEDED to
happen to get me here at the right time.
- And knowing how this course - and my work as a coach - finally helped the REAL me
come forward, PROVES to me that my life has ALWAYS been on this path, just waiting
for divine timing to unlock the next stage of my life’s journey.
- My heart ALWAYS knew that this is what I was here to do, and only after 20 years
of coincidences could it all unravel itself and show itself to me.
- Along the way, though... this was NOT the goal that I had in mind!
- During those 20 years, I was NOT actively aiming at this destination.
- I THOUGHT that I was heading in other directions, in music, in law, in philosophy, etc…
- I wasn't navigating based on the idea that I was here to be an emotional wellness coach
or a spiritual leader or anything like that.
- I was aiming at all kinds of other 3D goals.
- And those dreams and goals were EXACTLY the motivation that I needed to bring
through all of the various parts of the journey that were required to get me here… to the
place that it SO CLEAR TO ME NOW that I was always destined to be in.
- Point being…
The Universe is not above lying to you to get you to where you need
to be!
- So, you may have specific ideas of where you think you are meant to end up… but that
may just be the way that your heart is motivating you to move through the various stages
of your journey that are necessary for your inner growth, to end up at your destiny.
- Let go of your DESPERATE NEED AND ATTACHMENT for any particular end goal.
- USE your passions to motivate you… but let go of attachment to a particular outcome.
- You might find yourself HAPPIER THAN YOU EVER IMAGINED doing something that
you never truly imagined for yourself, or even something you’ve been actively resisting.
Your happiness CANNOT be dependent on you ending up in one very
particular outcome.
- The more that you let go of chasing one very particular 3D goal, the more that you will be
able to continuously follow your intuition to wherever you’re actually meant to be.
- Your vision may not be accurate, and that is completely ok.
- If you’re too attached to one particular destination, you might miss the exit for your actual
destination when the time comes.
- Again… I don’t really think that’s overly likely (you WILL end up where you
need to be), but it is something to watch out for.
Learn to be happy and at peace REGARDLESS of where life takes you, and
you'll get there sooner, happier, and stronger.
- Trust that if something is your destiny, then nothing can take it away.
- And trust that you and your higher self have planned out the right destiny for you.
- The more that you learn to live in the moment and follow your intuitions wherever they
may lead, the more easily you’ll arrive at that destiny.
- Things can get better in COMPLETELY UNEXPECTED ways!
- You may not be able to imagine the amazing things that are on their way to you.
- The universe's vision for you may be better than you can even conceive of.
- Literally…
- You might not be aware of the very existence or possibilities of things that are
going to make you happier than you ever thought you could be.
- Your imagination is limited to what you’ve experienced.
- Your destiny may be something that you’ve seen or experienced yet.
- Recognizing that the future might be brighter than you ever imagined in ways you
can’t conceive of, should help you surrender and relax into your journey.
- There are going to be times when you don’t know the next step:
- Here’s the challenge for true inner peace:
- When you’re not sure what to do next… RELAX!!!!
- If you don’t know what next steps to take right now, then there’s nothing specific
that you need to do right now. Simple as that!
- You DO need to maintain discipline, high vibes, and proper inner work in the
meantime…
- But you don’t need to stress about why you don’t know what 3D steps to take
next.
- The next waves of intuition and inspiration WILL COME! GUARANTEED!
- There are periods for inspired divine action in the 3D, and there are times for rest
and inner work, developing patience and trust.
Just keep working on yourself, and wait for the next wave of inspiration
and intuition. RELAX!
- Do not take yourself too seriously… EVER!
- If you are doing life right, you will ALWAYS look back at who you were a few
years ago and realize how much you had left to learn.
- Where were you 5-10 years ago… haven’t you grown a lot since then, to an
extent that you’re a little embarrassed of things you did back then?
- So… what makes you think this period of your life is any different?
- You WILL look back at who you are right now and feel a little foolish
because you had more to learn.
- EVEN ME! Teaching my course right now… I will grow, and improve, and notice
things that I had left to learn.
- So… don’t ever think that you’re in your final form. Just keep moving. One foot in
front of the other.
- And lastly...
NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG!!!
TRUST THE PROCESS!
- Tattoo that shit on your forehead if you need to!
- No matter where you are at in your life, so long as you are working on yourself (which…
since you’re in this course, you absolutely are) then I can guarantee that nothing has
actually gone wrong and that you are perfectly on track to where you are supposed to
be.
- Many of us end up at our true goals older than we would like to be, and that’s part of
being human, but the journey is what it is.
- The only question is… how much did you allow yourself to enjoy the journey along the
way?
- Until you’re awakening and healing, maybe ‘true enjoyment’ wasn’t even a choice, but
starting at THIS VERY MOMENT, until you reach your ultimate destiny… Now you have
a choice!
- Will you relax into the moment and into your intuition and inner guidance until you get to
where you need to be, or will your struggle, fight, and complain the whole way?
- You are exactly where you need to be.
- NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG… Trust the process.
Love you all. Thanks for reading!
Week 7
1 - Intro
- Week 7 is about moving into a higher perspective (a spiritual understanding) of who we
are and what this universe is all about.
- So far, I’ve been doing my best to walk the line of what I can know for certain (about
emotional wellness) and what I can’t know (about our spiritual selves).
- This week, I’m going to be pushing that line a little.
- For those of you NOT into spirituality:
- I will be nudging your beliefs and your understandings in that direction a little,
opening you up to a higher point of view.
- For those of you who ARE into spirituality:
- I am going to try to make sure you maintain a grounded approach to your
practices and beliefs.
- All that being said… your beliefs are UP TO YOU!
- I am not trying to decide your beliefs for you.
- I am only trying to frame a perspective and nudge you in a general direction that will help
you for the sake of our emotional healing and wellness.
- Why are we talking about spirituality?
- Despite our emotional wellness techniques, there will still be challenges in your
life.
- Life is just sometimes tricky, confusing, and scary. That is mostly inevitable (from
a 3D point of view).
- A spiritual understanding, however, will help you release the last fears that you
still hold onto, regarding the path, direction, and progress of your life.
- Spirituality is the ‘cherry on top’ of our emotional wellness Sundae.
By adding a spiritual perspective to our emotional healing techniques, we
end up at a place where YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT! EVER
AGAIN! FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!
- Ex: Emotional wellness aside… fear of death could still linger.
- But… with a different view of reality, even death takes on a different flavor.
- Letting go of the grand fears that can’t be dealt with by emotional healing and logical
explanation is why we are diving into this.
- It is to conquer the last 5% of fear that may be left over once we have used up all of the
other lessons and techniques that we have been working on.
- What is our approach/access point to spirituality?
- “There is a very fine line between emotional awareness and spiritual awakening”.
- What ‘spirituality’ really refers to, is recognizing the non-physical elements
of who you are as a person:
- Recognizing that you are more than your physical body
- Recognizing that there are other dimensions of this universe that your 5
main senses are not connected to
- Recognizing that there is more than our 3D reality.
- So, what ‘non-physical elements’ of reality do we have direct access to?
- EMOTIONS are the FIRST and MOST DIRECT non-physical element of
reality that we have access to.
- Although we can point to nerves, chemicals, or areas of the brain associated with
emotions, we can’t ‘point to happiness’.
- It does not have physical/spatial reality.
- It is through connecting to our emotions that we start discovering and revealing
the spiritual elements of who we are.
A ‘spiritual life’ is about prioritizing certain ‘non-physical elements’ of our
lives (like emotions) over and above our 3D worries and struggles.
- Why is this different from a 12-step / AA approach to spirituality?
- 1 - A 12-step program STARTS with spirituality, and makes your emotional
healing dependent on ‘accepting a higher power’.
- Conversely, we are saving this for the end.
- Recognizing your own higher self is the cherry on top of your wellness.
Not a prerequisite for it.
- 2 - We are not talking about a ‘higher power’ in an external sense.
- If there is any higher power we are talking about, it is YOUR OWN
HIGHER SELF.
- We are not giving away our power to anything outside of ourselves.
- Instead, we are recognizing a fuller conception of who we are, and
TAKING BACK our power as that full version of ourselves.
We are simply trying to reframe our interpretation of life, it’s challenges and
where we are trying to get to.
The same way we were learning to become an observer to our emotions,
now you are looking to become an observer to your life as a whole.
2 - Impact of Spiritual awareness
When we acknowledge a spiritual view of the world, what practical impact
is that meant to have on your day to day life?
- That is the central question of this video.
- For example… if you recognize that you are a multidimensional, spiritual being… Can
you still truly be afraid of death in the same way?
- If you TRULY understand… then no… You shouldn’t still be scared in the same way.
- Think of Super Mario in his video game:
- Mario starts off his game, running to find Bowser and rescue Princess Peach.
- As Mario in the game, your ONLY real goal is to rescue the Princess.
- Some players (controlling Mario) can beat the entire game and rescue the
princess in less than 6 minutes.
- For MARIO… that is the BEST CASE SCENARIO!
- BUT… as YOU… the player playing the game… Do you truly want to beat the
game in 6 minutes and move on with your life?
- Of course not!
- You want MORE from the game than simply to reach the end!
- That is how a lot of people are actually living their lives!
- A lot of people think that the point of life is merely to reach some particular end
goal as quickly as possible, when really… There is SO MUCH MORE to
experience in this game.
- If you focus only on the endpoint, you’re really missing the entire point of
buying the game in the first place.
- ‘Speed runs’ are only for people who have played the game 10,000 times
already. Don’t rush to ‘beat the game’ without gaining all of your experience along
the way.
ESPECIALLY for those of you who feel some spiritual or inner calling to do
something to help people on this planet, by only aiming at a ‘goal’, you will
never truly become the person you need to be in order to attain that goal.
- HitchHiker’s Guide to the Galaxy Example:
- In this book series, Earth is merely a complex simulation to help calculate the
ultimate meaning of ‘life, the universe and everything’.
- Every single person in that simulation is a data point, playing out a grand
calculation.
- The point is actually to experience the full range of physical reality to help the
ultimate, singular consciousness behind the simulation come to a conclusion.
- The point of the journey is to experience all sides, not to achieve a goal.
All of the non perfections of our lives and of this physical reality are in fact
part of the grand perfection, because the point is to experience ALL OF IT!
- The higher perspective of spirituality allows us to see the ups and downs of our lives and
of this world as beautiful parts of this grand game of experience that we are all taking
part in.
- From a divine perspective, even the worst parts of life can be seen as “ooh… wasn’t that
a wonderful game?”
From the spiritual perspective, the PURPOSE of this world is to help us
attain the evolution of our consciousness, and this can only happen
through experiencing the entire array of the best and the worst of all of
human experience.
- We need the full range of experiences, and none of it needs to be judged through the
eyes of human perspectives.
- How should this affect your decisions?
- Focus on the MOTIVES for your decisions and the internal consequences over
and above the external goals you think you are aiming towards.
- Ie - So long as you are making your decisions from love and focussing on your
emotional and spiritual wellness, then THAT is the right choice!
- Even if it doesn’t lead to what you think would be best in the 3D world!
- CEO vs. MONK: Who is living the ‘better life’?
- There is NO OBJECTIVE ANSWER to that question.
- The CEO is playing ‘the human game’ a lot more, and might be completely
oblivious to his spiritual side.
- The monk may be completely removed from society and have no impact on the
direction of human society.
- Which is ‘better’?
- That all depends on what values you prioritize in this lifetime!
- For those of us doing this inner healing, our goal is to improve ourselves as people, and
to let that inner journey guide us to wherever it is we need to be.
- Whether that leads you to becoming a CEO or a MONK, doesn’t matter at all!
- But raising our perspectives about who we are, so that we can prioritize our inner
journey over and above what we think we are aiming toward in the 3D realm will lead us
to the best of both worlds, to reconnecting to who we are, and to discovering our true
purpose, while gaining as much experience as possible, allowing us to attain our
missions, goals, purpose and fulfillment.
- When self-actualization becomes your primary goal, THEN you can live your best,
most peaceful, and most joyful life.
THE OVERARCHING TRUTH OF SPIRITUAL AWAKENING IS THAT YOU
HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT, EVER AGAIN, FOR THE REST OF
YOUR LIFE, BECAUSE YOU ARE ACTUALLY A MULTIDIMENSIONAL
SPIRITUAL BEING, HAVING A HUMAN EXPERIENCE RIGHT NOW!
- When you can learn to reframe your perspective of life through that lens and TRULY
adopt it as your foundational principle and belief, all true suffering goes out the window.
- It doesn’t mean there won’t be pain, struggles, challenges, etc… but ‘suffering’ becomes
mainly obsolete.
- Emotional healing can only get us so far on the ‘high vibes’ scale.
- It is self-awareness and a spiritual perspective on life that takes us over the ledge of
never worrying again.
- If you can truly understand who you are at the spiritual level, then fear is nonsense.
- And if we remove fear, all that is left is love.
3 - Weekly Exercises
- Mantra:I am held, guided, and protected every step of the way. Nothing can ever
truly go wrong.
- Let’s dissect this a bit:
- “Held, guided and protected”
- Even on the practical level, your heart is guiding and protecting you
through your life by sending you emotions and signals that will keep you
on track - if you learn how to follow it.
- We might call this ‘just slightly above practical’, in the sense that it is still
an intangible feeling that takes some practice… but it is real, and
hopefully you are connected at least a little bit to it by now.
- But also…
- Then there is your ‘Higher Self’. What does that mean?
- This is a multidimensional universe.
- We are used to experiencing the 3 dimensions of space and the 4th
dimension of time.
- Thus… the ‘spacetime continuum’.
- This is scientifically acknowledged going back as far as Einstein.
- BUT… in order to make the math of the universe work, there MUST BE
higher dimensions other than those 4 that we consciously experience.
- There need to be extra ‘planes of existence’ through which higher
dimensional objects can operate in order for our best current theories
about the universe actually make sense.
- Science can understand higher dimensions ‘quantitatively’ (in relation to
objective numbers).
- But… what about ‘qualitatively’ (ie - what do those extra dimensions
consist of)?
- In my opinion… at least… Emotions are one of these dimensions, and
there are other dimensions that we experience on a regular basis.
- All you need to know for now is:
- THERE IS MORE TO WHO YOU ARE THAN THIS PHYSICAL
VERSION OF YOURSELF THAT YOU CURRENTLY RECOGNIZE AND
ASSOCIATE WITH.
That ‘higher self’ version of you is the part of you that is ‘guiding and
protecting you every step of the way’.
- “Nothing can ever truly go wrong”
- This statement is not exactly meant to justify all of your worst traumas or
to say - at a practical or religious level that ‘everything happens for a
reason’.
- It’s more about stating that even the unpleasant elements of our journey
are not necessarily a divergence from the path that you are meant to be
on.
- Nothing has ‘gone wrong’.
- It may be unpleasant. It may be a roundabout way of getting to where you
should be, but so long as you keep moving forward and keeping love at
the foundation of your decisions and perspectives, then you are always
where you are meant to be - in the context of your life’s journey.
- This mantra is to help remind you to place this ‘higher perspective’ of your
life at the center of your view of life every single day.
- What if this spiritual view is false?
- Well, the beauty is that… IF DONE RIGHT… holding this belief and allowing it to
guide you in your life will necessarily only add emotional strength, love and trust
to your day to day experience of life.
- IF DONE RIGHT… It cannot possibly lead to harm for you or anyone else.
- It will only reinforce the principals of unconditional self love that we have been
working on in this course.
- Then, as you see the benefits, you will open up more and more to the core
beliefs behind this.
- Gratitude Exercise: Love Your Challenges
- Remembering that the goal of this life is spiritual evolution of our consciousness
and inner growth towards self-actualization and fulfilment of purpose… let’s
practice finding gratitude for the struggles that we experienced along the way that
allowed you to become that person, even if they were unpleasant at the time.
- From the spiritual perspective, the challenges were helpful.
- Think about the pain you were in when you signed up for this course, and
(hopefully) how much further along you feel like this course will help you
get in your life.
- Now… What if you never felt that pain?
- If you were just comfortably numb and never learned the things that you
will continue mastering on this journey, would your life ever become it’s
fullest potential?
- Hopefully already and in the future, you will be able to see the drastic shift
that this healing can do, and appreciate the pain that led you to
committing to this healing.
- When you become the best version of yourself as a response to pain, hopefully
you will acknowledge that it was a necessary part of your journey.
- So, practice finding some challenges in your life that were unpleasant at the time
but that led you to improvements in your life.
- Ex: the terrible relationship that taught you to love yourself.
- Ex: The really hard school tests you never thought you’d pass, but forced
you to learn how smart you could be.
- Ex: The time you were cut from a team/project/group etc… that forced
you to work harder on your skills to get back in and improve.
- Breathing Exercise: Infinity Breath:
- Purpose:
- 1 - Helps clear the mind with deep visualization and focus.
- 2 - Helps calm the self and enter relaxation/meditation.
- 3 - Helps open up spirituality - opening up crown chakra and soul star
chakra to connect to universal guidance.
- How to:
- Step 1: Focus your energy into your heart space or solar plexus area.
- Use the ‘find the feeling’ and the ‘light healing’ techniques.
- Step 2: Envision breathing in an infinity symbol (like an 8) through the
outside of your chest, over your head and around the back, back into the
chest, then out and down around, underneath your body and coming back
around.
- Breathe in while the motion moves in the ‘upper portion’ above
your head, and breathe out during the bottom portion.
- Meditation: OM Chanting.
- Chanting helps move energy throughout your body and helps connect mental
awareness with physical awareness.
- Using your voice in a calm and relaxed way (in fact, focusing on making these
sounds as naturally and effortlessly as possible) helps clear all sorts of tension
and overthinking.
- Your goal is to allow these sounds to move through you as naturally as possible,
with as little effort as possible, as deeply as possible connecting to your whole
body as it moves through you.
- Meditation Beads: Feel free to buy a meditation beads necklace (like
rosaries), that help you count a certain amount of chants as you go through
your practice.
- Meditation beads will have 108 beads, this is the typical number for
spiritual chanting.
- There are ‘meditation beads’ counter apps for your phone if you’d prefer
to use those.
- They are just there to help you count a certain amount of chants so that
you can commit to a certain length of practice, know that you will not stop
until you are finished, without needing to consciously focus on how many
times you have chanted.
- It is to help you get lost in the feeling, the energy and the practice.
- Counting and beads are not required.
- Feel free to simply set a timer, or to just do it as long as you feel like.
- But committing to completing the 108 chants (or any other amount) will
help you settle into the process, learn patience and discipline, and face
the ‘pain points’ of relaxing, when your body wants to start moving and
you remind it that you’re not done yet, and to just relax into the
experience.
- Why ‘OM’
- It is said that OM is the natural frequency (or natural sound) of the
universe.
- As if the sound of the big bang was actually ‘om’.
- So, we are connecting to the universal frequency/sound.
- BUT… it’s actually ‘AUM’.
- We don’t start with a hard ‘O’.
- We start with A and move through the various vowels and sounds that are
involved in moving through this full pronunciation of
AAAOOOOUUUUEEEMMM.
- The ‘A’ sound is produced from the back of your throat with an open tone.
- Moving to the ‘M which is produced at the from of your lips with a closed
throat.
- It moves sound throughout your body in a deep way and helps you
connect to the core creation frequency of the universe.
4 - My story (I never really had a choice).
- For most of my life, I was resistant to these ‘higher perspectives’.
- In this video, I’d like to share how I came to discover these ideas and overcome my
blockages.
- Why Do We Have Trouble Accepting?
- In the modern world, I believe the biggest blockage is a language barrier.
- Everything that we talk about in spirituality has basis in science… but is talked
about in language that sets it apart and makes it seem like we are defying a
scientific understanding of the Universe.
- Ex: The way that we use the word ‘energy’ in the spiritual community is
completely different from the way that the word is used in science.
- This leads scientists to believe that spiritual people have absolutely no
idea what we are talking about.
- This leads those of us trying to find truth in reality resistant to adopting ‘far
out’ ideas that fly in the face of science.
- There are countless examples where the simple language that we choose to
express ourselves is what is setting up the barrier to us accepting spiritual
concepts.
When spiritual people - through their language - demonstrate that they
don’t understand very basic elements of science and physical reality, it
makes it impossible for those of us who are educated in the modern world
to accept and adopt these beliefs.
- But, when we can align our language with a scientific view of the world, we can
open up to it.
- If you are resistant, start trying to see through this language barrier.
- I assure you, the major principles are fully in alignment with science.
- We simply need to learn how to express it in a way that is still in alignment.
The 2 phrases that were stuck in my head as a child that helped me awaken later:
- These phrases that stayed with me throughout my childhood made no sense until I went
through my awakening.
- The, remembering that I always had these thoughts in my head, helped me accept the
weird things I was coming to learn.
- 1 - “Everything hurts”
- As a child, I had this thought all the time that my whole body hurt in a way that I
couldn’t quite explain or understand.
- I never told anyone because I didn’t know how to express it anyway.
- Through my awakening, I was learning that the physical plane of existence is a
much denser dimension than where we come from, and that we are in fact
spiritual beings having a human experience.
- That made this thought make sense:
- It is very painful for a higher dimensional being who is not used to having
such a dense body be stuck in this physical form.
- Connecting those dots helped me believe and understand that I truly ‘am not
from here’.
- 2 - “I want to go home”
- Still, to this day, this phrase runs through my head from time to time completely
out of nowhere.
- As a child, I would be in my home, thinking “I want to go home”.
- I didn’t understand, it didn’t make sense… but it was in there and stuck with me
my whole life.
- Through my awakening, by realizing that ‘we are not from here’, all of a sudden
these thoughts that I had my whole life finally started making sense.
- The fact that this was the only way to understand my innate, lifelong thoughts
and feelings, helped me open up to this spiritual point of view.
- The Universe is always pushing you in a particular direction:
- Questioning Religion:
- When I was 12 years old, preparing for my Bar Mitzvah, I started realizing
that I only believed in Judaism because I was born into it.
- This led me to start seeking deeper truths and led me to my studies in
philosophy and religion, trying to figure out what I believed about the
universe.
- In hindsight, it’s clear that this was part of the path leading me eventually
to my awakening.
- Music vs. Philosophy:
- Despite wanting to study music, and despite my parents not
understanding philosophy at all (or seeing any value in it), the universe
naturally pushed me in that direction.
- During my studies in philosophy and religion, it all came very naturally.
- It was as if certain tiny words would manage to unlock deep layers of
innate wisdom in me.
- It was more a process of ‘remembering’ than it was of learning.
- All sorts of concepts that were far beyond my age… and not taught to me
specifically… started flowing through me naturally.
- Eventually, I forgot them for a while and slipped back into the 3D world,
until my true awakening later on.
- Ideas that stuck:
- As these concepts started getting awakened in me, there were a few
things that - completely inexplicably - just stuck with me intensely.
- Ex: The term ‘Bodhisattva’.
- Meaning either:
- 1 - Someone who is on their path to awakening.
- 2 - Someone who has awakened in a past life and has come back
to help instead of dissolving into nirvana.
- Even though I was not at a stage in my life where I could accept,
acknowledge or truly make sense of myself in that context… it stuck with
me and some deep part of me knew that it was me.
- Then, when an awakening finally happened and turned that into reality, all
of a sudden these feelings that I had for most of my life started making
sense.
It is because I recognized that some part of me KNEW THIS STUFF
before I actually discovered it that I allowed myself to accept it when
my real awakening started happening.
- When something sparks in your brain:
- I spent 6 months struggling intensely with the love that I felt for this person I now
call my twin flame.
- Twin Flames are a weird, intense concept… an awakening method really, where
your love for someone and the intense pain of being triggered by them and
separated from them sparks your awakening, forces you into healing, pushes you
onto your mission work and leads you to your purpose, mission and full
self-actualization on this planet.
- Even though I had never heard the words ‘Twin Flames’ before, the MOMENT I
saw those words for the first time, something snapped in my brain and I instantly
understood that that’s what I was dealing with.
- Whether or not twin flames are real, at the end of the day, it is 100% the wisdom
and guidance that i got from the twin flame journey that led me to where I am,
and some deep part of me ABSOLUTELY KNEW IT as soon as I saw those
words.
Eventually, it becomes IMPOSSIBLE to deny the spiritual perspective.
It becomes MORE INSANE NOT TO BELIEVE than it would be to believe. It
is CRAZY to consider all of those intricate coincidences and all of my
innate feelings being completely disconnected, than realizing that they are
all part of one rich tapestry of an awakening story.
- Extra stories:
- 1 - I have a friend who straight up remembers being on the other side of the
veil of illusion… choosing her body on this Earth, choosing some of the
missions and the struggles and lessons that she would experience in this
life.
- Ironically, she is not yet living a spiritual life at all.
- Some things have predicted that she will experience more of an
awakening in her 40’s, but who cares.
- She had these memories her whole life, but never told me until I went
through my own awakening.
- You might know people who know more about this stuff than they reveal…
or who might have feelings, thoughts, and memories that they can’t
explain and think that they are simply crazy for having.
- 2 - Someone I was working with at a restaurant told me that she used to be
able to see auras.
- Although I need to take her word for it that she experienced it… if she DID
experience it, that is an objective, demonstrable experience (to her) that is
undeniable.
- She, too, is not living a spiritual life.
- Regular people… walking through this world… acutely aware that there is
more to this universe, but not sharing it with most people because of how
crazy it all seems.
- What is the common theme of all the examples I just shared?
- NONE OF THEM have any implications on the 3D world itself!
- We are NOT trying to confuse spiritual awareness with losing track of reality and
leaving science behind.
- The core of awakening is simply about realizing that there are other dimensions
that exist ‘above’ or ‘perpendicular’ to this physical, spacetime reality that we
experience right here and now.
- Point being… recognizing spirituality shouldn’t - on it’s own - mess with your
experience of physical reality.
- Yes… we are multidimensional spiritual beings at our core…
- But we are having a human experience right now. The physical world is as real
as it used to be (whatever ‘real’ really means).
- So, start acknowledging that there is more to this universe, but let’s temper our
expectations of how this is supposed to affect our physical reality.
- There ARE ways that spiritual awareness will affect your regular, 3D, day to day
reality, but we will need to be cautious about what we accept when we start our
awakenings.
5 - Terminology, Distinctions & Cycles
- Ideas, concepts and distinctions with the notions of spirituality and awakening.
- Spirituality vs. Religion
- These are 2 very different things.
- Religion is based partly on the notion of spirituality, but also on a lot of other
historical issues that became intertwined with religions along the way.
- I’m not here to comment on religion specifically, only to help people understand
the distinction between these 2 concepts.
- Spirituality vs. Religion = Justice vs. Law
- Spirituality and Justice are overarching concepts.
- Intangible ideas that we all have some general understanding of what
they are.
- They are general concepts that we can more or less agree are things
that we want to aim for in our lives and in our societies.
- They are hard to define or describe EXACTLY, but we all have some
general consensus about what they mean overall and that they are
praiseworthy values to attempt to integrate.
- We can all agree that justice is more preferable than injustice when it
comes to morality, spirituality and practicality.
- This concept of how justice manifests or presents itself changes from time
to time and from society to society, but the concept overall is agreed
upon.
- Religion and law are the more tangible forms:
- They are the set of codified rules that are meant to elucidate those
overarching concepts that are too vague for us to follow, reliably and in
precise ways, as a society.
- But… It is very obvious to us that not a single society on this planet has
achieved a perfect (or even a good) legal system that fully takes care of
all the elements of justice that we know we want to exemplify, right?
- The problem is that it is quite literally impossible to truly codify something
intangible like “justice” into a coherent and comprehensive rule book that will fully
account for every possible scenario at every given time.
- ESPECIALLY when you account for the ways that these rules and codes can be
manipulated by people in power.
In our human fallibility and in our need to have a written out rule of law that
can guide us, we lose track of the true overarching concept that we are
trying to describe through these laws.
- It is better to think of the commandments of a religion as ‘guidelines God gave us to
show us how to have good lives’ as opposed to the ‘the rules that you must follow to
please God’.
- If you truly follow what the bible or the Quran tells you - following the spirit in which it was
intended rather than getting lost in the rule of law about it - you will have the best,
happiest, and most spiritually beneficial life. That’s all.
The sets of rules that we have in religion - which are based on spirituality -
are trying to make concrete something that cannot possibly be made
concrete, and necessarily lose the core of the values they are trying to
elucidate.
- The CORE of SPIRITUALITY is 2 main ideas:
- 1 - There is more to who you are than the physical version of you.
- What EXACTLY you believe happens on the other side of this veil is up to
interpretation and belief.
- All that is important at the core is that you recognize that we are more
than our bodies.
- 2 - Unconditional love.
- That’s what leads to inner peace, fulfilment, success, happiness, etc… for
yourself as a person and for society as a whole.
- Any real religion has these 2 things built into it at their core.
- The RULES that we have in religion and the stories we use in the bibles and
other sources are only meant to help elucidate those 2 principles.
- So, try to focus on the overarching concepts that your religion teaches you and
not get too bogged down in the nitty gritty rules, whenever they start to betray
those main principles and concepts.
Awakening Terminology: Woke - Awakened - Enlightenment - Ascension
- It is said that there are 3 main kinds of awakening:
- 1 - Awakening to the illusions of society.
- 2 - Awakening to the illusions of reality.
- 3 - Awakening to the power of your soul.
- These levels of awakening don’t necessarily happen in that order.
- The various words we are using here describe different elements of awakening.
- Woke: Referring to political awareness
- Woke refers to the first kind of awakening.
- Recognizing the illusions of society that we have been playing in for a few
thousand years, recognizing the inequity and inequality and all of the problems in
our society.
- Awakening/Awakened: Refers to recognizing the illusions of reality
- This is the starting point of spirituality.
- Recognizing that you are more than your body and that there is more to this
universe.
- When you can start living your life based on these principles, you might say you
are ‘awakening’ or ‘awakened’
- Although… the more awakened you are… the more that you will
recognize that it is merely foolish and/or egotistical to actually call yourself
that.
- Just BE it… don’t get invested in titles.
- That’s an ego trap.
- Awake: Refers to recognizing the power of your soul.
- This refers to living from the perspective that you control your own reality through
your words, choices, intentions and thoughts.
- Both at the practical level and at the metaphysical/spiritual levels.
- Recognizing that - as a being who is more than your physical body - you have
more power on this physical plane than you once thought.
- Enlightened: Refers to an emotional state / a state of consciousness.
- It refers to a true awareness of oneness with the universe itself.
- Not simply at an intellectual level, but to truly embody that sense of oneness in
your emotions and consciousness.
- It means living beyond this reality, being more connected to who you are at
the spiritual level than you are to who you are at this physical level.
- Refer back to the Scale/Map of Consciousness we talked about in week 1.
- Enlightenment is at the top of the scale of emotions and consciousness.
- There are also degrees of enlightenment (different extents to which you may be
connected to your spiritual truths).
- You can go in and out of enlightenment, just as you can go in and out of any
other emotion or state of consciousness.
- Ascension: Refers to the process (active and passive) of raising your emotions
and state of consciousness
- By doing this course, you are on an active path of ascension.
- You are releasing your wounds and learning the habits that will keep you
operating at the highest vibes possible.
- You are ‘ascending’ on that scale of consciousness.
- If you’re looking at ‘ascension’ as the mass spiritual awakening of Earth, be
aware that we are in that phase right now.
- More and more people are waking up every day.
- We are all becoming more aware and awake at those 3 levels mentioned
above.
- Bit by bit, we are moving to a point where the majority of people will be
aware and awake and the overall flow of the path of humanity will truly
shift into a different vibration and direction.
- The Looping Cycles of Awakening:
- The awakening process tends to have a somewhat looping cycle, where we
go through various stages, in an upwards spiral, where - each time we go
around the spiral - the stages get quicker and quicker until we find
ourselves completely living above the line of ‘being awake’.
- The awakening process - overall - is like emotional and spiritual puberty,
where all sorts of latent elements of who you are start coming online for the
first time, and this is an extremely confusing and painful period…
ESPECIALLY when people around you don’t understand what’s happening.
- Stage 1: The Dark Night of the Soul.
- A relatively unique form of depression that comes with a ‘spiritual flavor’
to it, where your beliefs about reality start coming into question, where
things just don’t feel right, and where you feel lost in a way that you can’t
quite explain but that feels too real to deny.
- It’s more than just generic hopelessness and depression.
- It has that extra tint to it where something about the world just doesn’t feel
right anymore.
- Suicidal thoughts are common during this period because you can’t
understand how this feeling is ever supposed to end.
- The purpose of the Dark Night is to collapse the old structures you’ve
been living under, so that you can begin to start building the new
structures that will form your new life on the other side.
- Think of it like the cocoon that the caterpillar goes into.
- In the cocoon, the caterpillar reverts to a goo-form.
- It completely loses its identity and physical form, in preparation for
the next stage of it’s existence.
- Stage 2: Realizations and inner guidance.
- As the hopelessness of the Dark Night gives way to some inspiration, you
start moving in positive directions.
- During this period you’re still struggling and in pain. It’s not EASY. It’s just
a period of movement after the period of stagnation that is the Dark Night.
During this period, you will have the urge to go and shout from the rooftops all of
the things that you are now starting to learn, but it’s important to recognize that
your need to shout this out to everyone is actually stemming from your own fear
and need for validation about these things that you are learning.
- You will be better off keeping this stuff mainly to yourself until you find a
place of stability.
- Be careful about who you choose to share with during this period.
- Find the right awakening people who will understand, and DO NOT TRY
to awaken people who are not going through this yet.
- You DO sound crazy during this period because you yourself are
still figuring a lot of things out and are still in an intense emotional
state about everything you are learning.
- A zen master knows better than to straight up tell you the answers. They
need to guide you there naturally.
- Until you learn how to do that yourself, you can’t help people truly awaken
anyway… just focus on your own journey.
- Stage 3: The solidifying and healing:
- As the lessons that you are learning in stage 2 start becoming the new
foundation of your beliefs and you start learning how to handle them in a
calm, relaxed, self-assured and self loving way (instead of trying to shout
this stuff from the rooftops), you settle into a period of real inner growth.
- During this period, you learn how to go inwards, truly release the fears
and issues that are holding you down, and learn how to start applying
your new beliefs to your life in a more grounded way.
- Stage 4: The Calm (before the storm).
- Once you’ve solidified into these new beliefs and done some healing
around the things that were bringing you down, you tend to have a brief
period of allowing this whole process to settle down a bit.
- It will feel like you have completed your journey to some extent.
- You will feel as if you have integrated the lessons and that you are
ready to live your best new life. Unfortunately… This is merely the
end of one cycle.
- It takes many trips around this spiral to break past the line where you
won’t enter back into suffering anymore.
- There is another Dark Night and another trip around this spiral coming up.
- BUT… the next one won’t be as bad or as long, and you will keep on
progressing until you arrive at a level where you will NEVER slip too
far down, and back into suffering, ever again.
6 - Nudging your beliefs.
- Even if you’ve been spiritual your whole life or going through an awakening, sometimes
truly believing and truly embodying those beliefs is difficult.
- Learning to accept this higher perspective is a process of training our brains to see the
other side.
- In this video, we’ll talk about some topics that you can start looking into and investigating
that will help you start accepting the undeniable truths of a spiritual perspective.
- REMINDER: Why are we doing this?
- When we can take a higher perspective, then none of the things we worry about
on a day to day basis carry as much weight as they used to, and we can relax
into our lives without fear.
- This is about ELIMINATING SUFFERING by changing our viewpoint about our
lives, reality and the universe.
When you change your perspective about the purpose and goals of your
life, you might realize that you are much further ahead on your journey than
you thought you were - when you were measuring success based on
money, relationships, etc…
Topics you can start looking into:
- 1 - Astral travel / Astral Projection:
- Learning how to separate your consciousness from your body to travel through
the ‘astral realm’.
- As crazy as it sounds, there are countless books, countless experiences,
countless people doing this regularly, and even a well known education center
called ‘The Monroe Institute’ designed to help you learn how to do this that
has been operating for decades (since 1974).
- Through processes of deep meditation and brain training, you can learn how to
do this at will.
- The skill is tied into lucid dreaming as well, which is a bit a bridge to astral
projection.
- The exact relationship between the astral realm and the physical world is
debatable (whether your experiences in the astral realm can tell you facts about
the 3D world), but the experiences themselves are real enough to show you that
there is more to this universe.
- RECOMMENDED READING: Psychic Warrior by David Morehouse.
- Even in a book like this, the author himself talks about how hard and how
damaging it can be to start accepting these truths as reality.
- So, be aware that it is normal to be resistant to these ideas, and that - in a
very real way - your brain is actually trying to protect you.
- 2 - Reincarnation Stories:
- There are countless stories of children (usually 5-6 years old or younger) who
actually remember their past lives.
- Often, this happens in a way that becomes verifiable, and this is where magic
starts happening.
- There are stories of children who remembered where they died and are able to
help authorities find their bodies… even one story of a child who was able to
identify his own murderer, tracked him down, and the murderer confessed.
- Recommended Reading:
- Journey of Souls: Case Studies of Life between Lives by Michael Newton
- Children Who Have Lived Before: Reincarnation Today by Trutz Hardo
- Obviously, when you hear these stories once… it’s easy to dismiss them.
- But remember, this is a PROCESS of learning more and more, until it slowly
becomes harder to deny.
- It eventually becomes harder to deny than it is to accept.
- It takes time to open up to these things.
- No amount of study on it’s own can do it either, by the way… your own emotional
healing and awakening need to come along with it for you to be able to truly open
up to and embody these new beliefs.
- 3 - Real Life Premonitions
- There are plenty of stories of people who have dreams, vision, or merely intense
feelings that end up being true.
- I’ve heard plenty of these stories personally from people who have reached out
for my help.
- Obviously, some of these stories are easily dismissable and come from people
you wouldn’t believe without proof, while others come from more reliable sources
and seem to portray more undeniable experiences.
- It is up to you to find the line for yourself of what you’re open to or not.
- 4 - QHHT (Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique)
- A method of regressing people into extremely deep states of hypnosis where she
was able to bypass the ego based mind of this lifetime, and get info about past
lives, parallel lives and universes, lives in other dimensions, etc…
- Again… It is possible to dismiss these things because - although hypnotized
people won’t lie - the brain will often fill in the gaps and make things up when it
doesn’t have real answers.
- But, with enough research and hearing enough stories - and seeing how people,
completely unconnected, all over the world - seem to give similar answers to the
same kinds of questions, it starts revealing a truly uncanny and inexplicable
commonality between our experiences as souls that make it harder to dismiss
these things than to accept them.
- Recommended Reading: Anything by Dolores Cannon.
- 5 - Neurodivergents and Schizoaffective disorder.
- Modern psychiatry tries to tell us that this is merely hallucination.
- While it is obviously a difficult thing to live with that gets in the way of life and - in
that sense - is a debilitating condition… it seems unlikely that these are straight
up hallucinations with no reality to them.
- Why?
- With enough research into people’s experiences, and with an open eye to
multiple dimensions and spirituality - the things that these voices tell these people
are COMPLETELY in line with what awakened and enlightened people seem to
discover about the universe.
- This makes it seem more likely that Schizoaffective disorder is actually an
uncontrollable ability to experience higher dimensions.
- Debilitating and painful as it is, the experiences appear to be more real than
modern psychiatry gives them credit for.
- If you have TikTok, look up a creator named @xoradmagical. He is a
neurodivergent who experiences these things and tells his stories, recognizing
the mental health issues and also the multidimensional nature of his experiences.
- 6 - Psychedelics
- Mushrooms, Acid, Peyote, Ayahuasca, DMT.
- I am not suggesting that you necessarily go out and take these substances
yourself, but you can do a lot of research into these experiences.
- These substances should be viewed as ‘plant medicine’.
- Develop a healthy respect for these substances, and they can open up your
reality in ways that you never expected.
- Recommended listening: Terrence McKenna
- He has plenty of recorded lectures on these subjects.
- Recommended Reading:
- The Teachings of Don Juan by Carlos Castaneda
- DMT: The Spirit Molecule by Rick Strauss
- The reading list for this topic is endless. SImply look up ‘psychedelics and
spirituality, you'll find plenty’.
7 - Near Death Experiences:
- Simply another common and well researched topic with countless books and podcasts
and other info behind it that you can look up.
8 - Celebrities who have had spiritual awakenings
- Most notably and most recently, Jim Carrey went through an intense and public spiritual
awakening, showing up on the Red Carpet of the Oscars talking about how ‘Jim Carrey
wasn’t real’ and how this whole reality is an illusion.
- He spent months talking very publicly about all of this before reeling it back in a little bit
(going through the various stages of an awakening as discussed in the last video)
- Will Smith has recently been advocating psychedelics and Ayahuasca more, coming out
to the public as ‘spiritually awake’... understanding the deeper truths about the universe.
- Of course… BEWARE… because you also have a lot of ‘spiritual celebrities’ who
don’t have healthy information and wisdom to share, so choose wisely.
9 - The Gateway Experience (HIGHLY RECOMMENDED READING)
- Strange as it seems, this information comes to us DIRECTLY from the CIA.
- The Gateway Experience (used by the Monroe institute to help people achieve astral
travelling) using a technique and methods known as hemi-sync (where we can get the
left and right brains working in proper synchronicity) that allows us to break through to
higher states of consciousness.
- This is extremely recommended reading.
- The article can be found here:
- https://www.cia.gov/readingroom/docs/CIA-RDP96-00788R001700210016-5.pdf
Importance of daily reminders:
- As you try to open yourself up to a spiritual perspective of reality and learn to truly live
from this perspective, it is important that you start developing daily habits that will remind
you on a regular basis that you are more than your physical body.
- Whether this has to do with finding brain food to remind you or simply committing
to daily meditation practices, make sure that you remind yourself EVERY
SINGLE DAY that there is more to this world, so that you can start programming
your brain to shift into this perspective more naturally.
7 - Reeling In Your Beliefs.
- Spirituality can become extremely toxic sometimes - whether intentionally (from people
trying to mislead you for profit) or not (from people who merely miss the true lessons of
spirituality and get swept up in fantasy).
- It is important for you to find a grounded approach to your views and to your
beliefs and make sure that everything you choose to integrate and follow is
properly understood and founded in some kind of reason before devoting your life
to it.
- That being said, there TRULY IS some bonkers magical stuff happening in this universe,
and the boundaries do go beyond what might seem ‘real’... but it is important that you
reel in your beliefs and investigate them properly before getting misled and losing grips
with reality.
- What are the limits of Spirituality?
- The common theme of spirituality is (reminder) merely that we are more than our
physical bodies, and that unconditional love is the goal.
- These are the overarching truths.
- But… we do still live in a physical world, ruled and guided by the rules of physics.
- EVEN IF the weirder theories about the illusion of the physical world pan
out somehow, you and I are not currently at the physics bending level.
- EVEN IF those things hold truth… you will need to get there naturally and
truly discover it yourself from your own inner experiences… You can’t just
choose to believe it because it feels good and not screw up your life at all.
- You still have to live in the world of physics in the meantime.
- This is the overall limit.
- We can remember, realize and make use of the fact that we are MORE than our
physical bodies… but we can’t ignore the fact that we ARE INDEED physical
bodies.
- Real results in the physical world still require that you take action.
- You must still obey the basic laws of this physical reality.
- But - especially at the beginning of our awakenings - we tend to get swept
up in over-the-top ideas about what is going on.
- This happens because once we break through the barrier of illusion, we
lose track of all limits and boundaries and are so desperate to believe in
the magical.
- But… we end up ditching one illusory ‘story’ about restriction for another
illusory ‘story’ about freedom… but both are stories.
- The point of the awakening is to experience and connect… to disconnect
from stories and narratives altogether.
- Awakening leads to a desperate need to break barriers that can lead us
astray.
When I knew nothing of Buddhism,
Mountains were mountains and rivers were rivers.
When I knew a little of Buddhism,
Mountains are not mountains and rivers are not rivers.
When I finally understood Buddhism,
Mountains were mountains and rivers were rivers again.
- During our awakenings, it is easy to get stuck in that middle layer where nothing is truly
what we think it is.
- But a true spiritual approach will bring you back down into a grounded view where you
realize and remember that - at some level - nothing is truly real… but at the most
practical level, mountains are mountains and rivers are rivers and you need to live as
such, or you will drown in the rivers and die in the mountains.
- The Dangers of Spiritual Bypassing:
- Spiritual Bypassing = Using your spiritual beliefs to either:
- A - Avoid looking at things within yourself that are harming you and
others and holding you down, or
- B - Justifying actions and choices that are harmful to you and others
and holding you down.
- Many people use their connections to spirituality to justify all sorts of trauma and
fear-based behavior that is actually detrimental to their spiritual growth.
- People use the ideas of spirituality to remove their own agency and
responsibility:
- To dive deeper into ego, and to create narratives where they are
exempt from having to do their real healing, from having to treat
people well, from having to grow and evolve in the way that our
awakenings are trying to push us towards.
- No amount of energy healing is going to teach you the skills you need to change
the energy that you emit.
- No amount of connection to spirit is going to do you any good if you look down on
people and judge people who don’t appear to have that same connection (that is
an ego trap).
- Anything you do for your own spirituality... While judging others for not
doing it… is precisely the opposite of the direction that we are meant to be
moving in.
- That is an ego trap.
- People who want to skip over their own emotional healing do this thing we
call spiritual bypassing, and this is something you want to avoid.
- You cannot hate, judge, or look down on anyone while evolving in the direction
that you should be moving on this spiritual journey.
- What spirituality teaches you:
- You are a spiritual being having a human experience right now.
- Spiritual bypassing is a little about ignoring the second half of that sentence and
pretending that your relationship with spirituality exempts you from certain
elements of the human experience.
Things to be aware of or to potentially see through:
- 1 - Does water hold emotions?
- There were supposedly studies on this by a Japanese scientist named Dr.
Masaru Emoto where he apparently demonstrated that water can absorb and
react to the emotions that we put into them,
- He would say angry things to one glass of water and loving things to another
glass of water, then he would freeze them and look at the crystalized pattern of
the frozen water and see how clearly the anger water was disturbed whereas the
love water clearly had pure and beautiful frequencies.
- It turns out that these studies have never been replicated ever by any other
scientist ever, despite efforts to do it.
- I used to teach - in the first version of my course - that this was scientifically valid,
and eventually realized that I was merely desperate to believe anything that felt
good.
- Does this mean that water ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT have any effect on the
water? No… it is still possibly true on some level… but it is ABSOLUTELY NOT
TRUE on the straight forward scientifically/physically verifiable levels… but a lot
of spiritual people will try to tell you that there is real science behind this.
- Remember… I’m not telling you what to believe or not believe, I am simply
reminding you to think critically and to not just believe whatever feels good simply
because it feels good.
- 2 - Signs and Synchronicities and Divination (tarot, pendulums, I Ching…)
- Although I can’t deny the miraculous ways that parts of my journey have played
out, the ‘channelled messages’ that are my books and my courses, and all of the
weird coincidences that led me to where I am…
- During my awakening journey I got WAY TOO SWEPT UP in the idea that -
basically - all of the things that came to me intuitively that felt good and/or strong
and real MUST BE TRUE because my intuition was telling it to me.
- Eventually, it became SUPER CLEAR that so many of the things that I were
convinced were true based on intuition and divination were just straight up NOT
TRUE!
- Coming back down to reality, I can’t even pretend that all of those things i was so
certain of were true about the physical world.
- So… your intuition can tell you a lot about what direction to move in through your
life, it DOESN'T tell you specific true facts about other people’s lives and the
world around you.
- If YOU happen to have specific premonitions or other connections… great! Who
am I to tell you that your experiences aren’t real.
- But what I’m saying is that you have to be EXTREMELY careful about allowing
yourself to get swept up with beliefs about other people’s lives and the physical
world based on your own intuition and based on divinations and readings and
‘channelled messages’ and all that.
- 3 - Scam Artists
- Sinister manifesting coaches:
- Anyone who is trying to convince you that you can have absolute anything
you want in 24 hours… and is trying to charge you for the key of how to
do that… is almost certainly conning you.
- It is NOT POSSIBLE to bring WHATEVER YOU WANT into your reality
that quickly… without real action, etc…
- Manifesting is real… sure!
- But beware of people who are trying to take advantage of you with grand
promises of your fantasy life without any effort.
- They haven’t manifested it themselves.
- Do not trust people who promise you that you can effortlessly receive
whatever you want - without any work, action or inner healing.
- False psychics:
- Are some people psychic with the ability to communicate with the other
side? Sure. I do believe so.
- But… we are also 100% aware of con artists who use cold reading,
mentalism, and spying on the audience before shows or using plants in
the audience to convince you that they have magical powers that they
know they don’t.
- The James Randi Paranormal Challenge
- James Randi was a magician who devoted himself to disproving the paranormal.
- For 2 decades (approx), he offered a 1 million dollar prize to ANYONE who could
demonstrate supernatural abilities within a scientifically controlled environment.
- For close to 20 years, lots of people tried, and all of them were debunked.
- So… believe as we want in the reality of multiple dimensions, over a period of 20
years no-one was able to demonstrate any ability to use their connection to
spirituality to manipulate the physical world.
We simply need to understand where the boundaries are between our
physical world and our spiritual selves.
8 - Bonus topics links
- Since I tried to take a balanced and grounded approach to my talks about spirituality -
and to focus more on the overarching conceptual approach to it - I wanted to give those
of you who are interested access to a few other talks that will do some deeper dives into
some spiritual topics that you may find helpful.
- Below are some links for extra talks on topics that we didn’t have the space to go into for
now.
Deep Dive into Law of Attraction and Manifesting:

Deep Dive into Twin Flames and the Twin Flame Journey:

The Truth About Being an Empath:
https://youtu.be/-T4fadPajIA
Original Week 7 Theory Work (diving into the Science of Real Magic)

Why Seekers are Loners (Discussing the Awakening Journey and Hermit Mode)

Signs and Synchronicities (from the the original Week 7 material)

9 - Share Your Story
- If you’ve made it this far in the course, then hopefully you have been enjoying it and
seeing true progress.
- If that’s the case, then I have a humble request for you.
- Please share your story - either with me personally or in one of the Facebook groups.
- Having testimonials about the impact of this course are absolutely crucial to encourage
others to do the same.
- And of course… as I am truly invested in making sure that you made progress in this
course - especially if you haven’t been showing up to the Q&A’s or posting in the group -
then I want to hear from you! I want to know how your experience was.
- So, even if you’re a little shy, I would like to ask you to share your story and your
experience a little bit.
Options:
- Written testimonials:
- The best way to share a written testimonial is on facebook. That way I can take a
screenshot, which carries extra weight because people can see that it was a real
post or message.
- BEST: If you are willing, posting in the Public Facebook Group would be the
best, since people can see it and I can take a screenshot of it.
- Second Best: If you don’t want to post publicly, sharing in the Private Facebook
Group would still be great as it will greatly encourage others who are starting the
course to commit to the work
- Third Best: If you don’t want to expose your name or profile even to the people
in the public facebook group, then you can send me a testimonial by Private
Message on Facebook. I will blur out your name and picture before sharing it.
- Last Resort: You can always email me, of course. Any chance to hear your
thoughts is awesome and appreciated.
- Video Testimonials: Videos carry far more weight and I would be extremely grateful to
anyone who is willing to do a video testimonial. You can either:
- Record something on your phone and send it to me however you can manage
(googledrive, Onedrive, Youtube, etc…). Whatever sites and services you are
most familiar with.
- Get in touch with me and Arrange a Zoom Call for us to chat face to face. We
get a chance to debrief and catch up on your experience, and I can pull out some
sections from our talk as the testimonial.
Whatever you’re willing to do, I will be extremely grateful and happy to hear your story.
10 - [BONUS] Dark entities, curses, black magic, etc…
- Something that comes up often - people who ask me about how to deal with curses,
spells, demos and black magic etc...
- People are often afraid of the power that these things have over them.
- The belief that these things have power over you is what truly keeps you stuck and
powerless to do anything about it.
- It is simply a matter of giving away your power to this belief that some magic or other
dimensional thing is controlling your consciousness and your experience of reality.
- Now… are spirits and other dimensional entities real?
- Yes. I absolutely believe that they are.
- BUT… their ability to impact us is 100% up to us and our own state of consciousness.
- Firstly, they do not exist in the physical reality. They cannot harm you physically or have
any real physical effect on you.
- And Secondly, they all exist and operate at a certain emotional level and level of
consciousness (in relation to the map of consciousness by David Hawkins we
discussed in week 1 of this course).
- Demons, black magic, curses, etc… all of these things are founded in, live in,
operate in low emotional vibrational frequencies.
- They are all based on (and feed on) fear, doubt, guilt, shame etc...
- A curse is really just about projecting energies of fear and guilt and shame onto
the person they are attacking (presuming… of course.. That they are real).
- Anyone who is spending their days doing black magic on people is necessarily
operating in low emotional frequencies because they are willing to cause harm to
others (and we know that it is impossible to fully love yourself while being cruel to
others.
- These things all resonate at extremely low energetic frequencies.
- Point being: These things can ONLY exist and operate in the realm of fear, meaning…
The only REAL CURSE that exists is your own lack of self love!
- When you learn how to truly live in and vibrate at the level of true unconditional love, no
demons, black magic or spells can touch you at all.
- It is only your own fear that allows this stuff to take over at all.
- So… it is 100% within your power to overcome whatever you think other people have put
onto you.
- It is all about inner healing and emotional wellness and raising your vibes.
- Just focus on your own inner healing, and none of these spiritual things can hurt you.
- Your journey, your energy, and your consciousness are all within your power to guide
and control.
- Even when it comes to demons, if you don’t give them fear, they can’t harm you.
- Your goal is to confront demons and spells with love, and they will have no impact on
you.
- Except for the fear that you give them, they have no power over you.
- Demons really represent repressed parts of yourself or negative emotions that have
taken on some kind of form.
- Our goal is unconditional self love.. Remember?
- So… if you learn to confront your demons without fear and show them love, then they
can’t harm you.
- Your fear around these things is what is truly having an effect on your life… nothing
more.
Vibrate higher, and these things won’t be able to touch you.
Week 8:
1 - Intro
- Congrats for making it this far!
- it is IMPOSSIBLE that you can watch and practice all this and not gain from it.
- This week is about releasing last blockages, core wounds, and bringing up unresolved
emotions that are more deeply buried and/or not connected to anything strictly logical.
- Why we worked on the magic of this journey last week.
- We were preparing you to be excited for what life can be on the other side
of this journey.
- So that you can even look forward to diving into the core wounds that are left
over.
- By now, you shouldn’t be afraid of anything that can come up.
- Quick recap of what we’ve done so far.
- We have been building muscle and getting ready to expose these heaviest
weights.
- Diving into core wounds.
- Looking at the monsters under the bed - by now you should know
that they can’t hurt you.
- You should know how to maintain emotional strength and wellness.
- Don’t need to do the deep core wounds exercises right away. But watch the videos
so you know what we’re talking about.
- These exercises can and should be done in your own time, when you feel you
are ready.
- Follow your intuition trust your heart.
- The videos will give you prep work so that you are ready to do the exercises as
soon as you are ready.
- Even by the end of this week, you won’t be ‘fully healed’.
- Understand that the healing process will continue.
- No need to be perfect.
- Just celebrate how far you’ve come, and prepare for even greater healing and
progress as you continue through your life.
- I am SO proud of you for making it this far!
2 - Weekly Exercises
- Mantra: Confronting my demons can be painful, but it can’t actually hurt me and it
is the only way to truly heal.
- As you prepare to dive into any remaining core traumas, keep in mind that your
emotions can’t hurt you.
- It’s time to look under the bed and see the monster that’s been hiding there, but
you’re going to see (and should already know), that the monster is actually your
friend.
- Yes… confronting these things will bring up really uncomfortable emotions, but -
at least to an extent - you should be actually excited for this.
- You should know that the ‘painful’ emotions will actually provide an amazing
release that will make your life better, and that - if you don’t resist the emotions -
feeling those things can actually feel good.
- Think of it like going to a haunted house… people actually PAY to be scared,
because the experience is exhilarating.
- So, don’t fear the demons and monsters. They can’t hurt you. And they’re trying
to improve your life.
- Only resisting and holding onto them causes true pain and suffering.
- Confronting and releasing them feels amazing… even when it’s painful.
- Gratitude: Be grateful for YOURSELF!
- Take time to be thankful to yourself for all of the work you have put in, both during
this course and before… in all areas of your life.
- You have done a phenomenal job and should be very proud of yourself.
- Unconditional self love goes hand in hand with gratitude towards oneself and
your own efforts.
- Make sure you actively thank yourself for it all this week.
- Meditation: Merging with your best self meditation.
- Envision your greatest, most successful, happiest and most loving self - and the
world around that version of them in the greatest detail possible.
- How do they stand? What are they wearing? What do they do for a living? How
are they of service to the world? Who are they surrounded by? How is their
physique different from yours right now? Etc…
- Build this picture in as much detail as possible.
- Then envision that version of yourself standing or sitting behind you.
- Finally, envision that version of you stepping into your body, and merging with /
taking over for your current self.
- That highest version of you is now in your body, living this life.
- Breathing 7-1-8 breath.
- Great for relaxation, calming the sympathetic nervous system, and insomnia.
- Breathe in for a count of 7. Hold for a count of 1. Breathe out for a count of 8 and
repeat.
- Only count 8 and 8 though. On the in count, hold on the 8. Then breathe out for a
full count of 8.
3 - Recap and Reminders
- Tying together the step by step process we have been learning over the last 7 weeks.
- Connecting the dots.
- BEFORE YOU GOT STARTED:
- You were living in a pre-awakened, fear based state.
- We moved from a state of pure love in childhood, through trauma and
defense mechanisms, and into our fear-based programming and defensive
ego-based identity that we created.
- Trauma > Actions and patterns (designed to keep us safe) > programmed identity
> Programmed ideals and perspectives > cycles of emotions, thoughts,
sensations and choices.
- People pride themselves on wearing a mask towards society, and actively shame
those who choose not to mask their true selves.
- YOUR TRIGGERS ARE TRYING TO HELP YOU HEAL… but you didn’t
recognize that, succumbed to defense mechanisms, and allowed yourself to pave
these pathways in your brain.
- People are scared to heal because their identity is built into their fears and
defense mechanisms.
- So, for decades… you lived as a false version of yourself.
- Confronting and realizing this leads to ego death and awakening (whether
psychological, emotional, or spiritual awakening).
- As a result of these patterns:
- Whenever uncomfortable emotions would hit you, either from the inside or the
outside, your brain would respond to it’s fear-based programming, would search
for a problem, and would perpetuate the cycles that we have been breaking out
of (Thoughts > Emotions > Sensations).
How We’ve Been Healing
- STEP #1 - Developing good habits:
- As mentioned, these patterns caused negative habits that kept us in pain and in
our comfort zones.
- Maintaining these good habits are the crucial first step that everything else is built
on.
- STEP #2 - Stopping the cycle
- We learned how to notice and observe everything that was happening inside of
ourselves.
- Thereby, we were able to remove ourselves from being the ‘experiencer’ of the
emotion and cycle, and transform into the ‘observer’ of it, so that we could end
these cycles.
- We learned to break the barrier between our heads and our hearts by moving out
of our rational thinking and into our feelings and inner sensations.
- Step #3 - Releasing the energy
- In week 3 (and some of week 2) we learned what to do with the uncomfortable
emotional energy that was fueling these cycles, so that we could finally start
releasing the unresolved energy that perpetuated our problems.
- By learning how to stop running from our uncomfortable energy, we learned how
to get our 3 brains into alignment…
- Step #4 - Connecting to the heartspace.
- Realizing that our hearts cannot be programmed, we learned the importance of
allowing our hearts to guide us.
- Emotions and sensations are more important and more reliable guides to actions
than logic.
- Anything less than unconditional love is going to cause you pain!!!
- Learning how to get our logical mind out of the way was a crucial step to stop
doubting ourselves, guilting ourselves judging ourselves, etc…
- With this in mind, we learned how to change the way we treated others, and…
- Step #5 - Adjusting our environments:
- Along with how we connect to other people, we needed to adjust our relationship
to our physical bodies and environments.
- By adjusting our environments, we adjusted the ways that we are being
programmed in every moment, making sure that we could more accurately and
reliably make sure that our brains are being programmed to follow our hearts,
rather than the other way around.
The healing process has been about reclaiming our energy into ourselves,
transmuting the fear into love, and learning how to safely project this new
love energy out onto the outside world, making sure that we are always
fueling this cycle of love instead of fear.
- Step #6: Learning how to stay in the present moment.
- Now that you know how to deal with negative emotions, how to transmute
negative energy when it comes up without fear, and to listen to our hearts…
- The next step was to learn how to let go of the past and the future when making
choices.
- By staying in the moment, we learned to let go of judgment, guilt and shame from
the past, and how to let go of worry, stress and overwhelm about the future.
- In the present moment, you are generally safe and taken care of, and it is only
expectations about the future or judgments about the past that cause us pain.
- By learning how to focus only on your immediate decisions, emotions and
sensations, we learned to let go of imaginary fear and suffering.
- Step #7 - Taking a higher perspective.
- By reminding ourselves that we are actually multi-dimensional, spiritual beings
having a human experience right now, and by learning to look at life through that
lens, we added the ‘cherry on top’ of our emotional healing ,by recognizing that
anything we are still left worrying about is nonsense from that higher perspective.
- The specific goals, attachments, desires and expectations we have don’t mean
anything.
- It is only the ego that is afraid and attached.
- From the perspective that we are all on the path of growth and evolution to our
best selves, the actual timeline, the actual outcomes, the actual results... Don’t
matter at all.
- With this ‘cherry on top’ combined with the rest of our inner healing… you should
have nothing to truly worry about, ever again, for the rest of your life!
OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER… BRING YOURSELF BACK TO
THE NOW MOMENT AND TO YOUR EMOTIONS. NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!
DON’T FORGET THAT OR GET DISTRACTED FOR TOO LONG!
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DON’T SKIP THE IMMEDIATE EMOTION OF FEAR, STRESS OR WORRY
ABOUT THE FUTURE BY LOOKING FOR OUTCOMES OR FOR PROBLEMS
TO SOLVE. IF YOU ARE ABLE TO REMAIN HAPPY, CALM, PEACEFUL AND
PATIENT IN THE MOMENT, THEN YOUR POTENTIAL OUTCOMES DON’T
TRULY MATTER.
What to do when you get triggered:
- Step #1 - Remember, Notice and observe.
- Catch yourself in your negative thoughts, cycles, patterns, etc…
- CONGRATULATE YOURSELF FOR CATCHING IT!
- There is no such thing as failure, or success by noticing how you can improve.
- Give your brain a cookie by congratulating yourself and being happy about
catching yourself.
- Step #2 - Find the Feelings
- Remember that the thoughts you have in a moment of being triggered are
nonsense.
- Your thoughts are being manipulated by your emotions and sensations in that
moment.
- Your brain has switched to fear mode to cope with these uncomfortable emotions
and sensations.
- END THIS CYCLE by focusing DIRECTLY on the uncomfortable things you are
experiencing, WITHOUT NEEDING TO TRANSLATE THEM INTO THOUGHTS.
- Step #3 - Subconscious healing:
- Apply Ho’oponopono or ‘I love myself and I am beautiful’.
- Make sure that you are focused on the feelings inside of you, not just the words.
- With these simple phrases, you force your subconscious mind to process and
release the unresolved emotions that - until now - you had been running from by
allowing your conscious, fear-based mind to try to solve the problem.
- Step #4 - Conscious healing work:
- Now that you know how to better respond to your emotions in the moment (and
now that we have broken some barriers and built some emotional muscle), it’s
time to start the real excavation process of clearing away all of the surface level
mind trash and heart trash that’s been keeping you down.
- USE THE MIRROR EXERCISE!
- You will need to use this exercise plenty for a few months at least when you start
this process, but you will eventually be able to focus on it less, once you’ve
cleared away enough trash.
- Step #5 - Adjust your choices for love.
- Make sure that you now start using unconditional self love (including the ways
that this necessitates you loving others) as your overall guide for living your life.
- So long as you stay in the present moment and use love as your motivating
factor behind all of your choices, you will never truly go wrong and not invite
anything into your life worth ‘suffering’ over.
THERE IS ONLY FEAR AND LOVE!
- When you allow fear to motivate you and guide your actions, you program your brain for
fear in all moments, and you will never live in peace and in love.
- Make sure you choose love in every moment possible.
- Love sets you free. Fear keeps you prisoner.
HEALING IS A PROCESS!
- Don’t worry about exactly where you are on this healing journey right now.
- EVERY SINGLE TIME that you choose to confront your fear instead of reacting to it and
responding outwardly, you gain that extra bit of muscle, and clear away a bit more pain.
- It is a matter of constantly improving, until your average emotion and state of
consciousness is above the line of 3D worries and suffering.
- If you just keep moving… one foot in front of the other… you WILL get there.
- Every moment of fear is a step in the wrong direction.
4 - Childhood Regressions Self Hypnosis
- You DO NOT need to do this right away. Watch the video. Do the prep work. But wait
until you feel ready to really do the exercises.
- Why we saved this until the end:
- We’ve been excavating and building muscle this whole time.
- By now, you have the skills, tools, foundation, stability, and muscles necessary to
finally tackle these things.
- This shouldn’t scare you by now, and you should be even somewhat excited to
do it.
- Confronting your demons can be painful, but it can’t hurt you, and it’s the only
way to heal.
- Not necessarily doing all the healing during the session.
- Partly just uncovering the wounds
- Repressed memories a little.
- Moreso about the repressed emotions.
- For the most part, it’s not about things you forgot, but about reconnecting
to the lost emotions that you have stuffed away in connection with the
memory.
- A significant amount of the actual healing around that emotion might
happen after the session.
- Either directly after, or just in general once this emotion has been brought
to the surface.
- Don’t focus too much on doing the healing, just relax, let go, and
see where the exercise takes you. It’s not a ‘working’ exercise. It’s
an exploration exercise.
- By now, you shouldn’t be afraid to explore and discover.
- YOU ARE SAFE! Your emotions and your memories can’t hurt you.
- Experiencing pain - in a safe space - is actually the goal, and it will feel
awesome to release it.
- Can and should be almost excited to discover the pain and cry or scream
it out.
- Trying to come to a better understanding of how this repressed emotion is
connected to and playing out in other areas of your life.
- Might want to work backwards from your later years.
- From the outside in, not the other way around.
- But the choice is completely yours.
- Also, you won’t be able to completely choose.
- Choosing Your Audio:
- Find your videos in advance.
- Michael Sealy - highly recommended.
- Choose a voice and a narrator that works for you:
- Male vs female.
- Does the voice resonate and make you feel safe?
- With or without background music
- Balance of voice to music.
- SOUND QUALITY is important!
- Don’t want anything to distract you or take you out of the
moment while you are in it.
- Appropriate length (45 mins to 75 mins).
- Don’t listen through the whole video yet.
- Want to be fresh to it when you go in.
- Even though you can use it multiple times.
- Check the flow and the timing of the instructions.
- Use your heart radar to decide which to use.
- By prepping this all in advance, you will be able to let go more during the
exercise.
- During the exercise, don’t overstress following or catching every last phrase of
instruction. Let go. Follow the experience.
- Even though it’s hypnosis, you are safe to come out of it whenever you want. You
won’t get stuck in it.
- It’s just a state of deep relaxation.
- Preparing for the experience:
- 1 - Find a safe space:
- The ability to feel comfortable letting out all of your emotions is crucial.
- Bringing up emotions in a not safe space can get them stuck closer to the
surface.
- 2 - Decide if you want a sitter or someone nearby
- If you have a sitter with you, instruct them not to interrupt the process. Not
to touch you. Not to get in the way at all.
- 3 - Prime your brain for the experience:
- Get yourself into the memories, the time, the headspace…
- Remind yourself of this time period in your life.
- Old photos and home videos are a great way.
- Old music, TV shows, magazines, media, etc…
- Do a mental walkthrough (tour) of a space or experience.
- Home, School, Playgrounds, friends house, etc…
- Focus on both positive and negative memories as you do this
walkthrough.
- Dishes (food) and smells from a past time period can be helpful
- But don’t eat too much before this.
- Surround yourself with objects from this time period.
- Your mind knows it’s there, but it also carries energy that might
connect you to the past.
- 4 - Create a ritual experience around this:
- Candles, incense and anything else you might choose to do to set a mood
are helpful to train your brain to create this ‘timespace’ for the sake of this
exercise.
- 5 - Do this lying down
- Even if you’re great with seated guided meditations, you don’t want to
focus on posture at all during this experience.
- 6 - Create some set in time and set up your space.
- Deal with your environment (temperature, lighting etc…)
- Setup your youtube playlist.
- A short preliminary video.
- Some meditation music for after or silence.
- Make sure auto-play is off.
- Plant medicine with these sessions:
- Can be very helpful if you are already experienced with these things.
- Mushrooms or weed can help prepare your mind for this experience.
- Mushrooms in particular.
- Cacao or other spiritual plant medicine might be helpful, but only use
things that you are familiar with.
- They can help bring emotions to the surface and make you more
susceptible to hypnosis.
- But they might also distract you, so… know what works for you.
- Take your time when you are done this session
- Make sure that you have plenty of time available for this whole process,
before and after.
- Treat this as a ritualistic event. Not something you’re doing on the
fly in between other responsibilities.
- Follow your intuition as to when this will be best.
- Be gentle with yourself.
- Make sure to drink water and rest after.
- A cleansing shower or salt bath (epsom salts) is recommended as
well.
5 - Past life Regressions
- Doesn’t matter if you believe in past lives or not.
- Just a way of allowing your subconscious brain to give you guidance and
messages in indirect ways.
- Also, even if/though past lives are real (I firmly believe they are), it doesn’t matter
whether the memory you are getting is real.
- Can be used for basically anything that isn’t specific to childhood (though may
bring up things from your childhood as well).
- You can use this for specific topics, like:
- Romance
- Money
- Friendships
- Sex
- Career
- Cultural heritage.
- Self expression, etc…
- Adapt our ‘prep work’ from the childhood regression sessions to fit for a particular
subject that you think you want to tackle.
- Choose mementos, memories, times, etc… around a specific theme in
your life that you want to work on. Use those for your prep work.
- But… don’t worry if the memory or experience that you have is not specifically
relevant to that.
- Overall, we are just trying to bring up anything unresolved to the surface to be
dealt with.
- Don’t forget to do all of the same kind of prep work in choosing your audio and setting up
your space and all that.
- Try to recognize any patterns that you might still be playing out in this lifetime.
- For me - I recognized issues about assuming other people’s stories, overreacting
to my own imagination, and taking too drastic actions in the name of love.
- Ancestral Trauma
- Passed down through DNA but also more generally just through actions and
behaviors.
- You don’t need to go hunting into past lives to heal ancestral trauma… just by
doing all of our regular healing, we are in fact healing ancestral trauma within us.
- But, these past life regressions will certainly help.
6 - Rewriting Negative Beliefs Exercise
- Can be used for all kinds of limiting beliefs - from money, to relationships, to self-esteem
and anything else that has been coming up for you in our other work.
- Limiting beliefs are the main crux of what holds us back in our lives.
- We cannot truly achieve what we don’t believe is possible.
- We need to extend our beliefs of what we believe we can achieve, so that we can take
true, inspired and guided action towards those outcomes.
- How the exercise works:
- Step 1: Write out your limiting belief (ex: money is dirty), on a piece of
paper.
- Step 2: Actively focus on feeling the energy and the emotion of that
statement while you write it.
- Understand and identify the lack of self love, the fear, doubt, guilt, shame,
etc… that is involved in this belief.
- You do NOT need to analyze where this belief came from. Simply
understand how unhelpful it is.
- Step 3: Skip some space on the page and write it out again… and again…
and again… and again… until you fill up the page or as many pages as you
feel is appropriate for you in this moment.
- Step 4: Once you have written out and felt the negative belief enough times,
go back to the top of the page.
- While feeling the release involved, cross out the first instance of the belief
that you wrote.
- Revel in the sensation of releasing that belief from yourself.
- Then, underneath… write out the positive opposite of that belief (ex:
money carries with it the energy of love and gratitude).
- Do that for every instance of the negative belief that you wrote.
- As always, focus on the feelings of release and the positive vibration of
love associated with the new positive beliefs.
- Step 5: Do this as many times as you feel is necessary, until you feel a
sense of completion or release.
7 - Important Notes Moving Forward
- 1 - You are now more susceptible to the flow of energies, so be prepared.
- You will truly need to be following your heart more, because your defense
mechanisms are a little lower and you will be more sensitive to things that are not
in alignment with who you are and where you are meant to be going.
- At the spiritual level, you will be more susceptible to collective energies and
negative/toxic people.
- In the long term, you will learn how to maintain your self-love while interacting
with people lower down on the emotional spectrum, but until you MASTER this
stuff, you are a little more sensitive.
- 2 - You’re not meant to be invulnerable to negative energies, just to not be held
back down or fooled by them when they happen.
- You will still have down moments. Don’t imagine that you will be happy every
moment of every day for now (or ever really).
- 3 - It’s going to be harder to communicate with people who aren’t aware of this
stuff.
- Most people are still asleep, unaware of their own defense mechanisms and lack
of self love.
- It’s going to be harder for you to ignore or not see this stuff in other people.
- Learn how to put up boundaries against that which doesn’t serve you.
- Focus on YOU rising as much as possible.
- Don’t be afraid to move on from people who aren’t working on themselves.
- Some plants die when you put them in direct sunlight, and they won’t like you for
it. Just keep rising. Let them go with love and compassion.
- Don’t expect those you leave behind to eventually regret their decisions
- Firstly, they won’t realize and change their minds in that way.
- Secondly, that urge is simply a symptom of anger and judgment in you.
Any remnants of that energy in you are things that you still need to heal.
- 4 - You have a responsibility now.
- Firstly, please remember that it is not your job to heal everyone you meet.
- Share your wisdom with those who seek it, for everyone else just shine
your light.
- You can’t explain to a blind person what red is.
- You can only guide people to these discoveries by maintaining unconditional self
love in yourself.
- Don’t slip into savior mode, martyr mode, or ego mode.
- Just be the light, and let others find their way on their own.
- Your self love will inspire others.
- 2 possible reactions to your new light:
- They will be inspired and want to follow.
- They will be triggered and push you away (your light will sometimes
trigger other people’s demons).
- BUT… learn to tell the difference between triggering people with your
light, vs. triggering them with your ego because you now think you’re
better than them.
- You are NOT better than anyone. At best, you are simply further
along in your journey.
- Empaths vs narcissist - it’s unfortunately up to the empaths to keep doing
the work, because they are the ones capable.
- People you don’t realize may be watching online. Be aware that you might
be having more of an impact than you realize.
- 5 - Finding your purpose:
- You can’t force it.
- All you need to do is keep working on yourself and following your intuition. The
rest will happen on it’s one.
- Don’t get distracted trying to now go back into the 3D world and forcing results.
- You MUST keep bringing yourself back to your inner journey, and letting things
happen naturally (while taking inspired, divine action at the right times).
- Over and over and over and over… just bring yourself back to your emotions and
your healing and let the journey and the path reveal itself naturally.
8 - Brain Food Diet Reminder
- Just a quick note…
- Don’t ignore or slip up on your ‘brain food diet’ as you move through with your
life.
- You truly do create your reality in more ways than you realize.
- As you move on to the next stage of your life, it is very important that you
carefully pick who and what you allow into your life as influences.
- Every moment of everyday you are programming your brain for what to believe and how
to perceive the world.
START TRULY DECIDING THAT YOU WANT BETTER FOR YOURSELF!
- You’ve put so much work into improving your inner world and right now, wouldn’t
you rather devote yourself a little more fully to completely upgrading the rest of
your life also… over and above slipping into old habits that are just going to keep
you down?
- At least for a while I highly encourage you to decide that you truly want a better world for
yourself.
- Fill your days with motivational videos, books, and other.
- Fill your days with spiritual reminders and perspectives.
- Fill your days with productive activities as much as you can.
- Start noticing how certain people are dragging down your energy and choose to create
more space.
- Basically, after all of this work you’ve been doing in your inner world, don’t let
yourself slip into unhelpful outer habits that are going to counteract all of the
amazing positive changes you’ve been making in your life.
- Even if it’s just for a brief period of time - until you arrive at a better place in your life that
you truly want to be at - commit yourself to a more disciplined way of living right now,
that will continue to program your brain for the best version of yourself and of this world.
Choose carefully, and don’t underestimate the influence
of your daily brain food diet.
9 - You’re not done yet!
- 1 - This course was 2 things:
- 1 - A compressed inner healing journey that should have provided you an
immense amount of healing in a short amount of time.
- 2 - Your new guide for life. The set of tools, skills and muscles that you need to
be implementing and practicing every day from here on out.
- You can't just ignore these tools and skills moving forward now.
- It’s all about practicing unconditional self love each and every day of your
life.
- 2 - This course contains a LIFETIME’s worth of wisdom, and going through these
videos once is absolutely not enough to absorb and learn the full scope of all the
lessons involved here.
- You will need to go through many of the videos many times.
- You will need to go through the entire course a few more times over the years to
come.
- 3 - There is no such thing as being ‘done’.
- If someone asks, ‘what do you do when you’ve finished the shadow work but are
still in pain…’, they clearly haven’t understood what this is all about.
- There’s a difference between being invulnerable and being completely
untouchable by pain, struggles and challenges.
- How will you know when you’re pretty close to having mastered these things?
- When you stop asking that question and are able to just live your life, constantly
bringing yourself back to your emotions over and over and over.
- When you are able to stop asking the question of ‘when will I have these things
that I think I want”.
- The goal is to be able to just stay in the moment and in self love.
- Remember that this ENTIRE life is about the journey of self-becoming.
- Earth is a school for the soul.
- You can’t take your 3D stuff with you, but the inner growth is what follows
you out of this lifetime.
- Story of the foreign student.
- Goes to study spirituality, but gets caught up with making money
that he can’t take back home with him.
- Enjoys his time, but goes home with nothing, having not
accomplished what he went there to do.
- This is how our souls are with this life.
- We come down for spiritual growth and evolution, but often get
caught up with the 3D world and forget to accomplish our true
goals of self-actualization, purpose and fulfillment.
- 4 - You are your own guru and teacher at this point.
- You have the skills, tools and lessons. But you need to keep teaching and
guiding yourself.
- That being said, don’t be afraid to keep reaching out for help, to me or others.
- True strength involves knowing when you need help.
- 5 - Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop
wood, carry water.
- Or, similarly… even enlightened people still need to do laundry.
- In other words… you still need to live in this world. There will still be challenges
and 3D tasks and responsibilities.
- The challenge is to stay in the vibration of pure love and in these grand life
lessons while living your regular 3D human life.
- Mountains are mountains and rivers are rivers…
- 6 - Extra tough love notes:
- I might have been a little easy on you throughout this course, but now it’s time to
give you a little kick in the ass.
- If you haven’t been doing the exercises… if you haven’t been trying to remind
yourself of this stuff every moment of every day, you will not get the benefits.
- You MUST put in the work.
- Now that you’ve gone through the course once, you have the foundational
knowledge of all of this, and I went easy on you so that you would keep moving
forward. But if you are still struggling, now it’s time to get motivated and truly
commit yourself.
- Take some time, then go through the course again, and really commit to
implementing all of the tools involved.
- THIS STUFF JUST WORKS! But… only if you make it work.