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Drop the Emotional Weight
Drop the Emotional Weight. The unresolved emotional energy exists in the here and now. Time to drop the emotional weight. The body naturally knows how to purge and release emotions that are appropriate in the moment when something causes us pain. The problem is that – over the years – we start being hurt…
Read MoreWhen You Hold In Emotions.
When You Hold In Emotions. Repressing emotions to avoid pain leads to defense mechanisms that cause long term harm. In so many ways, the body has everything it needs to heal, whether that be physically or emotionally. When it comes to emotions, the body has natural ways of dealing with emotional energy. Crying, screaming,…
Read MoreThe Issue with Overthinking
The Issue With Overthinking. Constant worry and overthinking is a defense mechanism. The thing with overthinking is that it’s our mind’s foolish way of trying to keep us safe, but it’s aiming at the wrong issue. The things you’re overthinking aren’t the real problems. The real problem is just a feeling of being unsafe that…
Read MoreEmotions Trump Thoughts
Emotions Trump Thoughts The subconscious cycle between thoughts and emotions… A lot of people talk all the time about how your thoughts control your emotions, and… sure… There is certainly truth to that. If you’re constantly telling yourself that you’re no good, that life sucks, that you don’t deserve love, that things will never get…
Read MoreDropping the Emotional Calories
Understanding Emotional Calories The body stores unresolved trauma and emotional energy just like it stores unused calories as fat. In a recent post, I wrote about how trauma is energy, and I wanted to expand on that a little bit. As I mentioned, in moments of emotional distress, when we don’t feel safe to…
Read MoreThere’s No ‘Quick Fix’ to Emotional Mastery.
There’s No ‘Quick-Fix’ to Emotional Mastery. Expect the inner-work to be a marathon, not a sprint. I know… when we’re suffering in the moment, we just want it to end as quickly as possible. And yes, there are ways to soothe the suffering in the moment, and there are methods that lead to results quicker…
Read MoreDeal with the Present Moment
Address the Present. Past Trauma Reveals Itself In the Moment. When it comes to emotional healing, most people think that we need to dig deep into our past and unearth every painful memory in order to heal. They think that healing trauma means focusing on the traumatic memory itself, replaying it, and analyzing it. …
Read MoreThat’s Not the REAL You.
That’s Not the REAL You! Trauma and fear shape who we are in ways we never notice. When we’re young, way before the age where our memories start to stick, we go through experiences that shape us. We experience some pain and learn to avoid it. We receive praise for something and learn to double…
Read MorePeople Pleasing is SELFISH!
People Pleasing is a Defense Mechanism. It’s not altruistic. It’s a trauma-based defense-mechanism you’re using to avoid dealing with your pain. One of the most common issues of self-betrayal that I help my clients deal with is people-pleasing. It’s practically a pandemic these days—putting other people’s needs ahead of your own to earn approval, avoid…
Read MoreKnowing is Half the Battle.
Knowing is Half the Battle. In order to heal trauma, anxiety, stress, fear, etc… we need to become the conscious observer of them. For my fellow 80’s kids, you may remember that phrase “knowing is half the battle” from the GI Joe show, and it’s still applicable for us in our lives with this inner…
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