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Fear as Motivation.
Fear is Not the Best Motivator. The trauma response of fear is often used as our motivation for success. It can work for a while, but… Recently, I was having a discussion with a client who is FINALLY learning how to escape fear and live from a place of inner peace and self-love after a…
Read MoreDon’t Focus on Specific Trauma
You Don’t Heal ‘Specific Trauma’. Emotional trauma builds up collectively, not in neat little piles. Imagine that you had 10,000 people lined up to punch you in the arm. When the first person punches you, it doesn’t leave much of a mark. By the 10th person that punches you, you start developing a bruise. By…
Read MoreEmotional Healing is an Art.
Emotional Healing is an Art. All of the logic in the world won’t solve the problem until we learn this… I’ve been saying for years that emotional healing is NOT an intellectual activity. Sure, our minds need to be involved in some way. There are some things we need to understand so that we…
Read MoreHolding in Emotions: How trauma gets stored.
What Happens When You Hold In Emotions? Emotional energy needs to be purged and processed. In so many ways, the body has everything it needs to heal, whether that be physically or emotionally. When it comes to emotions, the body has natural ways of dealing with emotional energy. Crying, screaming, shaking, laughing, etc.… These…
Read MoreFear vs. Discernment.
Fear Vs. Discernment. The actual emotion of fear doesn’t help us navigate the danger in our lives. At the core of my work helping people master their emotions so that they can enjoy life to its fullest, there are a few core concepts, which, in many ways, are actually the same thing. We…
Read MoreStop Trying to ‘Silence the Mind’.
Stop Trying to ‘Silence the Mind’. There’s a paradox with trying to ‘silence the mind’ in order to obtain inner peace. Many of us have become convinced through high-end, esoteric spiritual ideas that the goal of meditation is to ‘silence the mind’ or to be able to ‘focus on nothing at all,’ but that’s not…
Read MoreTime Alone Doesn’t Heal.
Time Alone Doesn’t Heal. Healing trauma, anxiety, depression etc… certainly takes some time. But you can’t just wait it out to heal on its own. We’ve all heard the expression that “time heals all wounds.” While there is some truth in that statement, I think there’s also a falsehood that leads people very far…
Read MoreThe Pool of Unresolved Emotions
The Pool of Unresolved Emotions Emotional trauma blends together over time. Very often, people come to me asking how they can resolve the trauma caused by a handful of very specific events that happened in their lives. They believe – possibly due to misconceptions of a traditional talk therapy approach to inner healing – that…
Read MoreSelf-Loathing Gets Us Nowhere
Self-Loathing Gets Us Nowhere. High expectations, perfectionism, and the urge to stuff away the uncomfortable parts of ourselves… Do you ever find yourself getting mad at your bad habits or uncomfortable emotions? Maybe you have a negative thought. Some judgment about someone you love, for example, and you know that’s not the way you…
Read MoreAnxiety Isn’t a ‘Curse’.
Anxiety Isn’t a ‘Curse’. Sometimes it can be good to bring spirituality into our healing. But… Not always… If I were to say to you that anxiety ‘isn’t a curse’, your first interpretation might be that I’m saying that it’s not really all that bad or that maybe it has some positive elements to it.…
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