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Draining the Trauma Pool.
Draining the Trauma Pool. The unresolved emotional energy behind things like anxiety and PTSD isn’t stored in neat little packages. Trauma is energy. In moments of emotional turmoil, the body has certain ways of purging and processing emotions. But… because we have never built the skills, tools, and muscles to do that properly, because…
Read MoreTimeline for Healing Anxiety and Trauma
How Long Does it Take to Heal? The paradox of healing anxiety, trauma, depression, etc… is that it’s about escaping the fear of just being at peace with where you are. Sometimes people have specific expectations of being able to heal within a certain amount of time. We’re in pain, obviously, because of the unhealed…
Read MoreYou WILL Keep Growing!
You WILL Keep Growing! As you release your trauma, triggers and defense mechanisms, you’ll grieve old versions of yourself. A phrase I use often is that “If you’re doing life right, you will always look back at yourself from a few years ago with a bit of embarrassment.” Now, ‘embarrassment’ may not be…
Read More5 Steps to Healing Trauma and Anxiety
5 Steps to Healing Trauma and Anxiety. The journey to emotional mastery doesn’t have to be complicated or take forever. The full healing journey that we are on, which will bring us to the ultimate self-love, confidence, compassion, patience, and strength, requires a lot of learning and perspective. We need to be able to see…
Read MoreCovering Up Negativity with Gratitude
Covering Up Negativity with Gratitude. You can’t just paint over your emotional pain and defense mechanisms. Gratitude is a beautiful thing. It can carry us through our dark times by helping us refocus our attention away from what we don’t have and remember all of the things that we do have. It can give us…
Read MoreEmotional Kung Fu
Emotional Kung Fu Learning emotional mastery is a lot like practicing martial arts… Even in your very first martial arts class, you’ll learn how to throw a basic kick. The sensei will show you the proper stance, how to position your body, and the right way to move your leg. But just ‘knowing how’ to…
Read MoreDrop the Emotional Weight
Drop the Emotional Weight. The unresolved emotional energy exists in the here and now. Time to drop the emotional weight. The body naturally knows how to purge and release emotions that are appropriate in the moment when something causes us pain. The problem is that – over the years – we start being hurt…
Read MoreWhen You Hold In Emotions.
When You Hold In Emotions. Repressing emotions to avoid pain leads to defense mechanisms that cause long term harm. In so many ways, the body has everything it needs to heal, whether that be physically or emotionally. When it comes to emotions, the body has natural ways of dealing with emotional energy. Crying, screaming,…
Read MoreThe Issue with Overthinking
The Issue With Overthinking. Constant worry and overthinking is a defense mechanism. The thing with overthinking is that it’s our mind’s foolish way of trying to keep us safe, but it’s aiming at the wrong issue. The things you’re overthinking aren’t the real problems. The real problem is just a feeling of being unsafe that…
Read MoreEmotions Trump Thoughts
Emotions Trump Thoughts The subconscious cycle between thoughts and emotions… A lot of people talk all the time about how your thoughts control your emotions, and… sure… There is certainly truth to that. If you’re constantly telling yourself that you’re no good, that life sucks, that you don’t deserve love, that things will never get…
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